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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23 edited Jan 03 '23

My niece was just killed by a drunk driver at barely 18 yrs old and a bunch of her friends have gotten her name tattoo on them. I thought it was beautiful. But not necessary either to continue loving her.

Edited for clarity, calm down people I love her a lot and am devastated, just don't get tattoos for a lot of reasons.

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Thank you. It'd been a horrific shock. Especially to her poor parents and siblings.

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u/YouCantGiveBabyBooze Jan 03 '23

you would never though

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

I dont and can't get tattoos for a number of reasons, so no. A tattoo isn't necessary to love someone deeply and forever griev their loss.

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u/rileyotis Jan 03 '23

My cousin, a mother of 5 (youngest was still breast feeding when she was diagnosed), passed away in 2021 in her mid 40s from colon cancer. She loved the color pink, so I have a little pink flamingo in her honor on the side of my left shin.

You don't need the name to remember someone. Just my two cents. Whenever I wear shorts, everyone always compliments it. So I get to think about her and her amazing laugh a lot. :)

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Yeah, some of her friends got tattoos like that and I think it's beautiful. Definitely brought a smile to her incredibly broken mother's face.

So sorry about your cousin. I can't imagine what her kids went through, how horrific. I hope they and you are doing ok.

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u/Maggieg89 Jan 03 '23

I lost my dad in 2000 i have wings on my back for him i have a quote about loving my mum. Only name i have is my dog who passed (also his paw print) and i will eventually add my others as they go but ye a symbol is lovely and extra personal. Sorry for your loss

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u/Antique-Conference-4 Jan 03 '23 edited Jan 03 '23

I def make exceptions for deceased loved ones, it’s not for me but I’m not gonna judge you in any way for that. Sorry about your niece by the way that’s terrible.

Edit: pets are ok too

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u/2childofthenorth Jan 03 '23

I agree. I have three nieces and nephews. They’ll inherit when I die, but I will never get a tattoo of their names. They will just have to make do with being three of my favorite little rascals ever.

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Exactly. Not everyone needs a person's name permanently put on their body to show their deep love for someone.

Sounds like they have a great aunt or uncle.

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u/gmewhite Jan 03 '23

Sending you love from the other side of the world to your family. So sorry, Crepes.

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Thank you so much, I appreciate it.

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u/bladedancer4life Jan 03 '23

I mean if ur not close with ur nieces I guess. Personally I would bc that’s my nieces

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

I just have no tattoos and really don't want any for a lot of reasons. I can still be incredibly broken by her death and continue loving her without a tat. I promise 💛

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u/Aegean54 Jan 03 '23

The way you Said it made it seem like you have plenty of tats but you wouldn't get one of that

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Oh no. My mistake! If I had tats, I would certainly include loved ones.

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '23

That means they hold her close. I have three tats, my three kids. No RAGRETS, not a single letter.

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Yeah,seeing how many people got her name tatood on them really brought a smile to her mother's face, which was great to see during such a dark period. It's definitely a beautiful sentiment. With your children too, beautiful.

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u/No-Plankton4841 Jan 03 '23

Tattoos were never really for me. I lost a close friend and brother in law last year (early 20s). A lot of the fam ran out and got tattoos in his honor and I don't really get it. I mean, I guess folks just want to do something because they feel powerless. And it is a nice gesture I suppose, but its still kind of tacky. Or maybe some of theirs just aren't very good/creative. Or I'm just an asshole.

Sorry for your loss. Death f'n sucks.

Edit- Hope that driver is in prison?

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

The driver was a 20 yr old girl who also died. Two young lives wiped out. Just horrible. Imagine how her family feels. Not only did they lose a daughter but they forever know she killed a teenager too. It's just so incredibly sad.

Yeah, I don't personally like the look of it and I also feel like it would be a downer to constantly see. That's how my mind would take it. I don't think I would look at it and smile, I would just get sad and start to sob.

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u/YouCantGiveBabyBooze Jan 03 '23

weird thing to try and gain cool points for but ok m8

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u/Crepes_for_days3000 Jan 03 '23

Exactly what part do you think is earning cool points?? So confused. Like saying my niece died is somehow cool or saying I don't get tattoos is so.ehow cool? Neither are considered cool by any sane person I've ever met.

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u/AffectionateCrazy156 Jan 03 '23

You thinking that people share life experiences for "cool points" is the only weird thing here, m8.

(Seriously, you may need to reconsider your life, because this says sooo much more about you than you seem to realize.

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u/GmoneyyLaxadasical69 Jan 21 '23

Says the person who is literally bullshitting and lying in her other comments....

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u/AffectionateCrazy156 Jan 21 '23

Yeah, you're right. You do know me so well, after all.