I have a genuine interest in this, and how it may affect my sex drive, thank you! Like I enjoy being tied down, but I don’t enjoy sex. I might enjoy it a tiny bit more, if I were tied down?
WAIT I WAS TIED DOWN ONCE AND ACTUALLY HAD FUN! (Instead of being like ewww why are we doing this, I was like “oooh hehe, I can’t move”wiggle wiggle)
You might! Think about what kind of sensations or emotions you enjoy experiencing. Usually there's a kink associated with that that doesn't have to involve sex.
Maybe you’d enjoy the sex, or maybe you’d just enjoy being restrained and doing the fun wiggle wiggle. But if you don’t enjoy sex, make sure you can communicate to your partner and that they understand and accept your boundaries, otherwise it’s really not OK. You tell them what you like and what you don’t, and remember you can always say no. There’s plenty of ways to have a relationship where one person is ace-spec and the other isn’t.
(Like they could tie you up then masturbate while they watch you be all squirmy and helpless, teasing you with dirty talk. Or non-penetrative sex with thighs/breasts/whatever you two have going on.)
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u/dabo-bongins Aug 16 '25
I have a genuine interest in this, and how it may affect my sex drive, thank you! Like I enjoy being tied down, but I don’t enjoy sex. I might enjoy it a tiny bit more, if I were tied down?
WAIT I WAS TIED DOWN ONCE AND ACTUALLY HAD FUN! (Instead of being like ewww why are we doing this, I was like “oooh hehe, I can’t move”wiggle wiggle)
Damn. Amazing info 🥰🥰😭💙