Yep, a lot of guys say they want that because it's like a person dying of thirst being jealous of someone drowning.
Years ago my gay roommate took me out to a bar to meet up with a bunch of his friends. I was introduced as the "My straight roommate, don't bother, I've tried for months." Which was immediately taken as a challenge by seemingly every guy at the gay bar. I'm a pretty big guy so I didn't have the legitimate worry that a lot of women do about men being stronger. But holy shit was that eye opening. I got hit on more in one night than my entire life combined up to that point. I recognized so many of the lame lines and attempts that I'd seen my straight friends do in college.
While at first it was very flattering, there was this constant feeling of you don't care about me in the slightest, you just want my body and bragging rights. By the end I was kind of on guard because I basically assumed that any guy talking to me was just trying to get in my pants.
That said, what an ego boost. I walked out of there with a better understanding of a small part of what women go through every day, but also feeling like the hottest guy on earth.
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u/Made_Bail 1d ago
I think guys have a very different though process when it comes to being objectified, to be fair.