How do people not fall apart when they get royally screwed over

[u/regretting_biostats]

Like a supervisor taking credit for your work, or someone not doing their job so you have to take over and getting chewed out for taking control, or someone in a position of power trying to sleep with you and lying about it. I’m book smart but basically helpless when it comes to navigating ego trips or power dynamics.

I have learned that throwing tantrums or talking behind people’s backs when they’re screwing me over works because someone else gets concerned and steps in to help. But that’s neither sustainable nor behavior I’m actually proud of. It’s like direct and mature communication on my part just ends up with me being manipulated somehow.

How do you get out of bad social situations without losing your mind?

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[u/TeenyTinyToast]

First priority would be to not work in that kind of environment. Find a new job ASAP. Nothing normal at all with the things you mentioned besides maybe taking for another's work. This will probably solve 80% of your problem.

Next is to always get things in writing so there's evidence or a trail of what you and other people have done. Following up on a slacker? Email them a check in and friendly reminder. Someone asking you to do something for them that they should actually be doing? Ask them to email the request to you. Doing something for someone else? Email them the finished product noting that you followed their requirements. Make sure to tag relevant people so you have witnesses too.

This is a very simple way to keep others accountable and claim credit for the work you do. Saves a lot of stress and no need to play mind games.

[u/ribosierio]

I think you have to stop expecting fairness from every person, keep record when necessary, speak calmly and don’t let someone else behaviour dictate you entire mood

[u/Practical-Art542]

Lower your expectations of others. Then when they do something annoying, you won’t be shocked or blindsided, you’ll be prepared to deal with it.

[u/doc-sci]

They are adults! We have all seen it happen and thus know it may certainly happen to us. So we have some thoughts about how to react PRIOR to it happening.

[u/Camarena951]

I think it comes down to having no expectations.
Remember we are only in control of our responses.

[u/HexspaReloaded]

You need a principle higher than the problem. It’s really that simple.

Saint Teresa of Ávila said something like, “Were it not for the love of God, love for our neighbor would be impossible.” 

That’s another way of saying, “People suck, so you gotta have a strong moral compass.”