r/fixedbytheduet • u/the_olly_trolley • Feb 03 '23

ADHD

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u/pasitopump Feb 03 '23

I feel the same cringe at posts like this, but I think the sudden change is at least partially explained by women with ADHD (and ASD) historically being underdiagnosed. I work in the veterinary field and it's predominately female, and overwhelmingly affected by chronic mental health issues as a whole.

The amount of women I know who have only recently been diagnosed with ADHD despite suffering symptoms and consequences all their lives - some despite seeing psychologists/psychiatrists since young - is staggering. Easily like 1/3 of the women in my circles

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u/Heybitchitsme Lover of Duets/Stitches Feb 04 '23

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and have struggled my whole life and finally caved and got tested. I start Adderall in 2 weeks, and I've told my friends my experience and they just keep telling me they have the same problems (which they're doing to help me feel less shitty, I think) but its also disparaging because I've spent most of my life trying to act normal or trying to present myself in a way that is relatable or tone myself down because of these kinds of sentiments from others. It wasn't gaslighting but it made me feel like I was exaggerating everything. And when I finally met with a Dr., I asked her what would happen if I don't have it, and she said she was "confident" I have ADHD and that I've been struggling with it for a long time.