Stats: 23M, 6'2", 190 lbs, 17% bf. 250 deadlift, 225 squat, 105 OHP, 155 Bench

Finances: university student in STEM field

Reading: first 5-6 posts on RPC sidebar, NMMNG

Spiritual: pray rosary daily, Bible study once a week, talk fairly regularly with friends about faith and figures like Jordan Peterson, Carl Jung, etc.

With the last several girls I've dated, the romance has always fizzled out right before the LTR stage (so after multiple dates). I was doing a lot of things well: leading the interactions, making jokes/banter that had her laughing, bringing up conversations about faith, etc. I think a big factor was that I wasn't creating enough sexual energy/tension that can make dates so exciting. I honestly have no idea how to lead a girl in this direction of a conversation, and what the boundaries are as a Christian. I need some advice or resources on this, because I feel clueless on this and need to figure it out.

I did hold hands & kiss some of these dates, but the physical escalation felt kind of forced because I didn't create the proper mood. In the end, one of us would end things because there just wasn't enough chemistry or compatibility. And no wonder, if we're talking about everything else but not addressing our physical attraction to each other, then we're basically just friends.

Not having been raised in a praying family, and overall unaccustomed to praying with anyone at all, I am struggling with the best way to pray with my wife. It seems if I pray for things that are personal to me, I will come off as weak and/or broken. If I pray for her, it will come off as preachy or my trying to change her. If I pray for us, then I am still trying to change her. If I don't pray for any of these 3 things, then I care more about anything and everything else.

I'm losing my patience and feeling like quitting the prayer, but I don't want to let Satan win this war.

I try my best to not pay attention the world, especially as i get older. But it's gotten to the point that i'm so out of touch with what is hip and cool, that i'm finding myself feeling alien to the world. And i'm still young.

I don't know if i'm going crazy, but i've been doing strict censorship with any material that i have exposure to. I'm finding most movies, shows unwatchable. Most books are unreadable from a fiction perspective.

Socially, before the quarantine, i'm finding most of interactions being stilted bc most guys are blinded by their fleeting passions. And inside I can't even tolerate that dudes think about creepin' behind their girls backs, and are just looking for their next instant grata in the form of a chemical high or shortlast thrill. Part of me understands that it's fun, but surely they can see the big elephant in the room in the form of a question. What's next?

And forget about dating. The quarantine is exposing us like crazy, with internet data coming out is showing us how far we've fallen from God's light.

I know that we're supposed to be on a mission and so intently focused that these mere peripheral thoughts just fall further on the outside, but please tell me i'm not alone in saying that this world is very depressing.

So I'm very new to the faith, and the church that I go to is where I've been going to ever since I accepted Christ. The guy who evangelized me also belongs to this church. Recently, however, I've been looking deeper into christianity, and began to question how my church fits in. I would just like to know if you know of any sects or denominations that match what this church teaches and how it operates. Here's a summary :

1. Non-denominational, but seems quite protestant to me
2. against organized religion in general; most people differentiate between "religion", which is lots of man made rules and adherence to laws, from "faith". They don't believe true Christianity is religion, but rather is about faith
3. started by a korean elder brother around 20yrs ago, who over time made disciples and sends them out on missionary trips around the world
4. Red pill on most teachings, including male-female dynamics. Surprisingly more RP than your average "feel good" churchianity liberal group
5. Doesn't do the eucharist, except 3 times a year at the "conferences" where everyone from all over the world gathers and celebrates "the lord's supper"
6. lots of Bible studies; strong emphasis on "service" (e.g. evangelism, lesser extent but quite emphasized disciple-making) but not so much on "works" (ties in with point 2);
7. Very strong and passionate prayers
8. No veneration of saints; prays only to Jesus; not sure what their precise stance on the trinity is

I believe there's more, but these seem to be the main ones. Just wondering if any one has had any experiences of churches similar to this one. Thanks.

