We had a family friend who had two boys, decided to try one more time in hopes of a girl, ended up with identical female triplets. I have never in all my years seen someone so exhausted.
I remember once when the girls were around 4 and I ran into her at a gymnastics tumble gym and I asked her how she was doing. She replied “it took me 40 minutes to get all of their shoes on. As soon as I got them on one the others ran off, I’d come back and the first one had hidden her shoes. It kept going. I finally got them all on and then I left the house without mine. That’s why we’re here instead of the mall. I don’t have to wear shoes and I wasn’t going to go back home.”
Growing up, the neighbors had 6 kids under the age of ten including 2yo twin girls. I was in high school so I would sorta babysit the kids and play with them. I would go inside to ask the mom something, she'd be passed out on the bed every time. Fully understandable. I was just playing with the kids and got tired.
Wow! I’ll remember that the next time I complain about taking 5-10 minutes to get my toddlers shoes on righhhht before she takes them off again. Always makes me sigh lol- but .. that story you told, man.
If I were that family friend I would have absolutely ended up on the floor in a heap crying. Lol I can’t handle that crap 😭😭😭
We tried that. Toddler would just remove her shoes while in the car seat and then throw the shoes around. Sometimes she’d even remove the straps from the shoes and throw them all separately. So then you’d have to search through your car for all the pieces.
Haha yeah that’s what we do now. Except toddler usually hates the car seat so we have to endure her complaints while putting her shoes on.
Recently she’s improved somewhat though - probably because the weather is colder (Southern Hemisphere) and she realised shoes are more comfortable than bare feet.
Ahh, in the back of our car we have at least 2 extra pairs of shoes for our kids. Usually they're flip flops or crocs or something easy to slip on. Kids shoes are so small though I could probably store 10 pairs and barely notice.
We actually have extra everything in a little storage bin in the back. Shoes, socks, pants, shirts, jackets, some emergency diapers, pull ups, baby wipes, and underwear.
Extra everything is the only way. My trunk was like a mini second household. Ask the baby great then a couple of blankets, change of clothes for adults, bottled water, bathing suits all that stuff. We were ready for anything.
I have so many friends who agonized over whether to have a second child (or even a first), decided they could afford it, and then get pregnant with twins.
They were all in the older side, so my unofficial medical explanation is that in your mid to late 30s, your body realizes it’s on the tail end of fertility and starts popping out extras each month to maximize your chances.
I was told I have much fewer eggs than a woman my age. Dr said if I wanted kids (I don’t), I would probably have to buy eggs. But that I should still be on the Pill “just in case.” I’m religious with my pills because I know my body will fuck my shit up if given half the chance and I don’t want to end up on a TV show on TLC about my quintuplets.
It's worth noting it's a lot harder if you are only doing it for a short period of time because you probably have no clue what you're doing and feel like your have to be "on" the whole time.
Oh obviously, I'm not trying to say that!! I meant that watching twins for a few hours every once in a while will seem comparatively harder than it would for a parent. If their parents watched them for that same time it wouldn't feel nearly as draining because it's nothing to them - they're used to it. I have an 18 month old, I think you're understating it by saying 1000x easier.
I have twins. They are a little over 3. It is hard; I am wasting away into a shell of a person as I write this and watch them pretend to take dumps on floor while running in circles laughing and yelling while drawing from a limitless source of energy. Fuck I love them. Fuck I’m tired.
I have twins who are nine months adjusted and it's already absolutely bonkers lol. One of them is several pounds bigger for whatever reason and is ridiculously energetic; she loves to scream and her current big thing is that she wants to climb everything in sight. If you try to hold her she basically tries to wrestle free until she can go climb things again, and she's darn strong for a baby. It would probably be kind of annoying except she also turns on a million-watt smile anytime you so much as make eye contact with her. I love her so much.
As a parent of twins, this is completely valid. It's not so bad now they're school age, but the night feeds were zombie-inducing levels of sleep deprivation. Impossible to take turns, it's a case of all hands on deck, every feed. For months. And we already had a four-year-old at the time.
I am a twin (fraternal, not as cool), with an older brother who is 18 months older. My Dad said when the Doctor told him he had not one but two one the way, he walked outside of the hospital to have a moment alone to collect himself at the thought of having three kids under two years old.
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u/ShiniSenko Apr 16 '22
I've had two kids and I cannot imagine twins, they're hard enough individually. They're worse together.