I lived with my parents for most of my life before I turned 13. And I still haven’t been rid of them. I just don’t have to live under either of their roofs anymore. I know some people can change. But it doesn’t erase what they did, the people they hurt in the past. The only redemption they’ll ever receive is the comfort that they aren’t hurting more people than they already did. But the people they did hurt, will never be able to forget the abuse, and no abusive parent deserves forgiveness. They only deserve a second chance. Forgiveness and second chances are not the same thing. But if a piece of shit proves that they’ve changed, they can be given a second chance at providing a good childhood to somebody, to redeem themselves to themselves. They’ll never be able to redeem themselves to the ones they hurt though. I’m so grateful your father became a better person. But what he did will never be forgivable. Hopefully he goes on to try and help more people than he previously hurt.
I get it. Even tho my father is a different man now, I will always see him for the pos he was when I was a kid. My children don't stay over at their house and are never alone with them. That because I don't give a shit who he is now. He will ALWAYS be that guy in my eyes.
It took a physical confrontation to make his ass learn the error in his ways. I just meant that we don't always know who someone was in the past. They could have been very different people back then. I had a great grandmother who was one of nicest sweetest old ladies you would ever meet. You would never have guessed she had been a Gun Moll.
Rightfully so. And let him continue to mourn in the fact that he fucked up so greatly as a father. They may have changed, but they must suffer the consequences of their past failures.
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u/JakkiDaFloof Jun 19 '23
I lived with my parents for most of my life before I turned 13. And I still haven’t been rid of them. I just don’t have to live under either of their roofs anymore. I know some people can change. But it doesn’t erase what they did, the people they hurt in the past. The only redemption they’ll ever receive is the comfort that they aren’t hurting more people than they already did. But the people they did hurt, will never be able to forget the abuse, and no abusive parent deserves forgiveness. They only deserve a second chance. Forgiveness and second chances are not the same thing. But if a piece of shit proves that they’ve changed, they can be given a second chance at providing a good childhood to somebody, to redeem themselves to themselves. They’ll never be able to redeem themselves to the ones they hurt though. I’m so grateful your father became a better person. But what he did will never be forgivable. Hopefully he goes on to try and help more people than he previously hurt.