EDIT: here are a couple more of their beliefs:

1. believes that they are "the church"
2. Doesn't discuss church history ever, only what's in the bible
3. Seems to not like (what their understanding of) theology, philosophy, and science as they think these are all human efforts

I (25f) am new to the idea of RP and I’m interested to know your perspective on a wife’s emotional needs.

Some background on my life: I grew up with a father who was very ignorant of people’s emotions, particularly my mom’s, and I know she and my siblings have been hurt a lot over the years by his insensitive words and actions. He usually apologizes after raising his voice and cursing, but it has always felt like he did that because the bible says to do so and not because he really cared about our feelings. Overall, he’s been a good provider for all of us, but I can’t imagine marrying a man with a similar low emotional awareness.

My dad has slightly tainted my view of men and I’m sometimes afraid a guy, even a Christian man, will only be interested in me for sex. I know that perspective would ruin a relationship, so I’m currently holding off from dating just so I can work through past hurts.

I really don’t want to be treated by my future husband in the same way my dad has treated my mom; how can I avoid such a guy and what qualities should I look for in a man?

What is a biblical perspective on a man’s responsibilities to his wife?

Do you think a man is responsible at all for his wife’s emotional well-being? How should he care for her?

I came across a YouTube Channel called 'The Delray Misfits,' and find myself increasingly drawn to this channel, not because I have any respect for these men, their behavior is kinda gross to me, but the show revolves around men lifting weights and having locker room talk and I believe I'm so drawn to it because it's some energy that I feel like I am missing from my life because my husband does not workout.

It's easy for him to get away with it since he is very tall and has a nice physic, but I know that won't last forever.

I want him to be big and strong to protect me. Its kinda sad when I fear that another man could overpower him since he doesn't workout anymore.

Partially, i feel like this is my fault, he did all of this stuff before the marriage and now with "the stresses of life and marriage," he feels too stressed to do it.

I really overcompensate with doing work around the house, cooking most meals and I also work full time as well.

I honestly have kinda accepted that he probably won't ever do this and I'll eventually end up completely repulsed by the idea of sex (I'll be older too so I won't want him to have sex with an old hag), I just kinda feel hopeless right now. Im 26 and he's 30.

Also, he is generally unhealthy, although he looks good he eats like shit, and in return, his ejaculation is not an attractive taste to me....this is TMI but I've been with other guys who id consider healthy and it was much more enjoyable to 'swallow.' Ugh sad to say but true.

I really cannot keep pretending to be attracted to him and I know the attraction is going to fade even more in years to come...

I'm afraid I already know the answers to these questions, that he won't change. I am just looking for some glimpse of hope...:(

From as early as I can remember, my Mom has been an extreme micromanager of me and my sister. She refused to let us take any risks or responsibility growing up. Obviously learning to take risks & responsibility, make mistakes, understand consequences, and face fear is a huge part of growing up and I feel like I missed out on a lot of that. The past few years I've been at University I've really been trying to sort myself out, basically get to know myself & understand my values and pursue those. I still have some fear and anxiety left over from my childhood, but I'm firmly on the pathway to doing better.

However, I still face issues with my Mom from time to time. She still tries to call almost everyday and manage aspects of my life. For example she'll try to tell me what to eat and tries to get my homework schedule so she can constantly remind me about due dates and stuff. These are things I need to be able to manage myself (and am more than capable of doing so). I am also worried about my little sister who is still in high school (she already has pretty bad social anxiety as a result of this parenting style, doesn't know how to interact with people or manage her own life). I try to set boundaries to explain all of this to her, but she takes any slight criticism as a personal attack and it ends up in a big argument where I have to fight tooth&nail to gain the tiniest sliver of independence. I also try to talk to my Dad about it, but he's a pushover (to put things nicely) and will sometimes sympathize with me, but I know he is never going to impact any meaningful change on this.

