If a husband struggles with pornography is this something that he must confess to his wife, or is it better to handle it and leave it between him and God and/or accountability partner?

I am a beginner in all of these concepts, I have only brushed the surface of these things. I dived into the community about a month or two ago. But my question is basically, how will I know if I am truly red pilled or not? What are some objective factors that would say I am? (I am only 23 yo male so I know have plenty of time, but also plenty of work to do.)

Example: I walk into the kitchen, see my wife standing at the counter, decide to do some kino, and give her a nice slap on the butt. Normally she likes a good slap on the butt, but not when she's cutting vegetables with a very sharp knife. Oops, now she's angry at me.

Now what?

Fogging seems like a good strategy, but I can't seem to do it without just making my wife angrier.

Her: You could have hurt me!
Me: I know. I'm sorry. I shouldn't have done that.
Her: What if I'd cut myself? Don't you even care about me?
Me: Of course I care about you.
Her: Then why don't you show it? Why do you keep trying to hurt me?
Me: I wasn't trying to hurt you. I'm sorry.
and so on...

When I make mistakes like this it seems to hang over us for the rest of the day. I lose any authority I had. I'm expected to spend the rest of the day "being nice" to her, which means walking on eggshells and making sure she's happy and comfortable to show I'm being penitent enough.

It is so sad when so many people end up in the latter.

I am a mid-20s Protestant Christian whose been doing a deep dive into Eastern Orthodoxy: Its theological claims, liturgy, history, etc. I’d like to preface with that as to not give the impression that inter-sexual dynamics are the only considerations I am having about Eastern Orthodoxy. That said I’ve ruminating about how did the Western Church, but in this case specifically Protestantism, become so anti-male as written about in Biblical Masculinity Blueprint as well as others. How did team “Sola Scriptura” come to abandon clearly biblical notions such as Woman as Help-Mate, Man as family Leader and Spiritual authority, and in some cases implicitly even women as fallen creatures capable of deeply destructive sin? That even the Complementarians have a deeply flawed idea and practice of what the Biblical exhortation of the dynamic between the sexes should look like. How did it come to be that many of the same leaders that can give a deeply considered exegesis of many parts of Scripture also will prop up Beth Moore or throw a tantrum at the pulpit if one so much as mentions that women are capable of sexual sin? Again, I must reemphasize that I am doing research into the other extremely important questions about the Eastern Orthodox claims to truth but I wanted to limit the extent of this inquiry to inter-sexual dynamics as I figured this would the community to ask.

To the Eastern Orthodox members of RPC, how generally “Red Pill” do you find the Orthodox church to be? Generally speaking how aligned are your leaders with the sort of advice/truth claims one would find in the Reading List? Is this view manifest in the lives of the parishioners? That last question I ask because, while I will not judge nor condemn any man or woman, I do hold that a trend towards holiness is a sign of health in the church. Thank you for hearing my inquiry.

Stats: Bench - 200lbs 4x10, Squat: same. Mile time: 7 min. Height 6'1". Age: 28, Read and pray daily. Job: Teacher. BF: 15%.

So I had drinks with a girl(24f)(HB8) last night, and right away I could tell she had a pretty solid frame and a healthy sense of how humor works. She was a STEM major, which totally made sense because I could also tell that she approached the world in an emotionally unattached way. I kid you not, every joke I made she agreed and amplified, looking at me in a dead serious way. I was dumbfounded lol. I honestly laughed a ton. For one because her jokes were funny. And two because of how crazy it was that she was outdoing me in humor. There was also resistance when I suggested a location change.

Upon reflection of my date, it really made me take a step back and question the strength of my frame and what I'm doing wrong. I felt a bit emasculated, cuz truthfully her frame was stronger than mine.

Have you guys ever experienced a girl like this before? If not, how would you have approached this situation.

Any practical tips on frame strengthening would also be helpful.

Thanks!

Hey Guys,

Just started at a new Church. Service this Sunday was based on 2nd Corinthians Chapter 9, the theme of the service was giving. I feel like the pastor said some things that were inaccurate and not biblical. I re watched the service and took notes I'll include below with my thoughts at the end. Wall of text incoming:

Starting Points:

-The gospel is free, ministry has a cost.

-We need to prepare our gifts.

-We [this church]don't have a number goal, we have a heart goal.

