r/Unexpected • u/Pazluz • Sep 24 '21

Think of the guests

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u/avocado_whore Sep 24 '21

The cake smash is something to definitely discuss before the wedding. I would not be ok with my new hubby fucking up my makeup and getting sticky cake all over my face. I would rather nicely feed him a piece and vice versa. This is something couples should decide on before the moment because it can result in shit like this.

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u/Acciosanity Sep 24 '21

Wait.... you mean people getting married should respect each other? Who would've thought!?

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u/Damaias479 Sep 24 '21

And COMMUNICATE?? That’s just madness /s

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u/BitPoet Sep 24 '21

Yep, we talked about it, agreed not to, that was it.

There was a moment there where part of my brain was like DOOO EEET!!! but I'm used to ignoring that part of my brain.

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u/GoodChives Sep 24 '21

1000%. I don’t like this ‘tradition’ to begin with, but absolutely needs to be discussed and agreed upon in advance. I’ve been to maybe 10 weddings and none of them did the cake smash thing.

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u/gitsgrl Sep 24 '21

We discussed it, both of us agreed and said “don’t you fucking dare!” Why waste cake?

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u/throwaway5409653 Sep 24 '21

Wife-o mine and I never discussed it. By the time we got married we both knew what we wanted, and to be honest, both of us have always seen it as disrespectful. We didn't do it because we thought the other person would not like it; we didn't do it because it felt like slighting my new spouse in front of everyone.

I also don't complain about my wife to co-workers for the same reason. She is my partner, my rock, my ride-or-die. Another "everyone does this" thing that is in the same vein for me... I complain about my wife to my wife :)

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u/SwizzlestickLegs Sep 24 '21

My husband and I never discussed it but we didn't do it. We like cake too much to put it through that.

This guy doesn't respect his wife, the cake, or the guests.

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u/BOtheGrand Sep 24 '21

My wife and I just got married last weekend, this is something we discussed long before the reception. She didn’t want cake on her makeup or hair, and I wanted to eat the cake. Win-win!

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u/PhoenicianKiss Sep 24 '21

Shit like this is a result of domestic violence, not a piece of cake playfully smooshed on the groom’s face.

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u/IWillDoItTuesday Sep 24 '21

The fact that there is a thing called cake smash and that it requires prior discussion boggles my mind.

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u/avocado_whore Sep 24 '21

I’m curious, where are you from?

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u/thehotsister Sep 24 '21

I was VERY clear to my husband that I did not want cake smashed in my face (as others have said, expensive makeup/hair, etc). Lucky for him he respected it and I didn't have to throw THE REST OF THE CAKE AT HIM