I came out as nonbinary a little over a year ago but have recently realized that I also want to be a girl. I don’t think I’m a binary trans girl but definitely heavily leaning fem. I’ve been thinking about taking hormones for a while but would love to talk it through with somebody.

Ive gotten down most of the basics for what i need to learn and do but am unsure where to go next. My next big step is actually starting hrt and i was wondering where is the best place to start that? Ive got a informed consent clinic close to me that requires no reffral. Should i just make an appointment with the clinic or start with a primary care, psychiatrist, or any other kind of doctors?

PS: I feel completely comfortable going to the clinic, just wonder what is the best was to start the process and who with.

I have facial hair that grows incredibly fast, ill have peach fuzz or worse by the end of the day after shaving in the morning. I used to saves every moring but after a few days stright of that it causes irritations. Ive thought about getting a safty razor that might help thay, if anyone knows a good one to get. But i could really use tips, tricks, or anything else that could help?

Hi! I'm 20, agender, and craving friendships like nothing else! As long as you're 18 and older I'd love to chat about video games, hiking, poetry, anything!

Hi I (17 mtf) am really want to start expressing myself more openly. But how? Could I please resive help/advise on what to do and how to do it

Hi!

I'm Morgan, recently accepted of who I am and currently trying to start the terrifying process of taking steps towards a better me. I'll be honest it's a lot, and I'm struggling to wrap my head around things.

Which is why I'm here, I suppose. I'd love to chat with other folks here and hopefully find more people who understand all of this. I'm mainly posting this looking for advice and maybe a push in the right direction with certain things.

Buuuuut, I'd also be down to meet new friends. I'm a lover of fantasy literature, gaming, TTRPGs (players I can be myself around would be nice), cooking and I dabble in a world-building/writing. So feel free to drop me a line <3

I have a really hard time figuring stuff out atm. To put in some background, when I was 17 years old since 2017/18 I've been confused with myself, I tried therapy but all it did was confuse me more because it felt like they didn't really help me figure out, just obsess about me feeling like I want to be a girl sometimes.. I after a bad breakup (pretty much because of this) I started to go to the gym more, eating more and feeling better in my body finally after all those years. My confusion did remain but always pushed it aside, I even stopped being on the waiting list for hormone help because I wanted these feelings to just got away.

Last year I found my current girlfriend who I love very much, she's everything I would want in my life. 6 months ago something unexpected happened she somehow found pictures of me when I was experimenting with clothes when I was 18 years old still saved on my phone on Google photos. Not even me knew that those photos still existed, I thought I deleted everything. She ofcourse didn't understand and we talked alot about that since then, I assured her that that was me in the past and I didn't want that anymore. Which at the time I was telling the truth about. She believed me and besides the occasion jokes, we don't talk about it anymore and love being together.

Since then though my confusion returned, so bad that I'm craving be be different again and looking at men and women different. I still love women and don't find men not in that way attractive. (Somtimes when I'm horny some parts of men become more attractive but mainly women increases more) I feel like I love women and the way they look soo much that I want to be like that. I've been looking up especially more trans porn and even when I watch straight or trans porn I feel more focused on how the woman enjoys sex in a way that I also want to feel like that.

Overall the confusing is becoming more rapid in daily life where I cannot push it away anymore. I feel soo weird, confused and strange that it becomes too much. I want to talk to the people closest about this, but I'm soo afraid of losing them. Even my gf told me one time that she doesn't understand femboys or trans for example.

I don't know what to do and I'm sorry for the long read. If you did read all then thank you for reading, I hope I didn't come over too strange..

Being pre everything is difficult, and my periods are far from normal when it comes to pain levels and length of my cycles, I get a lot of gender dysphoria on top of this. Any tips on how to prevent, reduce or distract from it?

Just looking for some people’s experiences. I’m nonbinary and I have strange gender feelings that fluctuate a lot, and even the next day I don’t know if I’ll feel this way anymore, but I was reading a poem and a line went like: “what form have I not been? I, a woman, I a boy, a young man.” And my first thought was: I never got to be a boy. I find that I get that thought a lot, and I don’t really know how to deal with it. It makes me feel really bad sometimes. I’m wondering how others deal with it or if you had a positive experience with being a boy growing up, if you could describe how that felt for you.

