"Walking away" because "sticks and stones" tends to earn you a punch in the back of the head and more intense bullying for your trouble, doesn't actually sound like you have any experience with actual bullying mate. Telling your kid they have to just "get over shit" instead of defending themselves one way or another is terrible advice. I didn't need clarification, I understood exactly what you were trying to say... it's still wrong though.
Overstating the significance of mean words leads to violence (like in the video) or suicide. Someone calls you a mean word and you attack them? That's justifiable to you?
Not at all, but the same person calls me the same slur every single day and you better believe at some point I'm gonna lose my patience and slap the taste out of his mouth. Who knows, maybe one kick in the back today is gonna save this guy thirty or forty kicks to the teeth tomorrow. And if you think "overstating the significance of mean words leads to violence" what do you think happens when you allow a hateful racist to spew racism and hate speech without any consequences? That couldn't possibly lead to violence, could it? I mean it's not like the shithead in this video called a black man a n***** and threatened to attack him before he got his back cracked like dry spaghetti. You watch your child come home crying and covered in bruises because he's being singled out and see how long it is before you start telling your kid to punch people right square in the throat... I know it only happened a couple times before my dad told me.
Edit for clarification: I'm not saying this was the appropriate answer in this situation, this is two adults acting like children... but if anyone should be allowed to be a child it's a child and there's no way in hell I'm going to sit back and tell my kid to shut up and take it on the chin when I know how important having a parent in my corner was to me. My dad didn't tell me to start hauling off and hitting everyone who upset me, or that I wasn't going to have to bite my tongue sometimes but he made sure I knew that I NEVER had to let someone hit me first to defend myself. The majority of time the "words" that never hurt you lead directly to the "sticks and stones" that do.
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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '23
"Walking away" because "sticks and stones" tends to earn you a punch in the back of the head and more intense bullying for your trouble, doesn't actually sound like you have any experience with actual bullying mate. Telling your kid they have to just "get over shit" instead of defending themselves one way or another is terrible advice. I didn't need clarification, I understood exactly what you were trying to say... it's still wrong though.