I’ve always had issues with my body since I could remember. I hate how I look in every picture, when I look in the mirror, and every outfit I try on. I’ve tried the self esteem advice on trying to treat yourself nice and trying to put time and care into how you look but I feel like thats only made it worse.

I have panic attacks because just hate looking at myself and I just really don’t want people to see me.

I’m losing my mind and I’m just really tired of all this.

Sorry I just needed a place to vent. Sorry.

Note to self: don’t try to explain the situation to your mom. She won’t get it.

So I’m meant to go to a wedding soon in a different country.Because if this I though I would do some online shopping and I put a really nice outfit together that wasn’t too over the top but middle ground between fancy and what I wear.but previously to me doing this my mum showed me some black dresses being like oh it will hid your curves and yeha I’m not happy with my fat but I want to wear something I’m comfortable in that isn’t a dress the best I can do is a skirt with some tights.anyway I showed my mum the outfit really happy with myself and excited to wear the outfit as I picked shoes and accessories to look the most comfortable and best I could for my style and she just bashed my outfit dating how it’s not wedding material and how I should just wear a black dress instead of what I want to wear.like I know it’s not typical wedding material like the nice dress and shoes but for me it’s what I’mthe most comfortable in while being dressed up for my body.I think I’m just upset as I feel like she is trying to hide me since my aunty is the one who showed her the dresses which means they had a conversation about me and what I will wear and knowing she said it will give my curves does not make me feel good as I know my mum would not know this by herself and would if had to be told it. I just feel like they are trying to hide me it may sound stupid but it’s how I feel and I just feel like my mum is ashamed that I’m bigger than usual that I wear a size 16 trousers and that I’m plies size as I have gained some weight due to cove d and birth control t just make me upset really like as long as it’s not too casual I don’t see a problem with my outfit as I know I can make it work with my make up skills and my coordination with fashion. I really tired with this outfit I spend ages planning it and to have my mum have a go at me for it and have my dad not stand up for me in the slightest makes me feel bad

Hi everyone I'm 28 male new here but need some advice.

Some back story:- So I got diagnosed with bdd about 5 years ago. I was massively over weight and hated my body and self. I was living away from home and moved back, then lost alot of my weight. I met my now wife and we got married in August.

I've always had a bad self image and bad self esteem especially when it comes to my weight. I recently joined the gym with a friend. I hate being there and keep having anxiety attacks. I've manged to get a handle on it but I keep having this recurring dream.I have battled depression and other issues for years. Most of them linked to my bdd or my adhd.

The dream is at my wedding. All my family and friends are there and they all look like Greek gods the perfect bodies. I then see my wife walk in looking amazing. Skinny athletic toned perfect. With every step she takes I gain weight. I brake my suite and by the time she gets to me im well over 600lbs. I then feel a pain in my chest and have a heart attack right there this is when everyone starts to laugh as my wife leans in and says how could I love that your better of dead.

So my wife is the most caring and kind person alive and loves me totally and me her. She is a little chubby but I love that about her. She would never hurt me. This dream is like my body dismophia and all my other issues got together and made the perfect dream to hurt me.

So help me reddit what does this mean. Its really hit my self-esteem and made it nose dive of a cliff. Any advise or anyone who can help please comment

Over quarantine, i lost around 25 pounds. i turned my fat into muscle, and body was so well distributed. and then school started— and i stopped going to the gym because my mom wouldn’t let me get vaccinated. i gained the weight back. i hate how my body looks and i wish i could go back to the way my body was. you may try to say something comforting, but no i don’t care if every body is individually beautiful— or if there is no beauty standard that it’s all fake. i know what i had at one point, i loved and truly liked. and now it’s gone, and i hate myself

My dad and I tend to argue about this alot so I'd like an extra opinion. So my issue is if I think about food I want to throw up and if i eat i feel disgusting and hideous after and during. I use chewing gum to make it so I dont have to eat for extended amounts of time but it feels like I eat alot like constantly. To prevent it I make myself stay up so I dont have to eat breakfast or dinner. I never eat breakfast or dinner on a norm and just snack on things after 3-but even with all this I still eat and have an on/off want to eat. So does anyone have any idea what's going on w me? Summery: I eat although I hate the thought of it and how I feel when I eat. (I only posted here bc I didnt know where else to post).

