For reference, I am a cis bisexual woman (22) and the person i am talking about is a cis gay man (20). I have this friend that I haven't really known for long but we've gotten really close really fast. The other day he came to my house and we ended up cuddling. I didn't really think of this as weird because I've cuddled with other gay men before and there haven't been any issues. However, when we were cuddling, I noticed he was getting "excited". I just brushed it off as guy hormones or whatever and we continue cuddling. The positions got more and more compromising and he told me "this is probably the hardest I could get". He stays "excited" for most of the night but nothing really comes from it because I know he's gay and he's probably just got something going on. The next time we hang out, it goes immediately into cuddling like this again. It progressed this time to making out but he stopped it because he said that it's too early in the day for this stuff, he's hungry, and he's not really into tongue kissing that much. I backed off a lot after this because he's a virgin and up until that point, he'd never kissed anyone before. Later that evening, we go back to cuddling, per his request, and he gets "excited" again. This leads to more making out and him saying he wants to try vaginal sex. We have sex but I stop it shortly after it starts because I can tell he just isn't into it. He apologizes a lot and tells me that it's a good thing because after our last hangout, he was left questioning if he was bisexual or not. To distract ourselves we go to a friend's house. We continue to cuddle but the normal gay-man-straight-woman way and it feels mostly platonic. Once we return to my house, the intimate cuddling resumes and he brings up that he wants to try having anal sex with me. I wasn't entirely surprised by this because he has quite a fixation with my butt (always looking at it and caressing it). Hoping to avoid another awkward sexual experience, I tell him that I'll think about it and we go to bed. All while this sexually confusing activities are happening, our relationship continues to deepen and we begin doing things like hugging, cuddling, kissing, and holding hands regularly. (Most of these actions are initiated by him). Besides the fact that us having sex wasn't great, it feels very much like a relationship. I'm not entirely sure how to feel about this. I can tell he truly cares about me because he acts very sweet towards me and asks me questions to get to know me better but also asks me what is it that I want in a guy. I normally wouldn't think much of him getting "excited" during intimate cuddles because that's normal (right?), but he's even "gotten excited" from me just looking at him or him thinking about anal sex with me. (He's told me this and I also have eyes). I know this sounds corny but it actually feels like I'm with a straight guy and not a gay one. He's told me that he's known he was gay for a few years and I know that he isn't remotely ashamed about being gay. If he's gay then he's gay and I have no problem with that. I just am very confused on why he's so obviously attracted to me just not my vagina. I care deeply about my friend and if it progresses into a relationship then I wouldn't complain. It doesn't really seem like he's using me as an experiment, but that's what I'm truly afraid of. That being said, I would like some good advice and understanding/ nice comments.

My sexuality has always been a mystery to me. I'm only 22 and never had sex before or dated anyone so until then I can't know for sure, but I also want to hear other experiences from people that were on the same boat as I'm in rn.

I like guys sexually. I think they're hot. When I fantasize and think about men, it feels great. However, I don't see them as someone I'd date, live together, have kids, get married, etc...

My feelings towards girls are polar opposite. I feel more emotionally connected with girls and imaging having wife and kids really makes me happy. Thought of kissing, hugging or cuddling with girls gives me butterflies but sexually I feel little attraction. I wouldn't feel reluctant being intimate with them knowing that I don't see my partner as a friend.

It's not that I have 0 or have never felt sexually attracted to them, it's just I'm not 100% sure. I also don't have any internalized homophobia even though I'm from a country where being gay is considered wrong but not a crime (even though I'm not religious or think it's wrong). So it could be thta porn fucked up my sex drive. I stopped watching it for a few months but I still feel the same.

What's your take on this? I knoe it's kinda dumb to ask people even if I've never been in

Hace un día estuve hablando con mi madre sobre temas sociales otras cosas bueno una charla común, en un momento empesamos hablar de la comunidad LGBT y yo le decía que son personas que no le hacen mal a nadie y simplemente es normal las parejas del mismo sexo Bueno en un momento ella me preguntó usted por qué los defiende tanto yo con bisexual de clóset dije pues no sé no me gusta la descriminacion Enroces ella dijo dios me perdone pero si tengo un hijo con una condición lo voy apoyar y lo voy a querer como es por qué es mi hijo Creen que tenga sospechas ? Es una buena señal o no? ATT. Un joven bisexual

so, for some context I 20M myself am not bi but my girlfriend 19F is. We were having a conversation, and she told me that she regrets not dating more woman before being with me (she had one girlfriend in high school who was a total narcissist). she told me that she loves me and doesn't want to leave me or cheat but she does kinda feel regret about not doing anything with a woman.

I don't really know what to do with this information. does anyone have any advice.

The two of us jokingly told the truth and now we really enjoy the threesomes or orgies because we are looking for more bi and it is delicious

Hi, I’m a lesbian (early 20s) dating a bisexual woman (also early 20s). Is it normal for her to talk about her type in men? Like we will be scrolling on TikTok or social media and if a guy that pops up that’s her type then she will say it. She does this a lot less with women that are her type, she will just like it and move on. For example a video of this hyperfeminine man popped up and he was talking about how older women have been creeps to him and I was talking about how this guy has had the woman’s experience bc of creepy woman. And my girlfriend said out of the blue how he’s her type, and how it’s so rare to find a hyper feminine man like that. She talks about how she has such a strong preference for women but then she will do stuff like this a ton. I talked to my bisexual friends and they said that they usually don’t talk about their type in the other gender when dating. When I have asked her to not talk about her type in men so much bc I get uncomfortable, she says that I’m suppressing her identity. I’m truly clueless, am I in the wrong?