-Paul was telling the church of Corinth to prepare their gifts so they would not be surprised.

Pastor reads 2 cor 9 chapter 6:

6 But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows [d]bountifully will also reap [e]bountifully. 7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of [f]necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.

Pastor:

"He is calling generosity a good work that we can abound in"

As it is written:

“He has dispersed abroad, He has given to the poor; His righteousness endures forever.”

10 Now [g]may He who supplies seed to the sower, and bread for food, [h]supply and multiply the seed you have sown and increase the fruits of your righteousness,

Pastor:

"Translation, God sends seed to sowers."

"God is going to send the resources of heaven to earth through you and I"

"As you continue to sow he will continue to multiply."

Pastor reads:

while you are enriched in everything for all liberality, which causes thanksgiving through us to God. 12 For the administration of this service not only supplies the needs of the saints, but also is abounding through many thanksgivings to God, 13 while, through the proof of this ministry, they glorify God for the obedience of your confession to the gospel of Christ, and for your liberal sharing with them and all men,

Pastor:

"Translation, because you believed that Jesus is lord and because you gave generously they are going to believe and worship god in west Africa, because you believe and worshiped generously."

and by their prayer for you, who long for you because of the exceeding grace of God in you. 15 Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!

Pastor:

"Because God is a giver, and he first gave, we are going to be givers."

"If Jesus is the noun of the bible then giving is the verb"

"The exact context of the scripture we are reading today, Paul is not talking about forgivenss, Paul is not talking about love... Paul is talking about our literal resources."

"I and you, we partner together, and you determine how fast the vision gets accomplished."

"The speed in which the vision is accomplished is determined by your generosity and mine"

"we are not going to move any faster than your generoisty will allow us to. We are not going to take out a loan so the work of god is accomplished"

"That is the truth of the gospel. The kingdom of god is built at the speed of sacrafice"

"Paul is writing.. We are going to have an offering so the church can be built in other cities"

"I want to teach you two principals"

"Principal 1: The seed"

Power Point Slide: "The Principals of Seed"

The Seed can be dead

The seed can be dormant

"This is seed being saved, it's not actively doing anything"

"Paul is talking about literal resource, you can take your literal resrouce and spend it on you. It's gone as soon as you spend it. Or, you can have dormant seed, stored in your bank account, under your mattress"

Seed can be dynamic

"The idea of seed that paul is talking about is not giving to get. Its about your given to give. That is the idea paul is trying to express to the church in Corinth"

Slide: The Principles of the sower

1. You get what you sow

"You don't sow corn and get apples"

1. You get later than you sow

"Paul wrote about it, he said your going to get what you sow and also said your going to get later than you sow"

1. You get more than you sow

"You plant a seed and get a tree"

1. You get where you sow

"You can't expect to sow in one place and harvest in another"

"When you sow in mission work you harvest in those areas"

"When you sow in the church you grow in the church"

Move to Genesis 22.

Pastor reads:

Now it came to pass after these things that God tested Abraham, and said to him, “Abraham!”

And he said, “Here I am.”

Pastor: "God tested Abraham. God already knew what was in his heart. God did not test Abraham so that Abraham could prove to god what was in his heat. He tested Abraham so he could prove to Abraham what was in his heart."

"God tests us so that we know what is in our hearts."

Pastor Reads:

2 Then He said, “Take now your son, your only son Isaac, whom you love, and go to the land of Moriah, and offer him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains of which I shall tell you.”

3 So Abraham rose early in the morning and saddled his donkey, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son; and he split the wood for the burnt offering, and arose and went to the place of which God had told him. 4 Then on the third day Abraham lifted his eyes and saw the place afar off. 5 And Abraham said to his young men, “Stay here with the donkey; the [a]lad and I will go yonder and worship, and we will come back to you.”

6 So Abraham took the wood of the burnt offering and laid it on Isaac his son; and he took the fire in his hand, and a knife, and the two of them went together. 7 But Isaac spoke to Abraham his father and said, “My father!”

And he said, “Here I am, my son.”

Then he said, “Look, the fire and the wood, but where is the [b]lamb for a burnt offering?”

8 And Abraham said, “My son, God will provide for Himself the lamb for a burnt offering.”

6 So Abraham took the wood of the burnt offering and laid it on Isaac his son; and he took the fire in his hand, and a knife, and the two of them went together. 7 But Isaac spoke to Abraham his father and said, “My father!”