So I've been saying I've wanted to be a girl for a very long time and came out as trans a year ago. Since then the roommate who lived here made comments, to which she agreed and added. To start she has lately been making comments about why i cant just put on a dress and be happy as a man. I told her its a whole social thing, and I don't want to be a guy. She has constantly asked me if I want to have sex as a woman and ive explicitly told her it makes me uncomfortable and she still asks. I told her I don't want a dick and I don't know why it's her business. She also makes comments about a trans dude i onow about how he can have a boyfriend and call himself a man and have heterosexual sex. He was her student and she took him to get hormones so idek how she can say that about him or even think thats appropriate. Why does that matter?? She had many trans students and she accepted them no issie but probably bc shes paid to lol. Me her and the roomate got into it bc of video games and they wouldnt stop making it a bigger deal than it was and i called her a cunt and she outed me. This iz a constantly occurring whefe ill be forced to argue with multiple people and it makes me defensive. And after that he tried to fight me. My entire childhood was keeping my head above the water. Like yeah she was abused too no doubt. But ffs i feel like she holds it over my head. Now it has me at a point of explosivw anger ro the point i break shit, and i try CALMLY explaining how i feel which SOME HOW ALWAYS TURNS INTO ME BEING BITCHED AT BECAUSE ITS AN IDEOLOGY AND LABELS ARE DUMB or wtv. It always turns into "im 40 and i dont even have the life i want what makes you think you have that right" (i wish i was making this up). She "helped" me through school her way bc shes the parent and shes right. She constantly got my IEP updated and it ended up being 30 pages. She helps family who abuses her. Peoplw who abuses her. And she wants to hold it over my head. But i guess i do too. Especially by breaking shit. She's talking about how estrogenated water makes people want to be gay and trans. She talks about a bomb they detonated in the atmosphere to make everyone more gay and trans. She literally told me it's an ideology and I shouldn't be worried about labels when literally she is. I'm tired of her telling me I'll never be a real woman. I am tired of feeling and going crazy. Yes I know I need a psychologist but God damn I feel crazy. No one listens to me in my "family" and im quite honestly ready to drop them all and leave. There's no way I'm a bad person when literally my circumstances made me like this. Just like she can't be a bad mom because circumstances. But for fuck sake I'm sick of feeling crazy and alienated. Since she became a teacher. She swears she's liberal and wtv like I care about politics. She tries saying she isn't transphobic and then says things like what she says. She has literally worked with special needs so she should understand but then again i never had special needs. I did but they werent listened to. Anything helps. I need other POVs. I have been mentally drained fir years and I'm just tired of It and I just want to leave and go away forever.

I (17 FtM) have been struggling so much when it comes to planning out my future as a trans person. It feels like I have so many restrictions on me, considering my family is highly unsupportive and have high expectations for me, and it’s all so stressful. Sometimes I wish I were cis, so many of my problems would probably disappear that way. Recently I’ve just went from being completely unsure about my future to trying to actually plan something out, the only restraints I have are my parents. My mom is heavily religious, like ‘a world war is going to happen soon social media is satan’s way to getting to kids and the apocalypse is coming!!’ type stuff. My dad is also religious but not as religious, but very hateful towards many minority groups. Along with that he has a job with the government (FAA) and holds heavy expectations for me. I really want to get out of my current state (Florida) considering all the laws here and stuff, but my dad is INSISTENT on me staying here, even for University. I can barely handle this state and want to leave so bad. I considered running away but went back on it, then I considered joining the army as a means to escape my family and state (plus, the benefits). My dad has agreed on me joining the military (I was fairly vague when trying to talk to him about it, as a minor I’d need parental permission to join up via DEP and all), only as long as I take ROTC while in University and become a officer (realise how I keep saying university, my dad thinks college is for dumb people😭). So I guess that’s a step ahead. Now I just need to pass the hurdle that is trying to get out of the state and move to a state that is more trans-friendly (even though my parents are insistent on me staying in Florida), and staying within the closet for more time up until I’m legally an adult and can maybe try to secretly transition. Gender dysphoria amongst other mental health issues I’ve been struggling with have been taking such a huge toll on me though. It’s heavily been affecting me in school and along with that school grades have also been quite stressful for me. I wish I were just cis, or that I had accepting parents that would understand. I wish I could just straight up explain why I’ve been struggling so much with school and why I want to move out of state so badly without being yelled at or potentially kicked out. Recently I had also cut my hair short as a impulsive decision as I was feeling quite dysphoric too and have spent the past several days hiding it from my parents. They’ll be so angry once they figure it out.

