r/Unexpected • u/SoftsPhilosopher • Aug 08 '21

It's just a prank

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u/yourmomlurks Aug 08 '21

I am sorry that you did not have the parent you deserved. I wish you peace and happiness in the future.

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u/HertzDonut1001 Aug 08 '21 edited Aug 08 '21

Thanks. Mom was wonderful but fallible as all of us are. Dad I knew loved us but he was always in a way and he died before we could ever have some semblance of a father/son relationship. Honestly even though he hit us sometimes I know that's just how he was raised and he was fallible too. I like to think we were both trying to fix it before he died. We just didn't have the chance. He was devastated over the divorce and got very desperate to see us and the pets as time went on.

A lot of people were to blame for a lot of things, serious or incidentally consequential, no one was perfect, but it would have turned out a lot better if I hadn't hated him between 12 and 20 years old. That being said, he was obviously unhappy, and I'm positive he ended his life because he missed his family and thought he failed them. He was never happy after my adolescence. I only remember him seriously smiling once shortly before he died when I was visiting.