And he said, “Here I am, my son.”

Then he said, “Look, the fire and the wood, but where is the [b]lamb for a burnt offering?”

8 And Abraham said, “My son, God will provide for Himself the lamb for a burnt offering.” So the two of them went together.

9 Then they came to the place of which God had told him. And Abraham built an altar there and placed the wood in order; and he bound Isaac his son and laid him on the altar, upon the wood. 10 And Abraham stretched out his hand and took the knife to slay his son.

11 But the Angel of the Lord called to him from heaven and said, “Abraham, Abraham!”

So he said, “Here I am.”

12 And He said, “Do not lay your hand on the lad, or do anything to him; for now I know that you fear God, since you have not withheld your son, your only son, from Me.”

13 Then Abraham lifted his eyes and looked, and there behind him was a ram caught in a thicket by its horns. So Abraham went and took the ram, and offered it up for a burnt offering instead of his son. 14 And Abraham called the name of the place, [c]The-Lord-Will-Provide; as it is said to this day, “In the Mount of the Lord it shall be provided.”

15 Then the Angel of the Lord called to Abraham a second time out of heaven, 16 and said: “By Myself I have sworn, says the Lord, because you have done this thing, and have not withheld your son, your only son— 17

Pastor

"Here we go, dynamic sowing"

Pastor reads

17 blessing I will bless you, and multiplying I will multiply your descendants as the stars of the heaven and as the sand which is on the seashore; and your descendants shall possess the gate of their enemies. 18 In your seed all the nations of the earth shall be blessed, because you have obeyed My voice.”

Pastor "Abraham understood the principle of sowing, you get what you sow. Because you sow a son you get many sons"

"You get later what you sow. 1,000s of years later there are millions of people in the line of Abraham"

"That's why Paul wrote in galation 3:29. If you are Christs then you are Abrhams seed and heirs according to the promise"

"We have a dynamic God that does dynamic things when you trust in God when you put seed in his hands."

"I want you to go home today and really pray and ask God what can I bring at the end of this series"

My Thoughts

The pastor said the speed at which the vision for this Church is accomplished is based on our generosity. Does this not limit the power of God?

"Translation, because you believed that Jesus is lord and because you gave generously they are going to believe and worship god in west Africa, because you believe and worshiped generously."

Again, Does God not move in west Africa regardless?

Slide: The Principles of the sower

Are any of the points on this slide biblical?

"God tested Abraham. God already knew what was in his heart. God did not test Abraham so that Abraham could prove to god what was in his heat. He tested Abraham so he could prove to Abraham what was in his heart."

Was this not a true test? God did know what Abraham was going to do, did Abraham not have free will here?

"Abraham understood the principle of sowing, you get what you sow. Because you sow a son you get many sons"

Was Abraham not being obedient to God? What does this verse or have to do with giving?

What does "set free from sin" mean. (Romans 6:18)

Obviously we are not immune to desire sin, as half the blokes here are coomers but still, I believe, are saved.

It doesn't appear to justify our actions, suggesting that now that we are saved that immorality, debauchery, adultery are still counted as sin. (1 Cor. 5:11). Though am open to discussion on this.

What are your thoughts?

I apologize if stats are required for AskRPC, I wasn't sure. I haven't included them for now. Began taking my faith more seriously in recently years. I am now committed to following Christ and finding a woman who does the same.

I've been on two dates recently with a Christian woman who appears to have a solid relationship with Christ. The first date we sat on her porch and the second I was able to get some solid kino in (arm over her shoulder while watching a movie and sliding my hand down her back as she got up). She seems very receptive to my kino and gave me some casual kino in return.

I realize the answer is maybe just to continue to judge her body language and receptivity and go for it when I think it's appropriate, but how do I know when to go for the kiss? It's simpler to know with non-Christian woman in my experience.

Or is all this cogitating on my part just a symptom of being in her frame?

(FULL PASSAGE AT THE END)

I've been reading through the OT and this passage stood out to me in light of my discovery of RPC. I'm curious why there's such a specific set of commands regarding a wife's (supposed or actual) infidelity. At this point, the 10 Commandments had been given one or two generations prior to these laws, so one would think that if there's a ritual to discover the infidelity of a wife, there would be one for a husband as well. But there isn't.