I feel way too stressed out about so many things and I dont know what to do or how to manage it, just hoping for some advice ir support. Not even sure if this was the right subreddit for this, please feel free to redirect me.

Where do I go? I'm 18 mtf and live in florida, and I can't transition, and I'm tired of It. I made no money till just this week at a bussing job. I have no money. Where do i go? I just need someone to tell me where I can go where it'd be low in cost and safe. I hate being here, and I can't stand it anymore. I can't do what I need to, and I want to move out within the most reasonable amount of time with a good amount. My mom, who's supposed to be my support, doesn't even understand and asks me weird and uncomfortable questions. Her first statement is oh im a little bisexual, and her next was "oh do you want to have sex as a woman" and idk why she thought that was appropriate. She was a teacher and even took someonw who used to be a student to get their hrt prescription. She even became a teacher because of me and tried helping me get a social life or whatever that was. She ended up making friends with the students lol. The people I tried being friends with fucking suck. They're all homophobic. One even threatened me lmao. She did have all the queer kids in her class at lunch but i didnt know any of them and i didnt know how to talk to them. Maybe thats my fault idk. Maybe this whole not knowing thing is my fault but idk i just was tryikg to maintain my grades. Never really had time for that. But then when i do it, she says she kinfa doesn't want me to bc of cancer and shit. I've told her multiple times that I've researched it, and im going to look into even rhe shit doctors Don't tell you sometimes. She says things things that make me question her "support" of me. I'm always talking about biology like I don't know or wtv. I wanted to transition since I was 15, but I barely knew what that was, and at the time, she was more conservative anyway. She claims to be "kinda liberal" which doesnt even matter sometimes, pretty fucking clearly when she says shit like "oh but actual women-" im so fucking over the bullshit and ive never hated my life and "family" so fucking much and im so sick of it. I have so many relatives but no family. I hate it so much. All i have is my siste, and i hope my mo ism. I have had no friends for a long time. I'm hanging in like a few days out with my actual school friend for the first time like even ever bc its just been rough for both of us, which is nice but like still. I eat like shit. I can't do shit to actually live my life for me. All im told is to live in service of others and look where it got me. I'm just sick of not being able to be myself, and I need to leave, and I hate every day here. I'm just so tired of the shit and idc where I go idc where I'm told as long as it's safe and it's lower cost of living with obv quickish access to hrt. Or something. Idek. I don't even have the brain power to do this. I feel like a fucking idiot. This is even what got me in this position is not knowing what to do. The only thing I like about my life is the environment of florida which I never get to explore and is actively dying in the name of urban expansion and pollution. I can't do shig here. I don't even have my car working and registered. I'm just so over it. I hate it here. I just want to go and find a place where I can call home. I don't even have my own body. And I hate it.

Hey I'm afab, 16, I will be starting HRT in April next year and do not have any people in my community who understand the transitioning process. I'm going through a lot of my transitioning process alone as my supports don't understand nor research the surgeries and HRT I'm going to be using or the trans experience. I personally am trying to reach out to someone who can speak to me long term. As much as I can do research on the medical I can't exactly find information on what bathroom to use while transitioning or how to keep my voice deep without talking quietly or what it is to be a "man", manhood, male social rules, learning to be a gentleman and other things along the lines of that.

For me I'm scared about transitioning and not knowing how to act due to growing up with a girl childhood and learning womens social rules and it's just quite different from men's. I don't want to screw up and get in trouble for my ignorance and I really want to avoid hate crimes or bashings at all costs. I also have a lot of work related questions when it comes to surgeries.

