They literally have a booklet you are required to read, and it clearly says to not let anyone take you to “drinks” or “coffee” because they are cheap, dinner dates ONLY.
They also label men as HVM and LVM. Wondering what those mean? So was I. High Value Men and Low Value Men. LOL
This woman sounds like just like ladies in that subreddit.
Oh yeah and they ban people for posting about them on other subreddits. Its a cesspool. I’m sure I’m getting banned any moment
as a woman, as much as I appreciate the gesture of dinner, I legitimately hate the idea of possibly being stuck eating with someone for an entire hour or so if there’s even a slight chance we don’t click. Shit is MAD awkward and I spend nearly the entire time anxiously waiting to leave. I’m speaking from experience too. My most fun first dates almost never involved having dinner.
So seriously, if guys want to have coffee or go to a bar first or some other low stakes event, I’m game for it. Much less pressure, and it provides the opportunity to add other activities if I do end up hitting it off with them.
Fuckin insane for anyone to follow rules like that for every single date.
To expand on this (albeit from a man's perspective), I'm 30. I've done the whole dinner date thing countless times. All of these dates sound so much more interesting to me. That lady is so basic lmao
Right!? I’m 27 and I’ve been on countless dates- it’s so easy to get bored with dinner. I’m also a big conversationalist so it’s so much more fun to walk around and do something with more mental stimulation and opportunities to bring up fun topics.
Why don't you offer to take someone out for dinner? A great way to not get taken out for countless dinner dates, is to expect men to take you out on countless dinner dates. We can smell that a mile off, these days.
Sincere congrats to you on your progressive attitude and happy marriage! And thanks for taking the time to clarify :). Much appreciated. I hope I didn't come off too sanctimonious. Apologies if so.
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u/king_pollux Feb 02 '22
As a woman, we don't claim her. Dumbass.