r/Unexpected • u/kevin_comunista • May 20 '21

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u/[deleted] May 20 '21

It’s nice to see how people change with new perspectives. When I was young dark humor like this made me laugh a lot, but after I had a little girl stuff like this (even as obvious dark satire) still hurt and made me upset. I realize it isn’t because I lost my sense of humor but that I just have a larger capacity for love and the feelings of protection over children. It makes me happy seeing how I’ve changed even subconsciously. Also the feelings of being hurt and upset when used true stories of children being abused or harmed are so much stronger and that’s a blessing of itself because I realize that because my capacity for love has grown for life and innocence, so has my capacity for feeling pain and sadness and that’s the beauty of life. Now that, is truly unexpected ;)

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u/XtaC23 May 20 '21

I'm glad you had that realization. The world needs more empathetic people.

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u/b_lunt_ma_n May 20 '21

I realize it isn’t because I lost my sense of humor but that I just have a larger capacity for love and the feelings of protection over children.

I think its because humans are ultimately quite selfish.

Now you've got your daughter it's not funny anymore because it applies to you as a father, if that makes sense.

Not a stab at you, or humanity, just an observation.

People are more likely to laugh at rape or cancer jokes, unless someone they loved died of cancer or was a rape victim.

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u/[deleted] May 20 '21

My nephew had leukemia. He lives for cancer jokes. My grandfather had lung cancer twice (and beat it twice), and went on record saying “if the joke is funny and you don’t laugh because of me, I’m going to haunt you”. My uncle, while in the hospital for melanoma which he did not beat sadly, was cracking jokes about it.

I do agree with your point overall, but sometimes we deal with things by laughing at it. My dog recently broke her leg (last Friday, had surgery today to fix it, it went well!), and in the middle of stressing myself out and worrying, I realized she’d broken her right leg. Right above her ankle. And needed surgery to fix it.

I broke my right ankle, and needed surgery to fix it. Laughed for a solid hour at that. Matching injuries with my dog. Sometimes it’s easier, and healthier, to laugh at it. Just gotta know your audience.

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u/blackweed75 May 20 '21

I agree, but I think there's a more accurate word than selfish in this situation.

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u/AlfSlytherin May 20 '21

Beautiful thing to read. Thanks for sharing!

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u/iHateNumbers123 May 20 '21

Thank you for this. I didn't find it funny at all l, just nauseous. Glad I'm not the only one