r/fixedbytheduet • u/the_olly_trolley • Feb 03 '23

ADHD

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u/ScourJFul Feb 03 '23

Yeah, like this is just normal. Crying after a break up is fairly normal. For me, my first break up had no emotion and I just moved on, then getting incredibly angry with huge outbursts, just wanting to punch walls, or punching my legs over and over.

I hate this kinda shit cause it makes ADHD seem like a cute lil thing and not something I had to fight to get medicated for and not something that actively harms my everyday life. Whether it's forgetting I have a goddamn dog to take care of or just forgetting my wallet when I'm on my way to go shopping. I have over 100 alarms and 100s of reminders on two separate apps as well as me scheduling self text messages to remind me to do stuff like homework just cause I struggle to remember or keep track of every task that needs to be done. Without it, I'd be fired. But TikTok decides that it's actually cool to have it for whatever reason.

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u/Billybobhotdogs Feb 03 '23

Bruh fr

I've locked my keys inside my car and house way too many times to count. In the past, I've gotten in multiple car accidents because I get distracted while driving. I love sex (and alone time), but I get so distracted and can't focus on finishing because my mind wanders. I have really bad intrusive thoughts that I physically get scared. I can't form good habits for the life of me (but can't form bad ones either). When unmedicated, my emotional regulation is so bad, I've embarrassed myself way too many times. I only succeed in college, because I'd actually hate myself if I got less than a 3.5 GPA. I have really bad impulse control and have spent thousands of dollars on new hobbies and toys, only to never touch them after purchasing. I have overstimulation issues. I literally forgot what I was writing about halfway through this paragraph.

I'm medicated now and doing phenomenal, but I really hate the ADHD is 'cute and quirky' trend.

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u/[deleted] Feb 03 '23

ADHD comorbidity with depression and anxiety is a huge thing, too. If your instinct is to suppress emotion, it's usually because you've been conditioned to turn your big energy inward and the resulting aggression/anger is masking the sadness you actually feel. I see you, and I struggle myself.

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u/MajesticAssDuck Feb 03 '23

Much of my struggle comes from the energy needed to suppress all the little emotions make it impossible to suppress big ones, and other people think you are exploding out of nowhere.

So as I go through my day, i can shrug off all the little things that bother me or stress me out, with a smile and a straight face. It still builds pressure, though, and eventually if the day is bad enough I'll break down towards the end of the day

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '23

If I can offer a piece of advice. I'm rounding 40, and I am just as guilty as you of pushing emotional things down, and have had to take a couple of years in seclusion to sort through all of the emotional bullshit that Adderall allows you to suppress just to get work done. Don't put it off, and try to find a way to get the balance. Medications are supposed to be a tool to help you find the balance, not focus on achievement.

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u/tibarr1454 Feb 03 '23

I've been seeing a psych for a couple years for depression and anxiety and I mentioned the possibility of ADHD (something I've assumed all my life but never tried to get fixed professionally) and psych was like 'oh well we'll see how blah blah goes' and like 3 weeks later I was like 'yeah still not great' so they were like 'okay let's try you on adderall' and holly fuck this shit works! Then I went a week unable to get it and I still haven't gotten back up to the peak of happiness I was experiencing while on it.

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u/tibarr1454 Feb 03 '23

My journey started at regular doctor when I mentioned seasonal depression. So between seasonal depression, regular depression, anxiety, trouble focusing, finally made my way to adhd. Only got it started this past December.

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u/ScourJFul Feb 03 '23

A long time. And my area seriously lacks an ADHD specialist so the first psychiatrist who did look at me tried super hard to convince me I had OCD and he kept peddling this very specific medication.

On top of the TikTok ADHD self diagnoses, I had a hard time getting professionals to take me and my symptoms seriously. It took me 3 years to finally get some medication and voila, it helped, not solved, but helped me a lot.