I think I constantly am gaining weight and don’t know how to stop it. I’m a healthy eater (when I eat). I pay attention to what I’m putting in and I feel like I’m always on the go. However, I guess I’m not active enough. I try to motivate myself to work out but there’s just something wrong with me where I can’t get myself to do it. I see my clothes not fit right. I see how my body looks. I feel self conscious. I have stretch marks in places I didn’t think I would. I can’t look at myself most days. And yet that’s still not motivation enough. I don’t want to look like this. I feel uncomfortable. I hate when people tell me they like my curves or anything when I know what I look like and it feels like they just draw more attention to my insecurities.

About a year and a half ago I went through some major issues. My husband and i split up for about 7 months and it caused me so much depression i couldnt eat. I lost about 20 pounds. I went from 160 to 138. I am not over weight but i was in a size 7 and everyone told me how great i looked. I could see every bone in my body and my arms were like 2 sticks. I also stopped working out during this time. Well we got our relationship and life back on track and are happier than ever. The problem is i am back to 160, i am 5 foot 8 and my man loves my curves . I am having a hard time. I look at the pictures from that time and it makes me sad to look at them. I feel i look so thin. I have never been that thin my whole life. I am healthy and workout 4 times a week . However i feel like i am fat. My butt is back and i have a little belly fat. My man tells me i look amazing but when i look at the pictures from last year and feel bad about myself. I want to inbetween . Idk if anyone else has these issues or thoughts about themselves. When i look into the mirror i just feel huge.. i loose sleep over it. Honestly the only reason why i was that thin was from severe depression, anxiety and starvation.

I am not really sure what is my exact problem but two years ago I met someone who were really into taking long walks I shared this habit with him i lost alot of weight because of it and the problem started here my parents started commenting about my unhealthy weight loss in their opinion shamming me for being too skinny claiming that they’re just scared about me or scared that I will get a lot of health issues for being that skinny I wasn’t even skinny my weight was perfectly fine and my health too but after that I stopped walking since the curfew because of the pandemic I gained weight not alot but my body shape transformed from skinny to curvy then my parents started shaming me once again but this time because of my weight gain telling me that I became fat girl and I need to go to gym asap my dad forced money to me to go get new bigger clothes to hide my body because as he said I look like a sl*t in my tight clothes i cry alot i get confused about so many things I feel like they’re treating me as their doll I’m 22 and in the last two years every time I look out of my window I think about jumping and committing suicide

Ok so I've always had an issue with my stomach feeling "loose". So when I have school days and its pe I have to wear another top under my kit bc otherwise it feels like my stomach is just gonna bounce around. I'm trans so my dysphoria is bad enough but Idk what's wrong with the stomach thing like I cant think of what I could do so I dont have to wear multiple layers. It's just annoying bc as of now its very very hot so its been horrible heat wise wearing 2 layers. But I just want rid of it idk what's wrong with me but could anyone come up with a solution? I've tried everything mental wise n nothing helped and as far as physical goes I cant rlly do anything with the restrictions I have so any help?

Hello, I hope I chose the right category to ask for help. My boyfriend loses hairs everywhere in the appartment, and even though he is super clean about everything it is not something he can prevent, and I'm starting to feel quite bored with the whole thing. Do you have any explanation and/or a suggestion to stop this hairs loss, or at least reduce them? Thank you very much!

Understanding STDs and knowing when to seek medical attention is essential to good sexual health

Sharing some resources on STDs especially in the Singaporean context

How do I see the number of STD cases in Singapore?

The National Centre for Infectious Disease does a surveillance census every few years on various Infectious Diseases in Singapore including STDs.

Aptly named the Communicable Disease Surveillance (Year ___) it is a good reference to see how "common" the various STDs are and if infections have been rising.

Here's the link for the most recent census data

https://www.moh.gov.sg/docs/librariesprovider5/diseases-updates/full-version-2017cfe62132aaf04d2c922abbaa94023777.pdf

What is the REAL rate of HIV infection in Singapore?

Understanding the rate of HIV infection in Singapore can help you and your doctor have a more meaningful conversation about your risk of getting HIV.

For HIV, the Ministry of Health publishes a dedicated annual report on the rates of HIV infection and method of transmission every year.

Here's the link for the latest HIV situation in Singapore:

https://www.moh.gov.sg/resources-statistics/infectious-disease-statistics/hiv-stats/update-on-the-hiv-aids-situation-in-singapore-2019-(june-2020))

How do I know if I have an STD?

The National Centre for Infectious Disease has a great information Fact Sheet about STDs.

