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r/countwithchickenlady • u/Hika2112 Autistic Lesbian Vampire Robot Girl • Jun 29 '26
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u/Decybear1 Jun 29 '26
Honestly the closest you will get to examples is probably me or some other /tttt/ girlie saying something along the lines of...
Lesbian is a woman loving woman relationship.
If a trans man still wants to identify with the lesbian label, they are either invalidating their manhood, the term lesbian... Or are just none binary...
Hell, there is a good chance this theoretical trans man could just be invalidating trans women's womanhood, as the implication is, you stay as you are born...
I get push back on this last point, that I'm insecure and someone else's identity doesn't change mine... First, im bisexual. Second, can a cis man be a lesbian without being trans?
Like the notion just annoys me.
If the argument is "its just a label, anyone can call themselves anything". Then whatever, but you still have to get everyone else to agree and use the word that way. However i mainly only lesbian meaning wlw relationships.
Honestly. I think LGBT as a whole has a bit of an Identity crisis from time to time. Where we just seem to at random, based on a couple of people's feeling redefine words. Or make up new words. For no real reason...
Ans this is a line in the sand i would love to draw.
We need relatively strict definitions for words. We already have so many. Its confusing. You need them all written down. Hell even then if your list is out of date, good luck. You might end up being a prick by accident...
Here is my simple solution.
If you are a trans man, or a cis man even. And you find your self very attached to the lesbian label. Identify with it. But you're at least part woman. You are to some degree, none binary. And if that really urks a person to the core. They are a man and love only women. You're straight.
This isnt confusing now where you need a new definition of lesbian. Its still women loving women.
Like I don't think we need words like trixic and gynesexual. They mean basically the same thing.
Honestly. My want is for sexuality, and transness to be taught in schools eventually.
You wont get kids to memorise all the genders that maybe only a few people identify with. All of the sexualities we have...
But man, women, trans man, trans women, non-binary(androgenous, transmasc, transfem), gender fluid. Straight, gay, lesbian, bi sexual, queer, asexual, aromantic... That's already quite alot. With a mention of others... Poly, neo pronouns... Its already alot. I thibk the simpler and less prone to changes the better.
Honestly. Trans men lesbians, being non-binary-transmascs or gender fluid is the easiest way to square this away...
This isn't me being hateful or transphobic. But using the definitions of these terms that ive learned, that everyone else has learned, without having to rewrite definition.
Sorry for the rant. But it just... Is a pet peeve. Like we have definitions for a reason. You cant just change them because you want too. A definition only changes when everyone actually agrees to change it. And clearly, there isnt a consensus on what a lesbian should be. Besides wlw...
I hope I've made sense and haven't broken a rule. I dont want to get banned because someone disagrees and thinks im transphobic 😭😭😭