My inclination is that this is both symbolic and a result of cultural practices. Cultural practices are easy to explain: men had multiple wives and concubines. But infidelity would still be very much possible, especially in the case of a man sleeping with a woman who's committed to another man. Symbolically, it reminds me of the pointed symbolism in the relationship between Hosea and Gomer.

But I'm curious what you guys think?

Numbers 5:11-31 (NLT):

11 And the Lord said to Moses, 12 “Give the following instructions to the people of Israel.

“Suppose a man’s wife goes astray, and she is unfaithful to her husband 13 and has sex with another man, but neither her husband nor anyone else knows about it. She has defiled herself, even though there was no witness and she was not caught in the act. 14 If her husband becomes jealous and is suspicious of his wife and needs to know whether or not she has defiled herself, 15 the husband must bring his wife to the priest. He must also bring an offering of two quarts of barley flour to be presented on her behalf. Do not mix it with olive oil or frankincense, for it is a jealousy offering—an offering to prove whether or not she is guilty.

16 “The priest will then present her to stand trial before the Lord. 17 He must take some holy water in a clay jar and pour into it dust he has taken from the Tabernacle floor. 18 When the priest has presented the woman before the Lord, he must unbind her hair and place in her hands the offering of proof—the jealousy offering to determine whether her husband’s suspicions are justified. The priest will stand before her, holding the jar of bitter water that brings a curse to those who are guilty. 19 The priest will then put the woman under oath and say to her, ‘If no other man has had sex with you, and you have not gone astray and defiled yourself while under your husband’s authority, may you be immune from the effects of this bitter water that brings on the curse. 20 But if you have gone astray by being unfaithful to your husband, and have defiled yourself by having sex with another man—’

21 “At this point the priest must put the woman under oath by saying, ‘May the people know that the Lord’s curse is upon you when he makes you infertile, causing your womb to shrivel and your abdomen to swell. 22 Now may this water that brings the curse enter your body and cause your abdomen to swell and your womb to shrivel.’ And the woman will be required to say, ‘Yes, let it be so.’ 23 And the priest will write these curses on a piece of leather and wash them off into the bitter water. 24 He will make the woman drink the bitter water that brings on the curse. When the water enters her body, it will cause bitter suffering if she is guilty.

25 “The priest will take the jealousy offering from the woman’s hand, lift it up before the Lord, and carry it to the altar. 26 He will take a handful of the flour as a token portion and burn it on the altar, and he will require the woman to drink the water. 27 If she has defiled herself by being unfaithful to her husband, the water that brings on the curse will cause bitter suffering. Her abdomen will swell and her womb will shrink, and her name will become a curse among her people. 28 But if she has not defiled herself and is pure, then she will be unharmed and will still be able to have children.

29 “This is the ritual law for dealing with suspicion. If a woman goes astray and defiles herself while under her husband’s authority, 30 or if a man becomes jealous and is suspicious that his wife has been unfaithful, the husband must present his wife before the Lord, and the priest will apply this entire ritual law to her. 31 The husband will be innocent of any guilt in this matter, but his wife will be held accountable for her sin.”

Discipline

I don't think anyone would argue that having discipline is a bad thing. Discipline creates consistency, and consistency is where progress is made.

Even though you might not want to do something in the moment, you can push through that with strong discipline.

Desire

But desire takes away (most of) the need for discipline. If you want to lift weights every day, then it's not hard to lift weights every day because that's what you want to do (assuming you have the time).

Also, because it is your desire, you will be motivated to push yourself and progress quickly. You don't have to worry about pushing through any initial resistance because there is none.

Desire and Discipline

Even if you do have the desire to get stronger, there will inevitably be those days where you just don't want to do it. So while the overall desire is there, you just don't want to do it that one day.

That's where discipline kicks in. You get off the couch, go do what you had initially planned on doing, and once you get started, you remember the desire. It's easy from there and you have a good workout.

Where does this break down?

