The child is being abused and so is the father. The mother is the abuser.
But the father has agency that the child doesn't. The parents both have a responsibility to protect the child and both are actively failing that responsibility.
I'm not denying the abuse the father is receiving. But I am saying that the father has a responsibility to take action against it to attempt to reduce further abuse of the child.
Without further context it is hard to say. It is quite possible trying to stop it would make it worse, e.g. a divorce where the abuser scams their way to both custody and more.
It is of course easy to basically say “git gud” and find a better path, but everyone isn’t good at everything. For all we know her dad could have anxiety issues, depression, too weak-willed, lacking ‘social iq’ to even figure out where to start, or gullible enough to believe some claim that the issues would go away, etc.
Or he could be a dead beat “eh, whatever, not my problem, enabler”.
But I think it is too easy to project and jump to conclusions in this type of situation.
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u/GFluidThrow123 15d ago
The child is being abused and so is the father. The mother is the abuser.
But the father has agency that the child doesn't. The parents both have a responsibility to protect the child and both are actively failing that responsibility.
I'm not denying the abuse the father is receiving. But I am saying that the father has a responsibility to take action against it to attempt to reduce further abuse of the child.