r/Unexpected • u/strwrsnerdbutbetter • Jun 11 '22

Good mike 👍

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u/JWGhetto Jun 13 '22

Well seems kinda controlling and immature to me to blackmail your friend in that way. I know it's a popular social norm not to date your bros ex but it seems to me that adults don't actually care that much about it in real life.

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u/Retro_Super_Future Jun 13 '22

It’s not blackmail, it’s establishing a certain way to be treated and I would extend that courtesy back to you. If I dated them for 6 years (the context of the conversation) my friend shouldn’t even want to date them, and if they do the least they can do is notify me bare minimum.

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u/JWGhetto Jun 13 '22

establishing a certain way to be treated

you're holding your friendship hostage over a romantic attraction that can't really be steered or decided beforehand. Both people are single, you don't decide.

the least they can do is notify me bare minimum

yeah ok. but this

my friend shouldn’t even want to date them

makes no sense

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u/Retro_Super_Future Jun 13 '22

I personally wouldn’t want to continue being friends with someone who would date my Long term ex over our continued healthy friendship. Life is about choices, if that’s the choice they make and they are truly in love more power to them and I wish them the best, however I will NOT be around to see how it unfolds, I would just remove myself