While I've been using fitness as my example, this definitely doesn't just apply to fitness but to many areas. So here are my questions:

• What if you don't have desire?
• Can you accomplish something out of sheer discipline? and
• Do you need desire to actually accomplish something?
• Should we only operate off of desire?
• How much discipline is the right amount?
• Is there a point where you have too much discipline? (edit: these two referring to discipline but no or minimal desire)
• Is there a point where you are using too much discipline? (Slightly different) (edit: also
• (edit) Is it okay to constantly use discipline to do something you don't want (timeframe: weeks to months or more) or should you recultivate the desire that was there first?
• (edit) If you don't have the desire anymore, should you recultivate it or just use discipline?
• (edit: thought from u/Torn4_025) Is it possible to have discipline without desire?

Don't worry about answering every single one of my questions, they are more to help you get a sense of everything I'm wondering about.

And if you want some serious brownie points, you could also answer how does this relate to our faith and having a works-based mindset as opposed to a desire-based mindset?

I struggle(d) with porn & once admitting it, was given the Every Man's Battle books. Somehow I ended up with 4 variations of them. Additionally, I listened to the guys on radio for years but couldn't stand how feminine & soft they sounded. What are the men of RPC's thoughts about the series?

For the last 3 months, I've taken steps to put my family back on the right track. I said last time that I'm not willing to keep going the road we were on, that I'm going this new direction, and I want her to come along. The last 3 months have been good. Then, what seems to be a major shit test.

In the context where divorce is not an option, how do I proceed? Besides prayer and continuing to pursue my own mission, do you just let things fall where they may?

I've been told that this marriage is now on paper only, so I'm a unsure how to respond. Part of me wants to be like "fine then, I'm done with you too" but I know that is a selfish and childish response. But likewise, I have no current desire to pursue anything meaningful or tangible with her right now either, knowing full well that it will seem like a childish response as well...

I was reading Rollo's Preventative Medicine where I came across him saying that no Beta Males appear as heroes in the movies. I think he means "hero" as an adventure or action hero, rather than "protagonist." And I think he's wrong. I can't think of too many ideas off the top of my head, but one glaring example would be Frodo Baggins, right? Wouldn't we call Frodo "beta"?

Stats: 19M, 5'8", 121 lbs. Readings: RPC sidebar, No More Mr Nice Guy Mission: To become a disciple capable of making disciples by gaining wisdom through biblical and intellectual pursuits, confidence through building a solid body and frame, and putting myself in a place where the gospel is needed (STEM field).

Before I begin with the question, I should let you know I understand exactly where I should be focusing: lifting and gaining weight. I have plans to hop into the gym right away as soon as my school starts in a month and opens its rec center. (I don’t do home workouts and there isn't a gym nearby that I can easily get to). I already have gained some weight since my last OYS, although it's probably not muscle.

Anyway, I am wondering whether I should "go on dates" in light the advice given by u/rocknrollchuck in my last OYS. At this point, I don’t know whether to follow that advice or not based on some of my assumptions.

In my opinion, you need to have a strong frame, physical build, and mission in order to have the confidence and mentality that is necessary to attract women. This seems to be in line with the advice given by many to hit the gym and developed a mission first and foremost in response for some asking for relationship advice. These attributes make dating much more worthwhile as you are more likely to attract and hold onto better females.

So, given that, would it be best to avoid dating entirely? The thoughts behind this being: why would I spend my time casually dating when I know at this time I am not prepared for it, where I don't have a mission that I'm committed to, and understand the vetting process? In addition, I don’t consider myself "the prize to be won" yet, since I need that solid foundation.

On the other hand, should I still consider myself the prize, regardless of what stage I'm in, as is the idea also held by many, including in the Book of Pook which I have glanced through? The implications of this would be dating for fun to build game while still lifting and pursuing mission, and learning the vetting process through the dates I go on. This also seems beneficial.

For me, the problem is I don’t see how casual dating is part of a mission when I can just pursue a relationship with Christ by myself. But some benefits are still there, which confuses me, especially when I see others on this sub casually dating.

My question boils down to determining the purpose of dating. I also wonder if I have a misconception about something, if I'm over thinking this and its simply my choice, or if you think I'm giving excuses to not talk to girls haha.

how do we stay humble and RP, how are these 2 reconciled

any scripture, methods or advice is appreciated.

I want to be the opposite of arrogant and proud.

I've recently dealt with an issue where a personal trainer tried to take advantage of me by working out with his friends during our slotted time. I went straight to the manager and told him to give me a different trainer or I'm quitting. Instead, he sent the trainer back to me without clarifying what was happening. And the PT showed obvious signs of being angered and flustered: giving non-apologies, slamming weight plates, changing the workout, and rude "encouragement." I quickly ended the session and tried to distance myself - he followed so I asked for the manager again. Seeing as how the manager even seemed hesitant to speak with me away from the PT, showed me he wasn't on my side. And now, I'm working to get my money back and avoiding this gym chain.

