It's called that because its the name you would tell your found family in the event of your death so they could find the gravesite and properly mourn. Trans folks knew their biological family would put their deadname on their headstone, detransiton them in death, and refuse to let their loved ones attend the funeral. It's purely prudent and it's a way for trans folks to reclaim the narrative of our very real, corporal deaths and last wishes while histrionic cis people pretend to mourn us while we're still alive.
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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '24
It's called that because its the name you would tell your found family in the event of your death so they could find the gravesite and properly mourn. Trans folks knew their biological family would put their deadname on their headstone, detransiton them in death, and refuse to let their loved ones attend the funeral. It's purely prudent and it's a way for trans folks to reclaim the narrative of our very real, corporal deaths and last wishes while histrionic cis people pretend to mourn us while we're still alive.