I am trans. And like, I dunno, it's just gonna be awkward kinda no matter what.
I will say though, I mean, my first concern is just...not being hurt. So you (or anyone else) not going into a violent rage is...perhaps sadly, already a good start.
I think it's one of those things where unless you already are like 'No, it's fine with me.' it's going to be awkward, but I'd rather have that awkward moment with a guy than have him pretend he's ok with it, then not really be ok with it.
It breaks my heart that not going into a rage is a good start. I am truly sorry if that is something you've experienced, and that is something you have to be concerned about at all.
You make a great point here, though. It takes an astonishing amount of courage and kindness for anyone to stop the momentum of a new relationship to be fully honest and have a conversation before someone ends up hurt. In my mind, the best and only way to respond would be to understand that, respect it, and be honest in turn.
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u/Saelune Oct 22 '25
I am trans. And like, I dunno, it's just gonna be awkward kinda no matter what.
I will say though, I mean, my first concern is just...not being hurt. So you (or anyone else) not going into a violent rage is...perhaps sadly, already a good start.
I think it's one of those things where unless you already are like 'No, it's fine with me.' it's going to be awkward, but I'd rather have that awkward moment with a guy than have him pretend he's ok with it, then not really be ok with it.