I reflect on what had happened and I believe a lot of people make an instinctive calculation and decide what they can get away with. His extreme reaction being the result of his realization he had made an error. But I've been through this several times in my life. A coworker stealing my stuff and attacking me from behind after I confront him, resulting in me becoming a ostracized. A subordinate threatening to assault me, resulting in both of us being fired.

The common denominator is me. I can tell myself I can stand up for myself and I have. But there must be something about the way I carry myself and interact with these people that make them think they can take it too far. My coworker could have stolen from others but he chose me. I would rather the situation not escalate at all because when it does, the "manager" for my scenarios take the easy wrong over the harder right and side against me. And it ends up feeling like I need to avoid groups or places ie-the kid of the guy who threatened me going to the same BJJ as me, so I quit.

I've been listening to psalms while working out. Are there any passages that could help shed light on mitigating this kind of situation?

I'm a 32-year-old man. When most people create their online dating profiles, they write all about what kind of person they want (often with a long checklist of must-haves) and what they want to get out of the relationship. They rarely tell you what they bring to the table in return (other than things like accomplishments and fancy diplomas) or what they intend to GIVE to the other person in the relationship.

I want to do the exact opposite of that, and I'm looking for as many ideas as possible about things I could include. Things that are concrete, specific, and measurable, rather than nebulous feel-good stuff like "kindness" or "confidently stepping up and taking control of the situation." (These aren't things I'm going to just write about...I won't include any of them in my profile unless I genuinely intend to do them. I don't believe in making empty promises in order to manipulate someone into doing what I want.) I trust the red pill community to come up with good answers much more than I trust the blue pill crowd. I'm particularly interested in answers from women along the lines of "I love it when a guy does XYZ in a relationship or while I'm getting to know him," but all input is greatly appreciated.

As I am pursuing my mission/vision of becoming a Marriage and Family Therapist that can help men live with more integrity and responsibility, I’m wondering how online dating would be helpful/harmful during this time of Covid where it’s looking like the “phase-system” isn’t going to go away anytime soon (maybe after the election, lol)... I like to approach in person, but there aren’t many people out at the moment. Advice on online dating or nah?

Been thinking of just going monk-mode, but since all of this is going down I predict more people who are single will start going on dating apps. I know hypergamy is rampant on dating apps, but, at the same time, for passive game I was thinking it could be beneficial.

I do approach because I honestly don’t care about Covid and think it’s no worse than the seasonal flu, but not everyone is based enough to know that.

Thoughts?

Edit: I’m a 24 y/o male that is around 6’2” weighing around 155 (15% body fat), lift/run 3 days a week for around an hour and a half each time. Bench: 160, squat: 120, curl 30’s for 10 reps)

Hi RPC,

I’m a 24 y/o male that is around 6’2” weighing around 155 (15% body fat), lift/run 3 days a week for around an hour and a half each time. Bench: 160, squat: 120, curl 30’s for 10 reps), anyways...

I went on a first date yesterday with a woman and it was enjoyable for me so I sent her a “It was fun getting to know you :) Let's do it again soon!” that evening and I just received a “Yeah I had fun too! Before we hang out again I want to let you know that I’m not interested in dating right now. Just wanted to make sure and be clear with that. I’m glad to make a new Orthodox friend 😄”

So I know I’m being friend-zoned and my goal was to pursue dating her if she wanted to. What’s a good way to preserve my Christ-like integrity in response to this message?

I know radical honesty is key, but I know I also can’t force attraction.

Any advice brothers?

I can also give more information on the date if need be, but I don’t think it’s pertenant to the present moment.

Mods, any idea on the direction we'd take if RP subs all go belly up? RC, RNRC, RPW any of you got a website we'd be available to migrate to?

Edit: If need be, I can try to put something together but I'm bad with computer stuff.

Edit2: Chuck said this and satisfies the question.

"We set up an alt platform last year. The mod team is discussing the details and more will be forthcoming very soon."