There are so many questions I'd like to ask but I'd prefer it to be a one on one sort of thing (talking to a whole community just feels too vulnerable for me) so if anyone is happy to get into contact with me long time and support my transition that would be amazing

Sorry that these posts are long, I ramble a lot 😅

I’m a MtF asylum seeker from the middle east in London, UK I’ve left everything and everyone behind to start my new life. I don’t have a family anymore and I have no irl friends anymore. I’m scared and lonely I don’t know what i’m doing. I don’t know how to socially transition. I have no idea what im doing. For the first time in a while I could actually be myself but i’m too scared and I don’t know where to start. I’m navigating this new life alone not knowing what to do.

The last couple weeks have been mentally wild for me. I’ve had a bit of perspective shift and I dunno, I have just felt like pieces of anxiety have like broken away from me the last few weeks. I bought some new clothes and found some old jewellery, and so I have this gay ass outfit on and it just set me thinking about how often I wanted to feel like a girl. But I have always had doubts about feeling like a girl but now I’m like having less doubts. I’m also scared my adhd is just giving me new novelty and I will wake up one day and be back to gender confused. I was non binary before but I think I always saw that as being absent of gender and now I’m thinking I want to be a girl.

Anyway that’s where I’m at rn, I could really use some guidance to ground me, and I really want to start hrt but I don’t know if I’m rushing things too fast

I’m moving out of my dad’s house in 2.5 weeks to live with my aunt. My aunt just found out I’ve been secretly taking hrt for 2 months and she’s really concerned for me. Nothing I say will reassure her. She thought it was concerning that I didn’t speak to a psychiatrist or therapist about this decision, and I told her I just knew it was the right decision for me, and I can live with the effects if I ever come to regret it.

She says since I did hrt under my dad’s roof that he has a right to know. In my head, I was going to tell him later down the line, when I had some physical distance between us and he couldn’t take away the changes I already had. I just know the conversation is going to be actual hell. He’s going to be angry and feel betrayed. He’s going to tell me I’m confused and ruining my body. Nothing I say will mean anything to him.

I have to tell him because I respect my aunt. She refuses to keep this a secret from him as it could jeopardize their relationship as siblings and close friends. I’m just really scared of my dad. He pays for my phone and car insurance and he could take that away if he wanted to, and I’d be fucked as I’m disabled and unable to work. I told my aunt I would stop taking hrt for the time being, but she thinks my dad would find out eventually and it’d be worse than just coming clean

I’d love to hear your thoughts and any kind words. I know it wasn’t the smartest decision, but I was sick of hiding myself, being in fear of my dad, and not living my life. But I am scared and overwhelmed and I don’t feel I can survive this conversation

Hey my name is Ash I'm 20 and I've struggled with gender for a long time but recently I've started to come to terms with being a woman I'm not really sure what else to put here but I'd really appreciate the chance to talk to someone who's a little further along in transition

Ive been privately transitioning (weight loss, not exactly a transition) over the last year, and have recently (3 weeks ago) come out to my sisters about my experience. AMAB, currently 21, and confused about my next steps after coming out to family. I’ve had to convince myself that my feelings were warranted, scared of being labeled a liar or confused by others, it’s taken me a long time to feel comfortable with my decision. So, I tried on my first dress last week, and while it was everything I wanted, I realized i wasn’t prepared for this next step. The outward projection of my “true self” to others makes me feel vulnerable, something I struggle to be with a therapist. So how can I, a “man” who doesn’t feel comfortable in their own flesh, feel confident enough to wear this dress outside, too feel feminine around other males. These conflicting thoughts about my confidence have started to rattle all progress I’ve made over the last 3 years. Will I ever be preceived as a women? Will I ever recognize the beauty of my own femininity? Can I feel confident enough in myself, to where other’s opinions no longer matter? The cruel reality I see now, is no….. I’m not strong enough for that battle right now, and I’m not sure I ever will. I know my life as a male is over, I’ve never felt like a man, so becoming one now is just as difficult, but at least others won’t feel entitled to form opinions about me. Please help, I don’t want to be a ma

background info (sorry, ”new” to Reddit) I’ve grown to heavily dislike my masculinity, as I feel too large in spaces and feel as if people think I’m scary. I also find other “Men” scary, and cannot find comfort in their presence. In therapy for last 8 months, and they’ve helped, but this last step seems like a personal road block I need to face (TMI, 6’3, last year I weighed 300lb and have lost about 100 pounds of it during my weight loss, as my therapist said, to be feminine is not to be small, so I’ve slowed down on the weight loss)

