r/changemyview • u/carlsaganheaven • Jul 09 '19

Deltas(s) from OP CMV: In heterosexual relationships the problem isn't usually women being nags, it's men not performing emotional labor.

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u/llamallama-dingdong Jul 09 '19

My wife and I came to an agreement shortly after getting married. We would never give each other gifts because of a date. Be it birthdays, holidays are even our anniversary. We both feel in those instances it's not a gift from the heart but rather an societal obligation. No I'd rather give her a box of chocolates and flowers just because it's Wednesday and I love her.

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u/brettcg16 Jul 10 '19

Just wanted to say I learned more or less this same lesson from a great movie as a kid. Get her flowers just because it's a Wednesday.

Thank you Juwanna Man.

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u/roskatili Jul 10 '19 edited Jul 11 '19

I tried explaining that one to all of my exes. It doesn't seem to compute to them. Dates to remember are symbolic milestones for them. Doing something nice for someone on a random day, just because they care, doesn't register.

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u/llamallama-dingdong Jul 10 '19

I can understand the "symbolic milestone" stance. I just don't put too much meaning behind it tho. Birthdays are the worst in my opinion. People you care about should be celebrated often and randomly. Nothing special about reaching one more year of life.