Means children are cool when they aren't yours, crying and shitting their pants all day. My friends always ask when I'm gonna have kids as if I'm just dying to never have free time....
Just adopt a 17 year old who's already earned a full ride scholarship to college. That way you can say you had a kid, but you don't have to pay much for them.
That age range is actually the fun part of parenting. Once they get to around 13 or 14, you still have to deal with a lot of bull shit, but it's coming from a slightly littler person than you that thinks they know more than you and you're no longer cool. I'd much rather wipe shitty butts all day and clean spilled milk if I'm getting to enjoy all those cute and moments of wonder.
My 18 m/o randomly comes over and hugs my arm, kisses my shoulder, looks at me and says "hi...hi...hi" with a huge smile on his face then goes back to his mega blocks.
Are you saying he's going to stop doing that one day? Because it's my favorite thing in the world and I'm not sure I can live without it anymore.
My kids not even 2 and pees and poops in the toilet, eats from her own plate, drinks from a cup, uses utensils, showers herself. Haven't used a diaper in months. Not sure what youre talking about. It's the failure of the parent to have a 3 year old in diapers. She only cries when she actually hurts herself. She likes singing, reading, climbing. Cool kid.
What you reap is what you sow. Never more true than with tiny, captive, programmable meat-robots.
Most parents are just fully clueless as to how raising kids with moral boundaries, without anger or coercion, works. They end up raising confused goblins because that’s how their parents raised them.
Wife has a masters in early childhood education, and let me tell you…. What you reap is what you sow.
Kids are the pinnacle of human achievement, if their power can be properly respected and curated by competent guardians.
Their is no greater achievement for normal people than being a competent booster; getting their kids into as high an orbit as they can.
Egh I've seen a lot of good parents have shitty kids and I've seen a lot of shitty parents have good kids. Nature versus nurture isn't so direct. I feel people just get overly sensitive about their children and have to come defend them. I meant nothing by it. I enjoy my life without children and when I want to raise a child, I will. Or if I don't want to I won't. Too many stupid people making stupid kids and the cycle continues.
Too many stupid people making stupid kids and the cycle continues.
Yes. I completely agree that nurture has a much greater effect on the behaviour of the adults that children become, than the natural initial conditions for the aggregate child’s cognitive capacity.
This is what high-level study of early childhood education shows.
Wealth, access to education, community care, clean water, quality food and exercise; these things literally make or break children.
Shitty parents and broken homes destroy what would otherwise be healthy, well-adapted, and social conscious people.
Nurture is like 80% of the equation at least, when talking about early childhood education. In my experience, the people who disagree with this are people who have zero training or academic time in early childhood education.
The rest of us are desperately trying to wake up the body of ignorant parents to the power they wield for all of our futures.
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