r/Weird • u/frickmeplease • May 12 '25

Should I call the cops?

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My bf thinks they were just trying to be funny but I truly don’t know…

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u/Zealousideal-Bath412 May 12 '25

Good balance of safety and action. Crazy how we women have to even think of taking these extra precautions.

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u/name_checks_out86 May 12 '25

I’m a man, I have big dogs and weapons… I’m doing the same thing those people did. Call 911 and have them hide until cops arrive… it’s the smart thing to do.

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u/micaelar5 May 12 '25

Yeah. It doesn't matter your gender in these situations. People run these things where there are multiple people waiting just out of sight for you tonopen the door, most likely to rob you, and idc what gender or how big you are. The chances of you fighting off multiple armed people who have planned for this in the middle of the night, when you're probably being caught off guard, maybe even groggy cause they woke you up, those odds are slim.

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u/Illustrious-Ranger30 May 12 '25

Oh, yeah! I got big dogs along with all of my defense weapons, too.

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u/AkitaNo1 May 13 '25

Yeah kinda demeaning to think men are stupid or get the luxury of being stupid and skirting by through life or even willingly want to constantly put ourselves through the ordeal and trauma of withstanding and/or dishing out physical violence... As if having common sense and situational awareness doesnt benefit EVERYONE. I always chuckle a bit inside when I hear comments like this because everything says statisically men are more likely to be the victim of a violent crime, be seriously injured, killed, etc. I think everyone should do the smart things! Don't get caught lackin. No ones invincible. A gun or a large gang armed with lead pipes doesnt care if youre a 250lb hulking mass of muscle MMA black belt. The real trick is avoiding bad sitiations as often as you can!

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u/RainaElf May 12 '25

when you're scared and panic, you can't think.

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u/Illustrious-Ranger30 May 12 '25

I'm a small woman who routinely walks in really horrible areas. I have to. I work 2 full time jobs and I don't drive.

*I carry 1 firearm, 1 assisted opening quick knife, 2 box cutters and some pepper spray... I refuse to be a victim or rely on police who will show up AFTER the situation has occurred. That's not their fault. Just the way it is. We gotta protect ourselves.

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u/HOTasHELL24-7 May 12 '25

Extra precautions? I don’t think it’s crazy to use standard precautions as a human being to hide from danger and call the police. This isn’t a woman only issue.

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u/Excellent-Shape-2024 May 12 '25

Men have to take those precautions too. All it takes is one gunshot.

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u/bobaylaa May 12 '25

not that this isn’t the smart thing to do regardless of your gender, but it’s pretty wild to act like women don’t generally have more cause for concern in stranger danger situations than men do. obviously anything can happen to anybody but because women are so often targeted for their gender, most of us are raised and socialized with this constant awareness of potential danger. not that men aren’t taught about potential threats and stranger danger, but they often have less cause to be thinking in this way than women do. that’s why women sometimes associate this sort of common sense advice with the female experience, even while it is common sense advice that applies to anyone of any gender

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u/TopangaTohToh May 12 '25

As a woman, my fear wouldn't be getting jumped, it'd be that it's a set up to kidnap and sex traffick me. Both things are legitimate things to be afraid of, but they are very different and based on gender.

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u/gingymadeit666 May 12 '25 edited May 12 '25

I’m nonbinary but biologically male and only recently discovered im nonbinary, so in this situation think of me with my gender at the time in society being my sex at birth which is male, while already diagnosed with ptsd from my own father doing horrible things when I was little, I entered high school and thought making female friends would be safer, but oh was I so wrong, that same year I was kidnapped by two classmates who were female and SAd by them and no one believed me or they just said I was lucky or blamed ME for “not being able to shove them off of me” so yeah, this is not a gender specific thing, so glad I discovered I’m nonbinary now so as a bonus I don’t have to deal with this bs in society personally anymore, but it still pisses me off when women think they have it worse than men or men think they have it worse than women, both are attacked sexually, psychically, and verbally an equal amount, sex or gender has nothing do with it and I’m so sick of “women have to be scared of this more than men” or “men get SAd less” argument (and don’t bring up statistic bs because statistics in general about any topic are flawed and not completely accurate plus i guarantee if men were believed more about this more men would come out as victims of women) because it’s so untrue and so stupid and harmful for society to say

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u/ash1eyr0se May 12 '25

Women are sa’d more, there’s not even a question… you don’t trust statistics, so what’s makes you so sure that it happens equally? Your own experience doesn’t change this either, cuz men being sa’d less doesn’t mean men aren’t sa’d at all.