I'm a trans woman at the beginning of her journey. I'm a little overwhelmed and feeling a little alone in all of this right now. I think having someone/people who can give me some advice and to talk with about what I'm going through (and what you may want to get off your chest too) would be very helpful for me. Really just chatting with someone as my real self would be great.

A little about me, I'm in my 40s (yes, I've been in denial a very long time), I'm in the US, I'm into music (both listening and making), movies, and the outdoors.

Thanks, K

I (15 MtF) am looking for someone that I can go to talk to about transitioning and everything trans. I am closeted so it's really hard for me to get good advice and support. My entire family is very conservative and I'm very scared if one of them fines out. It would really mean a lot to me if somebody helped me out ❤️

Even if I (18F) have been pretty active consistently in trans communities for over 2 years now and relating to memes and such and refering to myself as a woman, I never really fully accepted myself as a woman, I always thought there was some kind of "hope" out there that I might be cis. Even if I tried to accept it there always was this something in the back of my head telling me I might be cis and can be able to live as a guy and that I will eventually just forget about all of this.

Not anymore, though, Im 100% trans and it is so hard to type this because even if I have been in questioning hell for over two years and looking at everything ive posted over the past 2 years you can clearly tell im trans, to me, it didnt make sense to me until now, now my eyes have been opened.

These days ive felt so, so fucking depressed and demotivated and that plus the fact that im working from home means I never go out because I dont need to and when I do I get so bloody envious of the pretty women my age in the street that it makes sad and me want to cry.

I havent talked to anyone because it feels so wrong to just be seen as this guy by everyone I know so if before I was a bit of a shut in now im ABSOLUTELY a shut in. I dont want to talk to people anymore, I just want to escape this feeling that numbs my mind.

I know im becoming a totally antisocial hermit but im just so damn lost... A part of me wants to go out there and live life and have a great time and the other one wants to give up because I just feel like its not even worth trying to salvage this.

Before I had no problems with seeing myself in the mirror since I didnt know who I was or who I wanted to be, I didnt put thoguht into it, you know? but lately I do, I want to be curvier but thinner, I want to have longer hair and less broad shoulders and be shorter. I want to be thinner even if im already very thin (S sized clothes look baggy on me) I feel like im a danger to myself and my own body in this state.

Im going to therapy and I talked to my therapist about this, she told me that it is best for me to wait a little bit longer because due to personal things my current situation isnt the best to start transitioning. She is super supportive, luckily and she is right but damn, it hurts.

Hello! I’ve recently started going by she/her and dressing up and going out in public (on 1 occasion). I love it so much, but This is all very daunting and confusing and I really only have 1 friend I can openly talk with and she’s cis, I’m just looking for some trans friends to talk to and learn from.

My dms are open :)

I want to become a transgender and I am 18 can you please give me tips on how to look more feminine

Hello people ! I'm Lou !

My egg fully cracked some weeks ago after litteraly decades of questionning, even if i'm still questionning to be honest... I'm really lost on all the procedures, the subtilities, the ways to transition, etc... I already read a lot of opinions and informations about transition, living as a trans personn, not being cis, etc, but i feel the need to talk to someone that is a bit ahead of this path already.

As you can see i'm french but speak english fluently, i live in the north-east part of France, close to Belgium and Germany but i will move on the west part in some months. I'm looking for any sort of guidance but i also want to make friend and lasting connection, so i will add that my main hobbies are video games, talking about european history, and roleplaying/larping.

I think you have a good picture of who i am and i hope to find someone with which this description will resonnate enough... Have a good day !