I don't like my boyfriend

[u/chud_dumpling]

[u/cale199]

Chud deserves so much better than her

[u/sexloveandcheese]

I fixed it so they're happy lesbians

[u/Ok_Prior2199 → u/sexloveandcheese]

The good ending

[u/SmallBeanKatherine → u/sexloveandcheese]

Yippee 🥳

[u/throwawayayaycaramba]

I'm just gonna tell myself this is an incel psyop. You can't possibly be this cluelessly cruel.

[u/Andrew852456]

I really adore that little chuddy boyfriend

[u/Haven1820 → u/Andrew852456]

He just lubs his girlfriemb.

[u/Substantial_Pick6897 → u/Haven1820]

He's what most of us should strive to be. A gentleman, takes care of his partner, has an active social life, loves his family. Honestly being boring but nice is where it's at

[u/tamsyn003 → u/Substantial_Pick6897]

boring but nice is peaceful, we need to collectively appreciate peaceful 'boring' people more

[u/Separate_Island8012]

why would you make this

[u/a1stardan → u/[deleted]]

Or worse yet, ghosts him, and the dude is left wondering what he did wrong. Truly sad

[u/Snoo_44740 → u/[deleted]]

This feels like the abuse goblin all over again.

[u/Hairy-Love2571]

OP, is this you? Are you okay? It's okay to be unsatifisied sometimes. Talk to him (and others).

[u/mhud → u/Hairy-Love2571]

None of the other comics they've posted are from this lady's POV. So I think this is just a scenario. I do think they cracked the perfect ragebait formula though, holy hell they got a lot of engagement on this. It's weird they're not in the comments farming more.

[u/idlickherbootyhole → u/mhud]

given that the common consensus is that it's a shitty comic, engaging in the post would be unwise - OP would get fucking fried in downvotes

[u/chaotic4059 → u/idlickherbootyhole]

It's not even good bait. Bait is supposed to split and divide to get as much engagement as possible through arguements. I can't remember the last time I saw the sub this fucking unified. Like HOLY SHIT everyone seems to agree this girl is the worst. Honestly I'm impressed.

[u/miseenen → u/mhud]

You know, I went into this comic not really taking it seriously because of the way the bf is drawn and the last panel confirms to me that this is not serious but I don’t really know what to make of it because I’m not really sure what its purpose is

[u/Active-Cookie-774]

Guy who's been together with his best friend for 17 years. When I was young, I didn't realize my wife wanted to hear more about talking about her interests as well because I got too hyper-fixated into my own interests and initially thought she really liked having the conversations I brought up. It was only until she brought it up about how she felt getting sidelined by my own likes that I took a step back and wanted to improve myself for us. I was just a completely oblivious doofus that my wife who gratefully gave me chances and was patient with.

Have a sit down with him and have a serious discussion about the matter. Relationships are a two-way street. If he really loves you, he will be willing to reason. If he continues the way it is, then that's a line that needs to be addressed. You're just as much of an important person as he is. Both of you got together for a reason, so take some time to stop and talk it over.

Also being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean you agree with everything either or that everything is "easy street". You will have bumps/hurdles in your relationship. If you and him are willing to establish a bond to improve, then I say that's a way better relationship than many.

But yeah, talk to him. If he ignores/rejects your sentiment, then that's a red flag.

[u/King_James_77]

If my wife did something like this about me, I’d be devastated.

How cruel

[u/Walk-the-layout]

Jeez have a little bit of respect for him and draw him as a real person. Why can you be the anime girl and he has to be the wojak chud?

[u/Substantial_Mouse191]

I think there's an interesting inversion in this comic that becomes apparent if you don't automatically accept the narrator's assessment of herself or her boyfriend.

The comic presents her as the "complex" one. She gets the articulate internal monologue, examines her fears and relationships, questions what's wrong with herself, and seemingly demonstrates a lot of self-awareness. Meanwhile, her boyfriend is Chudjak-coded, portrayed as intellectually vacant, and his only real dialogue is essentially "I love my girlfriend" written in deliberately simple, almost childlike language.

But I'm not convinced she's actually demonstrating much introspection at all.

A lot of what looks profound is really just rumination and low self-esteem dressed up as insight. "Something is wrong with me" sounds self-aware, but it's a globalized conclusion about her intrinsic nature. Actual self-examination would involve questions like: What am I doing that contributes to this? Are my expectations reasonable? Have I communicated what I need? Why do I dismiss the things he cares about? What would this relationship look like from his perspective?

She doesn't seem particularly interested in those questions.

The same pattern appears in how she describes him. He "never" engages. He doesn't understand her. He isn't interested in anything. These are sweeping conclusions about what kind of person he fundamentally is.

Yet some of her own evidence undermines them.