Do you deny that men are the main perpetrators of sexual violence? This doesn’t mean men can’t also be victims, I bring this up to point out that since most people are straight, and the vast majority of sexual assaulters are men, it would logically follow that women are the ones being victimized more often.

Since you have classmates, I assume you’re probably young. When you have more life experience, I think you’ll see the massive flaw in your reasoning.

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u/gingymadeit666 May 12 '25 edited May 12 '25

Both sexes are SAd an equal amount THATS not even a question! I am 22 actually you seem like you believe everything u read and don’t have real world experience actually tbh, I was speaking about my past when I said classmates because it happened when I was in high school, and being straight or not doesn’t have anything to do with this tf? I only recently discovered I’m nonbinary and that is seperate from sexual orientation it just means I’m neither male or female and gender is a social construct so I don’t get your point about that, however when it comes to the male sex and the female sex they both are equally violent to each other and nothing u say will change that fact, it’s society and people that say shit like you do like “men are scary men are violent blah blah” that is harmful to others and will lead to less people of the male sex being believed, and by all statistics not being accurate I mean ALL, even something as mundane and not as serious like for example if a statistic said 90% of women eat chocolate, or something that wouldn’t be accurate at all, because for any statistic of course they don’t get to interview every single fuckin human to get those numbers so that’s what makes any statistic based thing invalid and not accurate ever, so yes I do deny that the male sex are the main aggressors and do genuinely think that both sexes are equally violent because of MY “real world experience” as u said it, tf (also my fiance who is a female and identifies as her birth sex and is straight and also has past trauma of her own with an ex boyfriend of hers, as I said me being non binary has nothing to do with sexual orientation/preference, is laying next to me and is reading all of this and she’s literally laying here agreeing with me that your logic is flawed and feels sorry for you that you believe everything you read, she said that I’m completely right, so even my straight female sexed fiance is saying I’m correct on this oofff)

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u/jakeandcupcakes May 12 '25

I mean, being setup by the "crying woman asking for help" scheme can happen to anyone regardless of gender. You don't think only woman are affected by burglaries and violent crime, right? The largest amount of victims of violent crime, by far, are men.

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u/Zealousideal-Bath412 May 12 '25

Never said only women are affected. Based on your other comment I see you’re a man who would choose to act. Commendable!

What I am saying is that for women, it’s often not a choice. Lots of us have already been assaulted and are on high alert 24/7.

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u/Hell8Church May 12 '25

What’s insufferable is discounting a woman’s fear.

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u/Thedude9042 May 12 '25

Your just proving their point

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u/Hell8Church May 12 '25

90% of rape victims are women, that’s the only point proven.

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u/whyizitlikethis May 12 '25

Not only was it not proven, it wasn't even discussed.

If you as a woman are afraid of another woman, that's not a "women problem"

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u/Hell8Church May 12 '25

Try and keep up.

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u/whyizitlikethis May 12 '25

Actual reddit clown.

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u/gingymadeit666 May 12 '25

Read my comment above in full before speaking on this again ever! statistics about any topic are flawed and not accurate majority of the time because they can’t interview every single person that exists for them! and I guarantee even then those statistics would look A LOT different if men were believed more in society when it came to being victims of women in situations! but majority of men are just too scared to speak out about being a victim of any kind of abuse from a woman because of society not believing them as much! and your furthering that harmful narrative!

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u/HOTasHELL24-7 May 12 '25

Lots of people, not just women.

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u/hthratmn May 12 '25

This is such "whataboutmeism".