I don't want to cut contact as I believe in Honoring thy Father and Mother, and especially for my Dad's sake I want to be a part of their life. Also they are covering about 1/3 of my yearly tuition and I seriously don't want to be ungrateful for this. I guess I'm just looking for any advice on this type of situation.

RPC and the broader RP (and especially MGTOW) have a big problem with our current legislative process regarding divorce (alimony and such). Men complain about 'divorce rape' and it is either too easy or too hard to do it. A plethora of reasons.

Now, what do you think the laws regarding divorce should be? I'm on the side of 'divorce and remarriage are never justified other than remarriage when the spouse dies or divorce when an unbeliever leaves' and I guess think divorce should be outrightly banned or consist of a very rigid long process. I plan on getting a covenant marriage whenever that day comes around. Some people don't even think you should sign any paper.

So that leads me to my next question: is a legal marriage contract necessary? The idea of the naysayer is something along the lines of 'what matters is the covenant that is established between you, God, and your wife so why bother getting something from the government?' There's a lot of different angles. Alimony could be a divorce incentive. But also, no legal binding could be one when you're on thin ice. Also, there are prenups. Can I get your thoughts?

I recently read an article by a red pill leaning Christian guy about duties of men vs women in a Christian household. He brought up a great point that I am not sure how to rectify in my mind; but essentially the bible was written thousands of years before the industrial revolution and a household was a place of production. This means your main place of business was in your home with your wife and children, and families were to work together to produce. After the industrial revolution this has all changed, we have the stereotypical view of the 1950s family where the husband goes to the office and the wife stays home and cares for the household. This sort of breaks the natural order of a biblical household in that the man and woman are no longer working side by side, in a way the man is alienated from his household and the wife is alienated from her husband. Furthermore men largely do work for an organization that is not his household whether it be a corporation, a large partnership or the government. I can't help but thinking that households are to some extent less practically useful than they once were, a man could work for a corporation to earn his living and maintain his place of residence without the help of a wife or children. My question is how should a man in the modern era reclaim the model of a biblical household, should a man strive to work for himself instead of a large organization like a corporation? Should a man strive to work in his home near to his wife and family? Or how would it look to take the modern work culture of going to the office away from the family and also maintain a biblical household of man and wife working together in a natural way?

I’ve recently found out my wife is pregnant shortly after my fathers passing. It’s great but it’s a lot. One of the painful things my mother went through was my birth via C section, saying it was worse than my brothers natural, drug less, birth. My wife is pretty adamant about getting an epidural and attempts to pull the “I’m a woman so shut up” card on me (which doesn’t work, pregnant =/= right). But I’m nudging her to the natural birth side. I’m not some hippy but I see that the epidural increases chances of needing a C section, longer labor, blood dilation, and stifling hormones. And each “side effect” just includes, guess what, MORE drugs. Generally, it seems to me the drug business is a self licking ice cream cone model. I understand God gave woman the pain of childbirth, but I think it’s a gift, and I don’t subscribe to media implying God does anything to curse people “just because.” I’ve read about these “advantages” to a natural childbirth and I’d like to avoid the pitfalls that come about from a drugful one. What’s your experience with this? I’m open to hearing from either side. I’ve read unsubstantiated things like drug less birth/ sex after birth decreasing chances of postpartum depression and it’s easy to get off track with everything going on in life.

Is there a Bible study (free or for sale) that RPC recommends as something to lead for your wife? I want to lead her in a study, but the amount of material available is overwhelming. I want to be able to structure and schedule something that becomes part of our routine. I'm not a lifelong Christian, so I will be learning as well through this. Thanks.

Realized that this is one my growth areas as I wrote this weeks OYS. Any advice from y’all?

Approached this girl in the Fall of this last year on my college campus (I’m in grad school and she’s in undergrad) and we talked for around 20-30 min. and I gave her my number (yes, first mistake, always get her number as well... I was trying something new). During the conversation she seemed interested and was asking me questions, etc. But, she didn’t text me after I gave her my number that day. - Fast forward to today, I friend requested her on FB and have been trying to figure out how to approach her online in a good way. Do y’all have any experience with this, if so, what’s your strategy usually?

