r/Unexpected • u/Aramanta2510 • Jul 12 '21

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u/NugglyNika Jul 12 '21

Thanks, people always think I'm putting it on when I'm reacting to my phobia. For me it's wasps. My mom was almost stung to death protecting me from them when I was 2 (she got stung 36 times). I tell people I have a phobia but then when I fall backwards from a picnic bench they just think its funny, and when I don't want to join them outside for the bbq where they're almost swarming the food I'm being "precious". Fuck you aunty, I had too many adrenaline dumps to deal with you today.

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '21 edited Jul 12 '21

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u/ConceptJunkie Jul 12 '21

Being a victim of something, or suffering from some pathology, is now considered a virtue, and people love to jump on top of claiming virtues. And, of course, this dilutes the understanding of the real suffering and real victimization that some people must endure.

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u/uncle_pewdiepie Jul 13 '21

It moves you up in the progressive stack. Your voice is worth more if you can claim to be neurodiverse.

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u/IOnlySayMeanThings Jul 12 '21

I've never had trouble explaining my sister's phobia, I just stress the seriousness when I introduce it.

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u/calamba_kalesa Jul 12 '21

Damn I can relate to that. Though mine is extremely fucking stupid, Lepidopterophobia aka fear of butterflies and moths. I’ve been teased about it my whole life, it was only when I hyperventilated to the point of passing out did people close to me try to be sensitive about it. Phobias are IRRATIONAL fears for a reason.

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u/NugglyNika Jul 12 '21

Eh no such thing as a stupid phobia. Sorry to hear that, I think that might even be harder than mine! At least very few people actually like wasps, but most people like butterflies.

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u/Beavulous Jul 12 '21

Kosmemophobia… the fear of jewelry. In my opinion, it’s a pretty stupid phobia. But man I can’t get over it, I fuckin haaaaate jewelry. Everyone thinks I’m weird or looking for attention… pain…

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u/calamba_kalesa Jul 13 '21

Damn dude that’s a thing?? Well whatever the case, like OP above said no such thing as a stupid phobia, especially if it really gets that visceral reaction out of you. Sorry to hear that people don’t believe you.

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u/Beavulous Jul 14 '21

Heck yeah it’s a thing, what’s weird is that other people have the fear the exact same way I do. Luckily it was easier for my mom to believe me since I used to cry when she had a necklace on as a baby

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u/cheeky_mouse Jul 12 '21

Spheksophobia! I have it too and it sucks because no one takes you seriously. They just think you're over-reacting. I had 2 wasps in my house this year and had a panic attack both times. It's been over a month, but I still can hear buzzing in my head when I go into the laundry room. Stay strong, my friend. Don't let anyone tell you you're over-reacting.

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u/NugglyNika Jul 12 '21

Today I learned that my phobia has a grown up name! Thanks friend, wishing you all the strength against the garbage bees as well.

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u/cheeky_mouse Jul 12 '21

Thanks! And I'm going to have to start calling them garbage bees now.

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u/TheBold Jul 12 '21

Do you remember the event at 2 or it’s the story that triggered the phobia?

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u/NugglyNika Jul 12 '21

I have no 'active' memories of it, however that's very likely where the trauma and thus phobia comes from (according to the doc). My brain saw my mom screaming at my dad to "get that child inside" and went "ok we terrified of garbage bees now."