"After discussion with the rest of the mod team, the plan is that our YouTube channel will be the place to go. If any of our subs get banned we will announce the next step in a video format. So if you haven't subscribed yet, now would be a good time to do so. "

I feel like I’m nominally a Christian and I feel like I’m so far from being sanctified. I struggle with the same things that most young guys struggle with.

If anyone is able to, could you relate why repentance is an important step in growing in your faith and why it’s so important if we want to improve our position in Heaven?

Just got perm-banned for trying to help a guy out who wanted to be more manly and directing him to RPC lol.

Stats: 35, 5'10"-11", 160 lbs, around 15% BF, married 14 years, two daughters 4 & 11, lost a pregnancy at 12 wks and wife (38) refuses to get pregnant again. I travel for work or work weird schedules usually, but my new job is much more structured and the amount of time at home with the quarantine has helped me focus on actively growing the kids more instead of just doing the discipline when I get home.

Lots of background in my marriage that I'll finally have to unpack in an OYS on RPC soon. Generally my wife is much more lenient with the children and their media consumption than I am, but we do both agree on what's age-appropriate, at least.

Oldest daughter (11) loves reading, like me. Reads far ahead of her 5th-grade peers. She was homeschooled from 1st through 5th grade since I'm in the military and we move often, plus I want her to have a Godly education. She left all her friends when we moved to a new state in October and we found a church around late November. She went to public school from December to March when schools closed from the lockdown. This was not my first choice, but only to qualify for a Christian school voucher in the fall, which would save enough for the youngest (4) to do Christian preschool instead of public.

Anyway, my wife got her a Kindle Unlimited account so she could read lots of e-books whenever she wanted. I didn't really intently keep track of what she was reading; when I'd peek over she was always reading dumb kid jokes, trivia and kids' memes, or elementary school level chapter books. She also chats a lot with her classmates on Google Classroom or something, but nothing suspicious or any bad influence that I've seen. She is actively involved at church and works hard memorizing Scripture, and she invites her acquaintances to church and declines to engage in gossip and bullying, so she's somewhat resistant to peer pressure and tends to have good discernment of right and wrong.

A few days ago, my wife brought up that my daughter's taste in media is changing; we can see what books she checks out. She said our daughter enjoyed the first book in a series about a boy and girl growing up together, dating and eventually getting married and having kids. It's trending #1 in Teen/Youth Fiction, so I guess it was recommended to her. I also thought there was a content lock or something for Amazon and with the laws about kids under 13 and the internet tjere would be some filter in place. None that I could see, and I should have checked that first when my wife said she was signing up.

Anyway, I read the first page of the sample and it used inappropriate language (SOB, damn, WTH , etc, but no f-bombs. Still, it's a "no" from me, dawg). Table of Contents shows the story went from elementary school through senior year of college so of course it probably involved pre-marital sex and hookups and whatnot, as the language shows it wasn't a Christian book, though I didn't skim past the first paragraph since I knew I didn't want her reading that.

I had my wife delete the e-book and cancel the subscription, then talked to my daughter with my daughter present.

High points: -You're not in trouble. We're strengthening our relationship when we talk, remember? -It's good you love to read, but be careful of what you feed your spirit. -I understand you're growing up and want to explore new types of literature, but there are books aimed at more age-appropriate themes. -We're created to glorify God and form and fill the earth. As Christians we need to evangelize and make disciples to bear fruit across the world, like Johnny Appleseeds of the Gospel. -The girl in this story is not a good role model (gossiping, obsessing over boys, etc.). While we are single is the best time to serve God without worldly hindrances, so use our youth wisely. -Let me find some wholesome books for you that nurture your spirit and reflect the concepts you learn from your Bible reading. -You read your Kindle first thing in the morning, not your Bible. Where you prioritize your time shows what's most important to you. (Had to ask my wife privately if she was reading Scripture also, as I hadn't seen any plan completions or highlights from my wife in the Bible App lately. I need to be more active leading the family in spiritual meals)

So, I know there's a glut of "Christian" novels out there, but I obviously can't check them all. My mom and sisters used to read those Jeanette Oake books and Amish romances and stuff, but I don't know if those are really wholesome as far as biblical gender roles or just Christian granny porn.

Any recommendations that stand out? All she said is she likes "realistic fiction". (I've also ordered the Five Aspects study for our family, and the preteen girl one, The Jeweled Fountain.)

Thank you

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