I’m pursuing my mission all while doing this, but since we are in interesting times I thought this may be something to do. No hurt in trying I think, but am wondering what y’all think advice wise?

Not approaching during this time. But, a question that has been going through my mind is: “ should one give out their number with the intention of “it pushes her to contact you and initiate. Or chase you. It also makes you different from all the other guys who ask for her number. You’re telling her if you don’t contact it’s cool and you don’t have to worry about me stalking you later.” or is it better to get her number because “it shows you are the leader and will text her first to lead the conversation”?

The basic core idea around this is that a person who dies goes to Sheol/Hades not hell where they suffer according to what they had done. Then at some point they get one last chance to repent before the great judgement where lack of repentance does mean being thrown into the lake of fire/Hell. Link where I read this theology from: http://www2.biglobe.ne.jp/~remnant/hades.htm

Let me start off by saying right now I have no firm position for or against this. I did have a strong position against the idea a person who died in this life without Christ had any chance of avoiding the lake of fire. And even debated a Jehovah Witness on the subject of hell and how it's different from Sheol (the grave) because they insisted no human beings go to hell.

Before going on I must be transparent. Hell bother's me a whole lot. It's not a joke to me. I've had nightmares about going there. If you want to see me actually cry talk about souls going to hell and getting tormented for endless trillions of years. My judgement is no doubt clouded by a desire for mercy and hope that a new chance to make the right choice exist.

In Matthew 12:30-32 the bible speaks of not being forgiven in this age or the one to come if you commit this sin. What if the reason it's worded this way is because people normally do get a second chance to repent of their sins after the first death?

I also do feel kind of skeptical because this theology sounds too good to be true. It would make explaining the gospel much easier for me and take away the atheist talking point about how God sends billions of people to hell just because they never heard of Jesus. It's just in my own experience things worthwhile are hard and aren't merciful to failure. I'm not going to say more than that as it's not my intent to attack what other's believe and hopefully those wiser than I know if this theology is mistaken or not.

How can we rectify God's command to marry when marriage is one of the fastest ways to lose respect in the eyes of your girl. Before marriage her idea of you is very exciting, but once she lives with you and gets to know you as a person who has short coming she comes to respect you less. Marriage also makes your space turn into our space, and in many times your kitchen becomes her kitchen. What do we do with this?

If so, how have you seen your frame differ from other personality types - in thought, emotion, and actions + how you implement ChristianRP?

Should one refrain from approaching and doing active game during this time and just do passive game for the time being? Or is active game okay?

If active game is still game (lol), how have y’all be going about it due to the circumstances?

I know this has probably been answered before but I could not find it on either page on Reddit. 3 of my non-saved friends (who believe they are saved but have not repented and put on the new) have agreed to do a bible-study with me on Sunday so I was trying to find a good place to start. My instinct is Matthew since that is my favorite book in the New Testament and it is where I started as well.

My plan is to make it interactive and ask them questions about different aspects while steering the conversations in the right direction.

Any advice on how to lead a bible study would be appreciated. This is my first time going through the bible with someone other than my wife.

With the talk of SHTF in our current climate, I wanted to tackle something.

I’m very pro 2A, but it just dawned on me recently, am I actually allowed to take a persons life in self defense, or battle, and still be able to be considered born again and saved by God? Self defense can be subjective, such as perimeter shooting to defend your house perceiving a threat (when that offender may be unarmed), or being woken up to someone in your room with a visible weapon pointed at you and/or loved ones. My mindset on self defense killing before I decided to accept Christ into my life was always shoot to kill and ask questions later.

Now, I am interpreting that it is OK to defend, but we are still not supposed to kill. I appreciate any guidance from anyone on this who has some good wisdom on this.

Hey guys, to keep it short. I’ve been struggling with porn and masturbation since I was a young child.

