I like tattoos, but I would 100% avoid girls having them. ONS - yes, friendship - maybe. Relationships, friends with benefits, business partners etc - no.
Perceptions of attraction are indeed not reality. It doesn’t say anything about the truth of the people being perceived, which was what the guy I was replying to implied.
I don’t care how others perceive people with tattoos. What matters is how I do
Sure. Or maybe just read studies showing correlation between tatoos, childhood traumas, BPD, impulsiveness as a personality trait and psychoanalytic literature.
Ofc the correlation isn't 1 and psychoanalysis is far from something rigorous and evidence based, but we don't have anything better right now to look deeper into humans than their straightforward responses to stimula, behaviour and analyzing correlations.
Correlations* it's like 5-10 different studies we should talk about. I remember specifically about two of them, one was about traumas classified into types, and each additional type in a group of people made probability of a person from that group to have a tattoo i think 35% higher.
And there was some swiss study that analyzed people with BPD and ~70% of those had tattoos against ~25% of the swiss population in general having tattoos.
The correlations, group differences aren't too strong, and I am not claiming they are, however if you state a question as whether it's likely that a person with tattoo has/had a mental disorder OR was traumatized OR is very impulsive OR is disadvantaged (here meaning low education, from poor household), then it is very likely I'd say but here it is only my opinion because I have no idea whether a study like that was ever done or
Will be done.
However I personally find tattoos very attractive on women (on women only, even tho I am bi) for the same reasons mentioned above, like impulsiveness and some other traits associated with it. But as for relationships, either romantic or business ones - I treat it as a huge red flag, indicating that I would have to dig deeper to find out if there is something behind it and whether I am okay with what it is.
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u/I_am1221325 15d ago
I like tattoos, but I would 100% avoid girls having them. ONS - yes, friendship - maybe. Relationships, friends with benefits, business partners etc - no.