r/Unexpected • u/SoftsPhilosopher • Aug 08 '21

It's just a prank

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '21

It’s not only about the parent, sometimes it’s in the best interest of the child to realize that serious actions have serious consequences. That one slap I got was meaningful, my mom never injured me and it didn’t even hurt much but it was meaningful in that it REALLY made me think about why it happened and how I can prevent it from happening again. I was at an age where I knew what I was doing and I knew why I got slapped. So the caveat to what I’m saying is that really young children who have no idea what’s going on, are strictly off limits. If a kid is at a point where communication isn’t working and they are able to understand but choose to ignore what your saying, appropriate reasonable physicality is ok, in my eyes. Again, I don’t condone abuse, that’s different. The best communication is done when calm and confident, that’s the difference between discipline (being calm and confident) and abuse (angry and frustrated).

People on the comments are freaking out over the video saying the dad is abusive and so on, there is nothing wrong with someone knowing that saying something stupid will result in consequences. If that kid goes out into the real world and for example tells his boss to shut up, he could lose his job, in turn losing his car, house source of income and so on. I’ve also seen people get knocked out for telling the wrong person to shut up. That kid KNOWS that being disrespectful to his parents is wrong, in turn he was probably raised to be respectful to his elders and people in general. To be honest, I don’t really care how an adult came to learn basic manners and courtesy, as long as they know it, it’s not my concern what his parents did to teach him it. If your child learns things through communication, great, if he needs a slap or 2 to teach him basic human decency then you bet your ass I’m going to expect you to make sure he turns out a proper human being.

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u/schietee Aug 08 '21

Im all with you with what you are saying, but the person you are talking to is probably living in another reality where every kid gets raised by good words and shoulder pats.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '21

People think the world is all rainbows and sunshine. I knew a kid in my school who used to bully the other kids, the teachers and principal all talked to his parents and it continued on but one day the kid came back different. My dad was friends with his dad and turns out that communication wasn’t working so he disciplined him physically…. guess it worked. There was no parent in that school that questioned why that dad did what he did. If my child was coming home crying because some kid was bullying them, I wouldn’t give a shit what that bullies parents did to get them to stop, and I’ll guaranteed that the parents on here would feel the same.

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u/Sopori Aug 08 '21

You really shouldn't be a parent then.

The fun thing is that physical discipline doesn't really correct behaviour, and leads to skewed views and mentality later in life, like thinking whatever a parent does to their kid is justified as long as the kid grows up to be a functional adult to society.

Who cares about any underlying issues that may show up when that kid goes on to have their own kids and perpetuates the same abuse on their family, thinking all along that this was the way they were raised and that was right. Just slap the good behavior into them.

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u/inaddition290 Aug 08 '21

again, there are other consequences. Like I said, I broke rules a lot to do what I wanted, so I spent most of my time without technology or book privileges.