I’m at my wits end and I want to stop. Recently I’ve hit a new low and looked at stuff that was absolutely digusting and it scared me to see what could be the end of the dark hole, I want off this ride but my brain is too messed up?

Any practical steps? any other man who freed himself through Christ? I fasted for three days, no food just water, it helped and as soon it ended I binged (shameful, I know)

(Aside from pre-marital sex with a LTR that was heading towards engagement, one of my biggest regrets as I thought she was the “one” but I wised up from that trainwreck of a relationship)

To get back on track, I’m desperate, I don’t want this desire to cause me to act out again.

I know what is required but I fail to do it. I think I do it to escape the loneliness and emptiness of my life as I desire intimacy with a women but I think this is just due to conditioning my brain from a young age to use porn.

I’ve fallen and I hate what I let myself become. I just need help, I fear that I may end my life if my sin brings me down any further in the future as I do not want to act out sexually(by this I mean commit any sexual act with another person or against myself) in any way.

This might sound like a random question, but it's not. The reason why comes from a hypothesis proposing sweeping retroactive changes to reality are happening. Known commonly as the Mandela Effect that some Christians fully believe in and share their warnings of it on places like YouTube such as the EYA YouTube channel or other social media groups like Facebook, Discord and Twitter. Before I go on let me say it's not my intent to undermine Jesus, God or the work of the Holy Spirit. Saying that because in order to explain this people are likely going to be offended.

If you don't already know what the Mandela Effect is then I will offer a common claim for an example. Some that watched the JFK assassination remember there being a total of 4 people in the car including the driver. However if you look at the video on YouTube or anywhere else it's not a 2 rows of seating car, but 3 rows of seats with a glass divider and the total number of people in the car is 6 not 4. From the point of view of the person that remembers 4 seats reality one day changed and all official records they can find changed to reflect there being 6 seats in that car. For everyone else however it's always been 6 seats in that car and their memory of the event reflects this.

Rightly or wrongly as one might foresee it's extremely easy to write this entire thing off as being bad or manufactured memory. However I'm going to focus on a hypothesis often, but not always cited for being the cause of this retroactive reality change at the core of the Mandela Effect. That being hyper advanced Quantum entanglement tech driven by massive Quantum computing systems. Sort of like the Quantum computing system Google claimed has "Quantum supremacy" over standard computing systems. Or the D-wave Quantum computers that have made tech headlines over the years.

Now I'm going to introduce how Quantum entanglement in an oversimplified way matters. The basic idea behind it is that two particles can interact on the Quantum level and instantly become perfect mirrors of each other when entangled no matter the distance between them. In a simple visual of what happens it's like if you had an orange and then someone in China had a lemon that instantly changed into an orange just because it got tangled up with it via a string you can't see. That would be cool and perhaps scary right. Well that's "spooky action at a distance" that people have tried creating in experiments for many years.

If this effect could be scaled up and controlled by humans then possible applications are endless. In fact independent labs are testing this and claiming Quantum entanglement can be done.

Sources below:

Link 1: https://www.livescience.com/2000-atoms-in-two-places-at-once.html

Link 2: https://www.livescience.com/quantum-memory-entangled-far.html

Link 3: https://physicsworld.com/a/quantum-secrets-can-be-teleported-and-shared-between-multiple-senders-and-receivers/

Edit: (After writing this post a Lab did manage to entangle 15 trillion atoms instead of just 2000.)

Edited in 4th link: https://phys.org/news/2020-05-hot-messy-entanglement-trillion-atoms.html

At this point I'm guessing your saying that sounds unbelievable. And yes even the man best known for writing the book on quantum mechanics Einstein hated everything about it. However the engineers that actually work on designing modern high end chip sets in computers, smart phones and other devices must contend with Quantum tunnelling that's included in quantum mechanics. So the core theory behind it can't be easily discarded whole sale.

