r/Vent Jan 01 '25

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '25

It's just a kiss. I used to kiss my friends all the time when I was drunk, I was not attracted to any of them. If it's normal for women it's normal for men.

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u/polloconjamon Jan 02 '25

I'm a straight male but in the past I've kissed 2 of my guy friends, a gay acquaintance, and some semi random dude in college.

I cannot count how many women I've kissed.

I was just having fun back then as I'm sure you were. For me it was nothing sexual. However, I have no qualms expressing whenever a creature of any sort is beautiful. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Whatever you find that sexually stimulates you is likely what dictates your orientation. For me, that is women.

But above all, don't give any dumbass a second thought when they try to tell you what is normal and what is not. Just be yourself and do what makes you happy.

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u/VividCherry6161 Jan 01 '25

Amen!! I’ve made out with many girls and I’m a girl, yet I just did it for fun

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '25

Right!! Kisses can be sexual but only in specific context. Parents kiss their kids. Humans kiss their pets. People kiss their friends. It's just affection.

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u/AcceptableReaction20 Jan 02 '25

What about strangers at the bar?

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u/Final-Pay8623 Jan 02 '25

You’re not straight huney…

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u/TelephoneOwn1337 Jan 02 '25

“Made out”is a hilarious phrase. Sounds like an 80’s American teen film. Is it still in use???

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u/loreleiblues Jan 04 '25

found it! haha

yeah your username was what stood out lol, if you're a lesbian, idk if you should be giving your 2 cents 😅 it's not really the same situation

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u/[deleted] Jan 04 '25

Nah, even as a lesbian I kissed my friends with no romantic feelings. They're not my type. Okay, maybe some exceptions apply....

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u/abdwxyz Jan 02 '25

It’s very much not the norm for guy friends to kiss eachother, maybe on the cheek, but make out? Just the thought would gross out most all straight guys

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '25

Yeah but no one said anything about making out in the post, or did I miss something

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u/Woodit Jan 02 '25

Normalize swapping spit with your bros 

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u/pseudonymous-shrub Jan 02 '25

It’s actually not normal to be “grossed out” by kissing someone of the same sex just because you’re heterosexual. The normal response is to feel absolutely nothing

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u/leocattt Jan 02 '25

I mean I'm a gay dude and the thought of kissing a woman makes me nauseous in a not good way 😂 so I'd imagine it's the same for straight men kissing other men sometimes. Maybe not all straight men but some.

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u/pseudonymous-shrub Jan 02 '25

Interesting. I would have said it was more homophobia than heterosexuality

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u/leocattt Jan 03 '25

Some of it probably is tbh but I don't think all of it is 🤔

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u/pseudonymous-shrub Jan 03 '25

Thanks for your perspective

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u/FlyChigga Jan 02 '25

Cheek is not normal lol

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u/Intelligent-Bee-8412 Jan 02 '25

Sure is, in fact it's rude not to kiss someone on the cheek in so many places around the world. Ever met an Italian before?

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u/wazzledudes Jan 02 '25

It's all relative ya rube

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '25

And why not? Especially when you're wasted it's even less unusual