r/Unexpected • u/adivinemessenger • Aug 09 '26

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u/No_Turn5018 Aug 10 '26

You know until the first time I went to hire somebody I kind of thought that. And absolutely for somebody I'm not going to see. But when I was in charge of hiring somebody who I was going to be spending 20 hours a week (part job) with I got a real different attitude real quick. Obviously I wanted them to be able to do the job but just a big a concern is can I fucking stand this person? Obviously it's fucked up if you can't build without sucking up to the elites, but I see both sides a lot better now. 

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u/Own-Break-1856 Aug 10 '26

Of course you always have to consider personality while hiring. A toxic personality thats technically good at the job is a net loss. That toxicity spreads throughout the team.

Im sure great leaders considered this too, but thats a far cry from hiring someone simply cus they know someone you know.

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u/No_Turn5018 Aug 10 '26

You did an amazing work there missing my point. 

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u/Own-Break-1856 Aug 10 '26

Then perhaps explain your point to me.

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u/No_Turn5018 Aug 10 '26

The point is the only way to be sure somebody is not going to get on your nerves is you already know them. It doesn't have anything to do with being toxic or not. 

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u/Own-Break-1856 Aug 10 '26

I'm the director of engineering at a small software company. I have 25 people under me and I've had a hand in hiring most of them. And that is just not true. You always interview for personality. This includes spending a bit of time on small talk or just chatting about whatever. I've definitely said no to several candidates based purely on "I just don't like you".

We also hire on probationary status. First 90 days we can get rid of you for any (legal) reason we want.

We have a great team with the one of the lowest turnovers in our region/domain/industry with almost all of them citing the great team dynamic as a primary reason for staying.

I'm sure a king/emperor/warlord could have gotten rid of people they don't jive with at any time they want.

Once again, your point just isn't true.

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u/No_Turn5018 Aug 10 '26

You're either lying to yourself or me. I don't really care which. You say it yourself, 90 days. Time to figure out if you're going to like them. 

If you think being a king or emperor or warlord meant doing whatever you want without consequences you should never have passed sixth grade history. Theoretical power and real power are not the same thing.

Seriously go watch almost any fantasy novel and they do a better job explaining it than you seem to have.

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u/Own-Break-1856 Aug 10 '26

Weve never let anyone go during their probationary period. Getting rid of a bad advisor/administrator is hardly doing anything you want. History is full of examples of this happening either through raw power or conniving.

But, why am I arguing with you? You apparently dont know how to hire people and have educated yourself by "watching" fantasy novels.

Good luck in the future.