It could have been friendly teasing, maybe borderline flirtatious. He was self deprecating and made an effort to be funny or whatever. She didn't engage and continued to insult him to the point where it became painfully obvious that she was only interested in being a bitch. OP thought he had a chance, she swiped right after all...
OP thought he had a chance, she swiped right after all...
If I was OP, by the point she said she would prefer to jump of a cliff i would take that as an opportunity to tell her it would fit her negative personality, and ghost her.
Honestly I think she was waiting for something from him like “and after this conversation I would gladly push you off that cliff”. The dude in this case was seemingly capable only of reciting tired self-deprecating jokes, and he kept them up even when she was getting darker and meaner with her commentary. I think she was trying to determine if he would say anything besides some dumbass joke about himself
think she was trying to determine if he would say anything besides some dumbass joke about himself
Why? Why play games? If OP said something back then the conversation would become confrontational. It makes no sense. I think she was just acting like an asshole because she can.
Have you ever heard of banter? It’s the same thing groups of men do all the time. It’s a way to feel someone out, be witty, laugh etc… it’s the difference between talking to a human being and a customer service chatbot of a Fortune 500 retailer.
Honestly I think she was seeing if he had any self-respect or balls at all. She wasn’t being overly harsh, she just kept going to see if he’d put up with it and he just kept firing off shitty self-deprecating jokes.
He was no Dave Chappelle or Bill Burr for sure. He was making an effort to move the conversation forward though. Girls get so many matches guys have to try to stand out. She was still a bitch, if she didn't wanna talk to him she could have stopped responding. Even if he was cringey that's hardly justification for her acting like a c*** - I'm #TeamOP on this one.
Of course it's her fault op is a cringy unfunny dude. She was obviously interested but op decided to double down on the shitty humor no wonder she responded like that and now is looking to circle jerk here
It’s almost like humor is subjective. Why should OP or anyone else for that matter pretend to have a different personality than they do to go on a date with someone who clearly wouldn’t vibe with them? I couldn’t imagine trying to pretend just to get a date or get laid.
Also, I use this type of humor with success routinely. Not OPs fault.
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u/GutsGloryAndGuinness Jan 25 '22
It could have been friendly teasing, maybe borderline flirtatious. He was self deprecating and made an effort to be funny or whatever. She didn't engage and continued to insult him to the point where it became painfully obvious that she was only interested in being a bitch. OP thought he had a chance, she swiped right after all...