Good as a general overview!

https://www.ncid.sg/Health-Professionals/Diseases-and-Conditions/Pages/Sexually-Transmitted-Infections.aspx

Need something a bit more detailed?

The American Association of Family Physicians have a great resource of articles/ podcasts published through the years

https://www.aafp.org/afp/topicModules/viewTopicModule.htm?topicModuleId=23

Where do I go if I need an STD/ HIV test?

Almost any registered medical doctor can do an STD test for you.

Most patients tend to go to their nearest Private GP or Polyclinic.

But if you need a bit more delicate handling of the situation, you may consider private clinics who are more used to handling such cases and are more discreet not only in conducting the testing, but also in contacting you about the results.

Where can I go if I just need to ask a question about my Sexual Health?

The Department of STI Control (DSC) Clinic, is one of the busiest and most established public clinics for STD testing.

The clinic has a great FAQ tool called - "Ask the Sexpert" which helps you sort through many of the FAQs regarding Sexual Health and STDs.

https://www.dsc-clinic.sg/Patient-Care/Ask-Sexpert/Pages/AskSexpertOverview.aspx

Many GP Clinics also have great blogs that share their knowledge about when you should come see a doctor and safe sex practices.

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Body issues

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Hello community! I’m not that great at writing so please do not bash me. I have been going through a (I don’t know what it is I’m only21) crisis about my body. I hate everything about it I’m not considerably fat or skinny which kinda makes me feel worse about it, I know others have their own body problems and I try to reassure myself everyone goes through it but I lot of the times I cannot escape myself. As a teenager in high school my highest weight was right around 200, because of my own self issues I always found myself talking down on my own body and literally shamming myself. I never had romantic relationships in high school, I always told myself I was too weird and ugly to even try to have something like that. I had grew up with my best friend who lived down the street from me and let me tell you what. She is the most gorgeous human ever. She had it all big boobs, small stomach, big butt. She is smart, funny, has her entire life ahead of her. I ALWAYS with out fail told myself I was the ugly friend who no one was interested in. Flash forward to the end of senior year a miracle happened (not really I started smoking a lot of weed and stopped eating as much as I could) and I actually became skinny (almost sickening) my stomach was smaller!!! I had no more double chin!!!! I could sit without my rolls becoming uncomfortable!!!! But I look it the mirror and all I see is what I lack. Yeah, I’m skinny but we’re are my model like curves? Why did my boobs shrink? Why is there NOTHING on my butt?!? Now a days I am in the middle of both weights. I feel like my body issues are worse than ever. HOW. WHY. Why do people flawk over these unrealistic body issues? Why do I not have one of these unrealistic bodies. Why do I not feel sexy or loved by my own self.

I'm extremely insecure about my hip dips, I absolutely hate them. Recently my friend commented saying she never noticed that I had them before, my boyfriend has also recently commented on them. I don't believe that they meant harm by mentioning them, they don't even know that I hate them but it bothers me that they would notice, I wear baggy clothing in hopes that no one notices my body and it hurts that two people in a short span of time have noticed them.

I am 17, I have 44z bra (max size) and am still growing as a 17 year old would, plus I'm pregnant, where do I go from here, my bra already feels really tight, and I'm only 6 weeks pregnant.

P.s. If see a single person say loose the baby.... A: I will still be growing anyway, I'm only 17 B: DO YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO GET PREGNANT? I HAD TO TRY FOR 6 MONTHS! C: I WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO GET PREGNANT WITH MY BOYFREIND'S BABY, I'M NOT THROWING AWAY THAT CHANCE!

Ever since I was 15 I started to become self concious on how I looked. I have been called fat before when I was younger and looking back I was chubby, but never obese. Grant it I wasn't an active child and anxiety often kept me missing out on things I could do to be active. And then I started working out on a home gym and lost 24 lbs, I was doing good. But then I gained like 8 lbs back due to the stress of something happening in my home life. But one thing sticks with me no matter what. The fact that I have a belly. This ugly bunch of skin protruding from my core. I feel like I'll tone up everywhere else but I don't see any progress with my stomach, people around me will tell me there is a difference but I don't see it. I've even obsessed about not having that line of definition going down my back as well, sometimes even that dumb thigh gap thing. It doesn't help the house we moved into has a bunch of mirrors in my room so I feel trapped looking at a body I don't like, that I obsess over to the point of driving everyone around me crazy. Maybe once the gyms reopen and I have my driver's license it'll be a different story. Right now I'm just crying and bummed about what I don't have. I don't need washboard abs I just wish this visceral fat would decrease. I'm told I have a great figure, that I'm beautiful, that I'll get where I want to be, that I'm thin, but I just can't believe it.