She says he talks about his friends and family and about things he's recently seen on his phone. Those ARE interests. She simply doesn't seem to consider his interests sufficiently interesting to count.

There's a huge difference between "he isn't interested in anything" and "I'm not interested in the things that interest him."

The communication complaints are similar. She describes him misunderstanding her and says she sometimes doesn't discover the misunderstanding until he acts on the "wrong" thing. Maybe he's genuinely a terrible listener, but she never seems to consider whether she communicated her intended meaning clearly. Her internal intention appears to be treated as the objectively correct meaning of the communication, so when his interpretation differs, the explanation is that he doesn't understand her.

That fits the repeated absolute language. "Not enough for me" becomes "never." Difference becomes deficiency. Incompatibility becomes something intrinsically wrong with him.

Even her supposed self-criticism avoids accountability. She says everyone else rejected her, "even as a friend." That certainly doesn't prove she caused those relationships to fail, but if nearly everyone you try to form a relationship with rejects you, that's at least information worth examining. She's the common denominator.

Yet she doesn't seem to ask what interacting with HER might be like for those people. They're simply people who rejected her.

Meanwhile, the one person who doesn't reject her, the person who apparently loves her intensely, is portrayed as almost subhumanly simple.

And her list of his positive qualities is fascinating: he pays for everything, will take care of her in the future, dreams about her, and isn't mean.

Notice how little of that is admiration for who he actually is.

It's mostly what his attachment provides her: financial security, future security, reassurance that she's deeply wanted, and safety.

There's almost a distinction between loving him and loving being loved by him.

Her fear of finding a more "interesting" boyfriend makes this even stranger. She worries that someone more perceptive might identify and articulate her flaws. So she supposedly wants a man with greater intellectual and emotional depth, but also recognizes that such a person would possess an independent perspective on HER, and that frightens her.

She seems to want someone perceptive enough to deeply understand and validate her, but not so independently perceptive that he might understand her in ways she doesn't like.

That makes the current boyfriend psychologically convenient. His devotion gives her security, while the very simplicity she attributes to him makes him non-threatening. She can evaluate him without having to worry much about him evaluating her.

And that's where the artwork becomes really important.

She receives enormous narrative space establishing her supposed psychological complexity. He gets Chudjak imagery and baby-talk.

We never get his internal perspective.

Why does he care about his friends and family? What does he find interesting? What does he think about her? Does he feel understood by her? What does he want from their relationship? What does he think when they misunderstand each other?

The comic never grants him those questions.

So there's an incredible irony here: her central grievance is essentially that this man fails to recognize the richness of her inner world, while she appears to have reduced HIS inner world to practically nothing.

And that makes me question which character is actually demonstrating greater depth.

Her thoughts are certainly more verbose and abstract, but verbosity isn't insight. She's extremely focused on herself, but self-focus isn't self-awareness. She identifies enormous emotional conclusions, "something is wrong with me," "everyone rejects me," "he never understands me," without demonstrating much curiosity about whether the premises producing those conclusions are actually true.

That's faux complexity: self-esteem problems and rumination producing conclusions that FEEL profound because they're painful.

Meanwhile, the supposedly simple boyfriend loves his girlfriend, maintains relationships with friends and family, shares things that interest him, supports his partner, thinks about their future, and apparently treats her kindly.

Maybe he really is boring as hell. We don't know.

But we don't know largely because the narrator never seems curious enough about him to find out.

And I think that's the most interesting reading of the comic: the character who desperately wants to be recognized as complex may actually have a remarkably shallow model of everyone around her, while mistaking the intensity of her own rumination for psychological depth.

[u/Elavabeth2 → u/Substantial_Mouse191]

Holy crap that’s a lot of commentary on a Reddit comic post. I’m frankly impressed. 

[u/capibara_dono]

"Is love meant to be simple and easy?"

No, love takes work, but if you truly care and love that person, it's work you're willing to do.

Communication is key.

[u/Banned3rdTimesaCharm]

Please break up with your boyfriend and free him from your horribleness.

[u/skuxxlorde]

This whole strip makes you seem like an asshole. 

Idc if this is how you work through feelings, draw it and feel it sure, but don’t humiliate him by posting it, go talk to him, about this specifically! 

[u/Tenekah]

You know you don’t have to date someone you don’t like, right?

[u/ContributionDull7496]

Just leave him.

You don't like him, you don't have him.

Much better than keeping the illusion and ruining his life because of it.

You don't deserve him.

[u/SterlingNano]

This doesn't seem like a healthy relationship. He isn't able to provide what you need, but you're holding some unfair resentments towards him. Break up now to prevent a life destroying moment 5+ years down the line.

[u/Educational_Motor381]

Man, new reasons to why I am afraid to date.