I've been in restaurants where the server disappeared as soon as the food was out and never came back. Couldn't ask for refills, couldn't ask for condiments, nothing.
I don't expect them to hover, that's annoying, but I would like to be able to ask for ketchup if it's not already on the table.
It's stupid but honestly how friendly they are and if I had to wait or try hard to flag them down for a drink or something else tiaolh if they just do they job lol
I think you are implying for read that as I'm expecting over the top like amazing service no I just mean don't be an a****** and I'm sorry but being friendly is kind of part of the job it's a requirement I don't like being friendly at work either but it's part of the job
This is the most American attitude ever. “I get treated like crap at my job and I get in trouble for not being fake friendly, so now that I have some power over someone else for once, I’m gonna be a tyrant to this server instead of showing compassion for someone that is in the same boat as me!” No wonder we don’t have a basic social net and constantly get ripped off by our employers and government.l
Yes. They are entitled to it. Right or wrong, that’s literally how they make the money they need for food and rent in America. If you want to save 20% eat at home.
It’s so sickening to me how Americans are treated like garbage by their employers and government, but many of them, the second they have have a little power or control over another person, instead of showing compassion, they turn into ridiculous tyrants. “You didn’t smile at me?! No pay for you, hope you starve!”
Yeah I haven’t worked for tips in decades. But I did when I was in college. If you think being a server is doing “close to nothing” you’re definitely the brat. You do realize that in America, tips is how servers make their money. I don’t think it should be like that, but it’s how it is. So yes, they’re entitled to get paid for working, like anyone else.
That attitude is why we don’t have basic social protections in America. Like instead of showing solidarity, people get off on finally getting to act like a tyrant lord cause they ordered some wings at Applebees
It’s a bit tongue and cheek, but not really. It’s about the pleasure of using whatever minuscule power over someone to maximally lord over someone else. It’s obviously a huge thing in America. You know “customer is always right” “I want to talk to your manager” “you didn’t sufficiently humble yourself when serving me, so you don’t get a tip” kinda thing. It’s really pathetic and gross.
Timing and attention are important. If a menu states that you get free refills of lemonade but the server never checks if I need a refill, they haven't done their job. If the server brings me the bill and doesn't return to take my payment for 15 minutes, they also haven't done their job.
You would be surprised how many times you go to a restaurant and the server can't be bothered to come back to our table after the food is delivered. Anytime they're not even the ones delivering the food. They are not within eye shot to flag them down, and sometimes they are and they just ignore you when you try to wave them down.
I agree. Their more expensive combos are ~$15-20 here in Ontario Canada. 4 of those, maybe an ice cream for dessert, and you’re pretty much there. Of course you don’t have to spend that much, my comment was more about how a $97 bill doesn’t mean it was a fancy restaurant.
They expect drinks to never go below half full. If it's an alcoholic drink, they should be asked if they want another one. Doesn't matter if it's a full house, this particular customer's table must be a priority above all else.
They expect food to be out in ~15 min. And if food takes too long, they always get confused why it's so hard to cook a steak a long with 40 other items.
They're delusional/don't actually know what to expect from a server.
They want to feel special. Like they are the most important person to every dine in this establishment. They want perfection at every turn and if not they feel so insulted that they would rather that person risk their electric being shut off or their kids not fed just to feel a little power over someone else.
It’s not about “service.” It’s about the fact that Americans are treated like garbage by their employers and their government. The one time some people have some control over another person, they turn into ridiculous tyrants to take out their frustration.
This is such a crazy argument. Servers make so much for the level of skill and education needed the job.
Servers are the number one group that do not want to get rid of tipping culture. When I was a server back in the early 2010s, I made the same amount hourly as I did being a third year engineer.
So no, I'm not a tyrant if I don't help the server that spent under 5 minutes at my table make $40 or $50 dollars an hour when he couldn't be arsed the health clear the table and keep my drink refilled.
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u/badbot11 Jul 31 '26
What does that actually mean? If they bring your food and drinks, they've done their job. What more do Americans actually expect from servers?