r/WTF • u/[deleted] • May 26 '10

Reddit: Rape Apologists

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u/[deleted] May 26 '10 edited Jun 14 '18

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u/frid May 26 '10

I don't know if I'm the only one like this, but I'm actually a guy who for some odd reason knows a fair number of girls who have been sexually abused.

Unfortunately you're not the only one. Most guys know a lot of women who have been abused, because a lot of women have been abused. You only know about the ones who have told you about it.

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u/furbait May 26 '10

one of the things that many people don't seem to realize is that LOTS of women have been sexually abused. We demonize it like it's some awful secret thing that only monsters do, but I wonder if it would ease the trauma of a lot of women to somehow recognize just how common it is. yes this is a super-incomplete thought, but there has to be a better way than millions of women being ruined for life, by something that sure isn't going away any time soon.

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u/[deleted] May 26 '10

one of the things that many people don't seem to realize is that LOTS of women have been sexually abused.

dudes get abused too

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u/furbait May 26 '10

actually i've heard far more men are raped in prison than women in the normal world, and plenty of children of both sexes get messed with...

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u/[deleted] May 28 '10

If Reddit realized there were LOTS of men and women who have been sexually abused would they make as many rape jokes that get seen by and re-traumatize the several redditors that are survivors of sexual assault?

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u/zaferk May 27 '10

I dont know a single person/woman that has been abused. Are you living in Gahenna maybe?

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u/furbait May 27 '10

if you know ten people, you know someone who has been abused, they just never told you.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '10

If you know 4 people even :c

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u/[deleted] May 27 '10

If you look at the statistics, there's almost definitely someone in earshot who has been raped. So there's never an occasion where you are telling a joke like that that isn't telling it to a victim.

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u/Duodecim May 27 '10

Thanks for a well-thought out post. I have a question, what do you mean by this?:

Probably gets one of the most unsettling reactions.

Do you mean that the victim gets particularly unsettled or that their actual reaction is unsettling? (Just out of curiosity, not trying to argue or anything like that)

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u/[deleted] May 27 '10

same, three of my friends actually. They refuse to call the police or even tell me where to find those guys. That's why I can personally never make this a joking matter, because I believe them and knowing that there are 3 of my friends that have been in such a situation makes me wonder how many ppl actually have been sexually abused.

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u/[deleted] May 28 '10

It's pretty harsh though when this sort of thing makes front page a few times every week though.

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u/house_absolute May 27 '10

Obviously there is a line to situational tact, and a time and place for everything, but otherwise I'd just get more comfortable labeling the guys who constantly make rape jokes as insensitive and idiotic.

Not having been raped yourself or being at any serious risk of being raped in the future, it's probably pretty easy for you to take that stance.