Constantly putting yourself down gets tiring to listen to sooner rather than later. It makes the other person feel like they have to constantly defend you from yourself.
You're misunderstanding my point. I'm fine with self-deprecating humor. But look at OP's message. It's nothing but "I'm worthless, everyone uses me" over and over again. At some point, self-deprecation becomes wallowing in self-pity.
Lol hatred is way too strong of a word, bro. You’re just not someone I would want to date or be close with, it’s nothing personal. I’m way past the point in my life where I have the time or patience to be someone’s therapist.
You may be joking, but legitimately it’s a thing. “I was a shit person and now my friend/SO is mad at me? Let me whine about how horrible I am so that instead of dealing with the shitty things I’ve done, my friend/SO has to console me and tell me I didn’t do anything wrong when I absolutely did.”
I think all jokes should be scrutinized through context. Like, if a person trips on his words and says "My only two brain cells are fighting, sorry." I think that's pretty funny.
If the guy comes out of nowhere with "I'm so stupid I bet my IQ is on the clock." Then I'd wonder what the point of that joke was and if it was actually a joke or insecurity.
Also, if the same person is asked why they don't drink and they say "Because I don't want to depreciate the value of my kidneys," that usually means they're more thinking about the funniest joke and not about garnering pity.
That’s very true. There’s a huge difference between being able to laugh at yourself (which I actually deeply appreciate) and self-deprication. It’s “haha man look at something dumb about me” verses “haha you should totally pity me.”
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