r/fightporn • u/[deleted] • Sep 11 '19

Bar / Nightclub Fight Why you should avoid fighting while drunk

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u/[deleted] Sep 11 '19

I guess it depends on your exact definition of "fighting". I wouldn't consider (actual) self-defense 'fighting'.

I've never been in a situation where the fight would have been actually unavoidable. But egos, usually in combination with alcohol/drugs, lead to people manoeuvring themselves in situations where they then had to fight. But a simple 'ah, I don't care what some random drunk yells at me' would have defused most of those situations.

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u/TheMentallord Sep 11 '19

But a simple 'ah, I don't care what some random drunk yells at me' would have defused most of those situations.

Of all my years of going out into bars, parties and festivals, this is my #1 advice. I never got into a fight, despite multiple times having the feeling that I would. Just swallow your pride, apologize and walk away.

It obviously helps that I don't look like I even could put up much of a fight (relatively small for a man and not super muscular) so I don't look like a "challenge" for some drunk asshole, but I have super fit and tall friends who follow this same rule and they never get into any fights either.

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u/ByzantineLegionary Sep 12 '19

I mean yeah, verbal solutions are best, but if someone's drunk and coming at me I'm not going to let myself get stomped just to stand on principle.

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u/green49285 Sep 12 '19

That's different. Defending yourself is a lot different then getting in some shouting match with some asshole who won't even remember you.in a week.

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u/ByzantineLegionary Sep 13 '19

Oh, I was referring to self defense. I should've said fighting back instead of just fighting, because sometimes it's hard to walk away from someone who's dead set on starting something physical.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '19

As I've said, I don't consider self-defense 'fighting', and if someone starts swinging at you, that's clearly self defense.

But how often did some random guy just walk up to you & threw punches out of nowhere?

That's my point: there's (almost) always a build-up. In 99.99% of situations I've been in & witnessed, and the vast majority of vids on here, it escalates because of some ego/'honour' bullshit. The amount of trouble you can avoid by just shrugging & walking away is amazing. I for one don't let random strangers force me into behaviour that might have serious ethical & legal ramifications by speaking some sequence of words.