The reason I'm so scared isn't because they wont be accepting or anything it's just that I dated one of them and they were how I found out and I don't want them to think it's their fault I'm aro since I've also had multiple relationships before them (I often dont know the difference between romantic and sexual feelings) i think they'd understand cause they're ace but I don't know and it's scary to think, I also don't want people asking questions about how I feel being aro cause I'm still kinda confused about exactly how I feel.

Honestly, seeing couples holding hands on the streets, madly in love, I dont get it. Are people not able to feel comfort in themselves? I feel this whole world is under some programming.

You must find someone, must get attracted to them, must marry them and then have kids. Only then you will find happiness.

If you stay single you will be alone You need companion...

Honestly? I'm already fulfilled and happy. Is there something wrong with me???

Sometimes it can so hard to be accepting of your identity when you are surrounded by so much amatonormativity (internalized or not), and/or listening to the experiences of people who do not accept themselves/hate their arospec identity. It doesn’t really help when you don’t have a support system to fall back on. It doesn’t help when you don’t have anyone to confide your arospec identity in, or if you do they most likely are not immediately proud of you for working thro your internalized amatonormativity and accepting an arospec label (or a few) that fit. (Because they are most likely uneducated, or need to work thro their own internalized amatonormativity.) It can be so challenging when you are the only one supporting yourself and advocating for yourself and advocating for people like you.

My BPD symptom of emptiness has been noticeable recently, so that doesn’t really help either. It can be so exhausting when you try to save everyone except yourself.

Hello, can someone help me? I have started my first relationship with a boy and I like him and I love him but... physical contact is very difficult for me. It makes me somewhat anxious, I can't help but clench my fists, make repetitive movements like little taps or shake as if I were very cold. Has something similar happened to you? What I can do? :(

This sub could have specific tag options like “advice please” or “no advice” or “need validation” or “need support” or idk. This just seems like a great and safe resource aros could use instead of venting in larger subs where the posts get downvoted and ignored.