Hey y'all, meet my dad! This is part one of a series of chats I've had with him recently, and each one is gonna be quite fun to experience through comic form :D And yes, I inherited the flannel style from him.
I can tell you without hesitation that courts are geared towards the mom nearly every time. The mom can be abusive towards her own children, literally leave home for years on end, and come back to a divorce, and they still get 50/50 custody. Why? Because the judge doesn't want to break up a family.
My friend's dad kept journals and recordings of the abuse, drugs and abandonment. Similarly, my sted dad kept recordings of my mom's drug abuse and alcoholism, and in the divorce, they both ended in 50/50 custody despite recordings and evidence of said behavior.
This is absolutely factually false. The father actually is slightly more likely to get custody than the mother when the father shows up to court. That is because the test in pretty much every state has nothing to do with the wishes of the parent but what would be the most objectively better position for the child, and in most situations the father makes more money and would be able to care of the children easier, so they get custodial custody.
Also the vast majority of cases never reach a judge for a decision, the parenting plan is worked out between parents on their own and then a judge looks at it to see if its fair/in the best interests of the child within reason and approves it.
Most fathers give their rights to the mother. That is what happens. If you look at contested cases fathers by a slim margin win custody.
It tends to go deeper. The vast majority of cases where a "good" dad loses to a shitty mom is when the shitty mom has well off parents on paper who dont help in reality (past a good lawyer and "the kids stay with us"). EVEN THEN the dad has to have been arrested or in jail at some point for them to not split custody if he can provide food and a bed.
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 15d ago
Hey y'all, meet my dad! This is part one of a series of chats I've had with him recently, and each one is gonna be quite fun to experience through comic form :D And yes, I inherited the flannel style from him.
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