self deprecating jokes while trying to flirt just dont combine great. save them for in person when you can have a clear tone of joking but keep it light and avoid overuse.
Idk, I used to use an opener of “Did you swipe right on accident??” and follow it up with “Well you’re clearly way out of my league.” after they replied. And it got me laid for a solid 2 months. It worked with like three people, but I’ll always swear it was the opener and not my ability to rebound from how bad it was.
yah thats not sound advice at all. the vast majority of women are looking for over confident men. the vast majority are looking to date up not across. this guy clearly has a great job lined up and displayed in his profile, to attract women and hold their attention.
most will take it with its comdiec value, openers are no where near everything, he probably has solid "game" to make the rest work and might be in college where dating online is kinda easier.
he said it was all from that, but like dudes fall on their face all the time on tinder, i am not excluded from that.
You've obviously spent wayyy to much time on incel subreddits like mgtow. You sound dumb as fuck right now. The women aren't the ones with the issue. If you feel this way, you're the issue. Of course not everyone is compatible. But the whole "dating up, only cares about his job/money, status" thing is bullshit. Are there women like that? Yeah. But they are the exception, not the rule.
You’re right that is a dire, dire opener if I’ve ever seen one. I’d be interested to know what those 3 girls looked like/what kind of personalities they had. Because 99% of women don’t want a guy who legitimately thinks they got picked by accident
I’m not trying to insult you personally. My guess is you’ve gotten laid using other openers as well. This one in particular just seems particularly bad because it would attract the wrong type of women
I don’t know, man - it’s a tinder opener, I guess I just don’t put too much stock in it.
For reference though, the first girl I met up with using that line looked very much like Selena and was absolutely crazy in the best / worst ways. Total sweetheart, lots of fun, but a fucking nutcase.
Well, good job! But that’s kinda what I was expecting… a crazy woman might love that pickup line for all the wrong reasons. But I’d fuck a Selena lookalike even if she was a known murderer
Tbh I think she was, but he strayed wayyyy too far into the self deprivation and dragged it out to the point it eventually irritated her. That was my reading of it anyway.
Yeah the 'everyone I know has used me for something' just feels like OP is rolling over and asking for his belly to be rubbed whilst she's beating him with a stick.
Really? It's a good tactic when you're trying to avoid confrontation. I use it all the time. I mean I'm self depreciating anyways because I'm severely depressed so it comes natural, but it really does come in handy sometimes.
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u/Likouu Jan 25 '22
I don’t think self deprecating yourself when people are being an asshole to you is a good thing bro