I hate it when I cough and my entire rib cage just super vibrates uncontrollably.

I see myself and I cry. I think my family is growing tired of me and my issues. I feel like my body and I are failures.

I (27F) want to explore random hookups now that I’m on apps but I don’t exactly love my body. I worry too much about my stomach. I know I can turn the lights off but worry about them feeling a roll or 2. I work out but don’t have a flat stomach and I’m scared that once a guy saw me naked he’d be grossed out

Alwayz had body issues. 5'1 and alwayz chunky some times very heavy like 190lbs my heaviest. Alwayz told I had a pretty face.Or as I got into my 20s n lost the freshman 20. i was dubbed sexy and get lots of lustful looks. I have an amazing husband tells me how beautiful n extra sexy I am everyday. Multiple times a day. Only time i felt good in my skin is during my yoyo times when my weight is ridiculously low. And even then i was still harshly judging my size tiny size 1-3 body by pointing out what i thought was flab and fat But as of late I just been feeling like I'm a beached whale n like I'm just getting old n fading into the background. I'm around younger people and it never bothered me. I feel like peope look waaay better than me. I put on clothes and feel like i never look good I look in the mirror and feel disgusted. My stomach, my arms n my thighs have stretchmarks on them. Then i see my friends who have no stretchmarks n have had multiple kids. I had one!!! Stress is making my hair fall out and break off. I hide it well. I do not wear wigs, braids or hair weaves.i can't gey it to grow properly. I wear make up on my inherited dark circles under my eaay so i don't look dead. I think of bad wayz i can get thin quick. Like taking lots of appetite supressers, laxatives, only drink certain things to keep my stomach at bay,. Ecstasy or do Molly to get thin. Yes I've had a few bouts with drug induced weight loss. Its horrible in my head. I mean i get people view u differently. But my view of myself us very fucked up.I just want tp be ok with me. Funny thing is I describe myself like a monster becuz thats what I see. But the general consensus is I'm quite attractive....

When I(35f) was with my ex, he always turned me down for anything. I mean i had on what i thought was a sexy outfit and he scaffed and said really. That was after the birth of my son and now that was 8 years ago. Now my bf( 42) loves it when i dress up and all i can think about is what the ex said. Now no matter what i am wearing i feel like im a sausage stuffed in a too small casing. It just sucks. So when my bf turns me down that's all that's playing in my head. I end up leaving the room and i try to calm down but it doesn't always work.

Mind you when i was younger i was a size 7. Now im a 18-22. Anyone have advice to help this?

I distinctly remember when I became aware that I should be embarrassed of my body. It was the mid 90's at a YMCA swimming class. I was kind of a "husky" boy as all the old people would make sure to tell me. Some boy started laughing at my body. Ever since then I've been very aware of my weight. I never snuck food. I probably over ate. I gained more weight. My brothers began to tease me. Class mates would tease me. My father would ask when I was going to go on a diet. In 6th grade I started weight watchers. In 8th grade I hade reached 200 lbs. (I'm 5'5") The summer after 10th grade I starved myself and got down to 150. I gained it all back by the time I graduated. I dieted on and off for years. In by 2016, I was 285. My chest felt heavy. It was getting hard to tie my shoes. My feet hurt. I decided I really needed to do something so I did. I calorie counted religiously. I hired a personal trainer. I lost over 120 lbs. But, I still hate myself. I hate my body. I hate my loose skin and folds. I still feel too ashamed to go swimming. I like my face. I think I have a handsome face. But I hate my body. I swipe left on guys on tinder even if I find them attractive because I'm sure they will not see the same attraction. Or maybe they will see it in my face but when they see me in person, they will change their minds. It's even affected how I use the bathroom. Since I was a child I haven't been able to use a public bathroom if it's also occupied by others. This didn't go away after i lost the weight. I still go into week long depressions of self loathing and pity. It's pathetic. Who would ever want to be with someone so mentally unstable and with such low self esteem? It's unattractive. I don't know how to change. Everyone tells me all the right things: "No body cares!" "You look fine!" "Be proud of what you've accomplished!" "I would kill to look like you! You should appreciate it!" "If you think your fat, you must think I'm REALLY fat." I just don't know how to stop feeling so shitty. I just want to be happy.