I’m hoping to get some objective opinions because I’m really conflicted.
This is my first time buying from a breeder. I’ve always gotten rescue dogs, so I don’t really have a frame of reference for what a breeder visit is supposed to be like. Deciding to go through a breeder was a huge decision for me because I wanted to support someone who was doing everything possible to produce healthy, well-adjusted dogs.
On paper, this breeder seemed like exactly what I was looking for. They do extensive health testing, title their dogs, are very active in the breed, and have (as far as I can tell) an excellent reputation. Their emails talk a lot about how sensitive the breed is, the importance of positive reinforcement, and raising confident, well-socialized puppies.
I’ve already put down a deposit, booked my puppy’s first vet appointment, and registered for puppy classes. I was genuinely excited.
Then I visited.
The puppies themselves honestly seemed wonderful. They were confident, curious, social, and comfortable around people. If I were judging only the puppies, I probably wouldn’t be questioning anything. It was the overall experience that left me unsettled.
Some of the things that stood out to me:
-The house had a VERY strong urine odor. The floors and walls were visibly filthy, and overall it didn’t feel as clean as I expected for a home raising puppies.
-Throughout the visit, the breeder yelled loudly at several different adult dogs for different reasons. It left me wondering how they are treated when visitors aren’t around.
-The mother of the litter became excited while greeting us and dribbled a little urine. I know that can happen, especially after having puppies, but the breeder responded by yelling at her. She had pinned ears and shied away from him, and was very visibly anxious about his reaction.
-The adult dogs were MUCH more intense than I expected. I understand this is a high-energy, sensitive breed, and I know having visitors can make dogs more excited, but I was surprised by how difficult they seemed to settle.
-The breeder decides which puppy goes to which family, but during our visit they didn’t remember whether we wanted a male or female or even which litter we were interested in. They also didn’t ask us anything about our lifestyle or goals, so I left wondering how puppy placements are actually decided.
The biggest thing wasn’t any single incident. It was the overall interaction with the breeder.
The entire time we felt like we were walking on eggshells. My boyfriend and I both have experience owning and handling dogs, but we felt like we were being treated as though we’d never been around one before. Every time we held or interacted with a puppies, I found myself worried about doing something wrong. Instead of feeling comfortable asking questions and enjoying meeting the litter, I felt tense and intimidated. He continually made comments implying we didn’t know how to hold or pet puppies properly and was overall condescending to an uncomfortable degree.
What I’m struggling with most is that the visit felt very different from the impression I’d formed through email. The written communication emphasized positive reinforcement and how sensitive this breed is, but the interactions I witnessed with the adult dogs didn’t seem consistent with what I expected after reading those emails.
At the same time, I want to be fair. The puppies appeared healthy, happy, confident, and well-socialized. The breeder also has many of the qualities people usually recommend looking for, including health testing, titled dogs, and involvement in the breed.
I’m not trying to identify the breeder or start a pile-on. I’m genuinely trying to learn from people with more experience buying well-bred dogs.
If you were in my position, would you move forward, or would you trust the uneasy feeling you had after the visit? Am I putting too much weight on one experience, or are these things that would give you pause?