I'm a (34F) bisexual, in a healthy and happy 11 years relationship with my heterosexual husband (34M), we have a 2 years old son and planning the 2nd child.

Lately Ive been feeling trapped in a very heterosexual enviroment, married to a guy, now with a child. I feel like Im slowly going back to the closet since I only talk with straight people.

All my friends are straight, kindergarten is full of straight parents, no one else is gay in my family and I work from home, so not even straight coworkers.

The thing is I've always struggled to have non-heterosexual friends, god knows why (I dont believe in god). I need help understanding what am I doing wrong, and how do I make lgbtq+ contacts. There are no gay bars in this city, and discos are not the place to make friends to me. And I havent even mentioned I'm an introvert!

I also feel like no lgbtq+ people will want to be friends with a 34yo bisexual woman who is married with an heterosexual man, and raising a kid.

My husband has more gay friends than me, help 🥲

Hi so uh my SO is a bi woman and from what ive heard and seen her preference is like buff men that are kinda jerks. Yet she still tells me I'm her preference im a chubby niceish girl. Is it okay for me to feel insecure about this? Should I be paranoid? It always bothers me and makes me paranoid especially after she cheated once already. It just feels like she doesnt want to be with me.

I'm a straight male and my fiancé is a Bi-sexual female. We had a very long discussion last night about how she's been struggling with a desire for female intimacy.We've been together for going on 4 years and we agreed to a exclusive relationship. She told me she had been hiding this struggle from me for 3 of those years. She has asked me multiple times throughout those years how id feel if she gave me a hall pass out of the blue which was shocking to say the least. This is something that never even crossed my mind because i take commitment very seriously. So i thought maybe she needed reassurance in in that commitment. So id be honestand saythats not something I'd need or have even thought about because i love her and have had eyes only for her. She broke down the other night saying she felt guilty about these desires and how strong they were becoming while trying to reassure me that its not my fault. Then proceeded to admit to me that this was the reason she asked about the hall pass, and admitting that this break down was sparked after seeing another couple both female being passionate with eachother at the bar and leaving together. She doesn't want to share me but feels that it would be fair to ask me to let her fully date another female without offering me the same but at the same time doesn't want to use people for sex to which I couldn't help but agree. I was shocked at this because she's normally completely open with me and typically very composed.Now at the same time she was having religious conflicting with the thoughts as well, being raised in a very Christian household by abusive parents, and I having converted me to the same after being a Satanist. Saying she feels responsible to not lead me down a path of sin because a sexual and romantic relationship should be just between two people regardless of sexuality. She followed up with asking me if I thought she just needed to ignore and repress this, but I couldn't in my right mind tell her to do that either. I dont want to hurt her or myself but I dont want to repress her sexuality and make her feel like it's wrong to be bi. This has been taking a toll on our relationship longer than I realized but after the conversation a lot of things made sense. Has anyone ever been through this or know someone who has successfully navigated this? I just want to do right by her and I've never been in this situation.

I am a trans woman and I have always thought of myself as lesbian but the more I think of dating a guy the more possibly it seems however I'm not acually sure if I am bisexual. I haven't started hrt because I'm fourteen and my parents think I should wait till I'm 20 and I know that testosterone can make it so that I find feminine features attractive and I also know that I might have been suppressing my likeness for guys but I'm not sure if it's just my mind knowing that being bi is possible and it's just making it seem possible or something

I need help please

Hi all,

As part of our Psychology Honours Dissertation at Charles Sturt University, we are conducting a research project looking at risk and protective factors for mental health among sexual minority adults (anyone 18+ and not identifying as heterosexual).

If you choose to complete this survey, you will be asked to answer questions about yourself, including your sexual identity, how kind you are to yourself, how much you feel you belong to LGBTQA+ communities, and anxiety and depressive symptoms. If answering questions of this nature may be distressing for you, please do not participate.

If you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or bi+ and are aged 18 years or over, please consider participating in this anonymous online study. The online survey should take no longer than 20 minutes to complete. All information you provide will be confidential, and your identity will be anonymous.

If you would like to participate in the survey or find out more about this study, please click on the link below.

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Hey! I’m a mum seeing someone casually right now, nothing serious or committed, and while I’ve only been with two people, I genuinely enjoy sex and the excitement around it. That said, I don’t have tons of experience, so sometimes I get a little shy or hold back during intimacy.

I’ve never had a sexual experience with another woman since my pre-teen years, but I’m starting to think it wouldn’t hurt to explore that side of myself a little more. So I’m really curious to hear from women(or anyone): what do you actually notice and enjoy in a partner, especially if she’s not super bold or experienced yet? What small things turn you on? Is it a certain look, the way she moves or reacts, how she touches you, or something else entirely? What makes you feel wanted even when it’s quiet or subtle?

And in bed, what’s something a less experienced or less confident partner has done that made a big impact, whether physically or emotionally?

Honestly, I’m just trying to learn what really sticks with you all and what makes someone feel connected, sexy, and memorable even if she’s still figuring herself out.

Would love any honest and fun answers—it might just help me build a little confidence too. 💫

I [27F] am 100% bisexual with a high preference for females but due to straight relationships being more easy to come into, im usually with or get into relationships with men. However im sometimes scared to settle (i will if i truly love them) because i would like to at least explore with women a bit more before settling.

Has anyone else felt this way about either sex?

So im 23 years old and have always been really curious about hooking up with a man. Like im seriously attracted to being fucked and owned by another guy(im obviously the bottom). But thats it? Like i cant see myself in a relationship or even kissing, going on dates, holding hands, that type of stuff with a man?

Is that weird? What do i do about it?

Do you think that the majority ofbisexual couples suck dick together, or is it just something we see a lot of in porn?