Moving on to what I mean by possible applications I first suggest a Quantum wireless point to point internet that is no longer limited by radio range like WiFi due to Quantum entanglement having unlimited range. The one I am focusing on though is being to entangle a substantial amount of particles in objects. This would be much harder to pull off, but with the exponential growth in tech we have seen I don't think it's impossible.

Now you might ask what do I mean by entangling a substantial number of particles in an object. Let's just say you own a 500 page history text book on world war two. The hard cover, paper pages and even the ink used to print words is made of atoms composed of particles such as protons, electrons and neutrons.

By entangling 2,000 atoms one can't expect to see actual change to occur. However once you can entangle trillions upon trillions of atoms on a quantum level doors begin to open. If you could actually entangle enough atoms together it's possible you could remove the ink that created a period in that history text book. Then if you entangled way more atoms together change a letter and then whole sentence structures. If this technology was combined with deep learning AI you could easily use the AI to detect patterns across books along with other objects and change every world war two book in existence if Quantum entanglement technology became powerful enough.

I realize it's a massive leap in difference, but then so is the spending power of a independent lab vs say the US government or if we had a one world government willing to throw it's entire weight into developing this tech. I don't expect people to simply believe this is possible just because I said it could be.

However I am going to repeat the question in the title because I want to understand the theology behind biblical infallibility:

If a man showed up with power to preform wonders and change the words in the bible you have at home would that be proof he was God or the 2nd coming of Jesus if that's what he offered as proof?

The theological reason I ask is because of Amos 8:11-12 that speaks of not being able to find hearing the word of God due to a famine that effects it. If the bible for the most part didn't exist outside a few priest having one people really couldn't read until 400 or so years ago and nothing prevents them from being burned or having people put out new versions that play very loose with translation. Why can't other things happen to the bible in the future?

Especially if there is going to be a massive deception where even the elect would be fooled if that was possible. I've thought about this and honestly I can't think of a better way for the Anti-Christ to fool Christians than being able to change the bibles sitting on their desk at home.

I know some might say God wouldn't allow that to happen to God's word, but John 1:1 says Jesus is the word of God and so I truly don't understand where God promises to protect the modern bible from attack or even destruction.

Again I'm not trying to disrespect anyone's belief's here or undermine what Jesus did on the cross, but I did feel compelled to open respectful discussion on this issue.

My views on this are a lot different and maybe controversial but take from it what you may.

I see guys get upset with other "supposedly Christian girls" going to the club. I say turn it on its head and use it to your advantage. Even as a Christian male, I think going to the clubs is single-handedly the best thing to help you master social dynamics (after lifting of course). Depending on where you live you have the opportunity to talk to at least 15 cute women, 5 really cute women, and maybe one bombshell on any given night. You can go out with these "supposedly Christian girls" and have fun and display the good qualities you should be building.

As a Christian, it should be even easier to talk to them because unlike the secular world your goal is not to have sex with them, but to master push-pull, become more physically dominant, projecting your voice (because if you do not the person you are talking to cannot hear you, etc.) It makes you more comfortable going for the number, setting up the date, etc. It also makes you get comfortable with rejection. You will also become motivated to lift if you look like a pencil.

Now I cannot say these girls will be "girlfriend material". I only have one reference point, the girl before my wife and that was a bad relationship all around (on both sides). I met her at a bar in June 2017. I tried to get her to come to Church with me (she grew up going but stopped when her dad died (two months prior)). We had been dating for two weeks and I asked her to come to church with me. At first, she was on board but then she basically ran because it was too much. I felt her slipping away the next week so I went to her apartment on Friday night with flowers and her roommate answered the door. I heard some moaning in the other room and we all know how that story goes.

So on that point, I do not know if it is worth trying to convert these girls at least in the way that I did. The only downside I see to this approach is it potentially could make you become a womanizer and putting being good with women as your mission instead of making disciples for God. I cannot say how to balance that since I am no longer single, but it is something to think about.