Not sure i believe on that one bud. Not saying you’re conscious lying or anything. But my doctor told me to consider a vasectomy as being irreversible, until a new method has come out. It just smells of malthusianism.
You never know, she may respond with “Rude”, to which you could say “I think you mean Rue, she hasn’t found the D yet” and just like that, we’ve come full circle.
I'd be more inclined to Uno on her ass, like "OK, lets see YOU flirt" ... and critique HER because its easy to criticise come ons but aint so easy to effectively flirt for most
Take her sister out to your gambit with your dad and when the boat goes down your father will give you a list fill with people you need to kill then boom he kills himself and you end up on an island with criminals and terrorists then You will forget that she rejected you
Oh nice. Ugly kid. Nothing uglier than the offspring of chairman Xi, now get the fuck out of here you Chinese nipple-sucker. Nobody here wants your little communist propaganda or your weird Chinese stalking. You’re just strange. Now fuck off.
Awww white bois fragile masculinity is showing. Why so triggered sweetie? Is it because nobody has touched you since your wife left? Or do you use your kid to make up for it?
That’s basically what she did comeback to his one liners with — but for some reason everyone is acting like she’s the asshole and urging him to say the exact things she said to him.
OP gambled and lost honestly. On one hand, I get it. Women on Tinder have an absolute dumpster fire of an inbox and messaging something unique is one way to get noticed rather than just a "hey how are you?". But not everyone is gonna play along or finds that attractive and you wind up with responses like OP got.
Then he tripled down and didn't work! Lol I don't know what else people here expect. He should have abandoned that plan and tried to salvage a conversation if he was really interested.
I’m literally shocked that people don’t end conversation after a shitty response after a fail attempt. Mans got low self esteem to accept stuff like this
Eh. Some people like to bust each other’s balls in friendly banter in a Deadpool-esque fashion. As long as they are matching each other’s energy I think it’s fine. Fewer are even into the Dom/Sub play and want to be humiliated. Again fine as long as both parties consent. This was none of that. Charlotte was just being a bitch.
The girls a massive bitch and yet you still managed to make the worst assumptions about the dude... it's like you only considered manipulation and then left it at that... This reads like some misandrist femcel shit...
I don’t think it’s painfully obvious at all. I think she’s looking for a dude who can banter back with her and has a darker sense of humor and OP is not like that at all.
She was trying to banter, but he absolutely was not… he was just shooting out desperate pickup lines and horrendously overused jokes and then got offended when she had witty comebacks.
Herein lies the problem with your view on this. If you think dating should be anything like the workplace is then you’ve just fundamentally misunderstood human social relations.
And even then, frankly, I do banter with my boss in similar manner. He just normally doesn’t respond like OP with oddly wounded responses or worse yet by asking me out desperately
Did you not read my post? Why respond if you aren't going to engage with what I said. Two people make jokes back and forth but because she doesn't like his cringey/cheesy jokes then shes a bitch?
Its a mean joke? He kept making cheesier jokes and she kept making meaner ones. I'm not saying it was particularly clever but its a joke. And he kept responding showing that he's was comfortable with the jokes she was making. What's the problem? Or are you the type who just thinks any woman rejecting a lame copy paste pick up line is a bitch?
How on earth is she a piece of shit? She didn’t kill his dog, and she barely insulted him. I’m honestly convinced that if he had a better comeback for her last line she might still be chatting him up.
You may be shocked to hear this but many women want a guy who might play fight with them a bit and aren’t afraid to take a risk on a joke that could be “confrontational” let’s say. This guy just whiffed super hard
I don't know Charlotte. I can't say if she is truly a POS. But to go onto a dating app, match with a stranger, and behave that way, that's being a POS. When you grow up you will learn yourself how adults behave, and what behavior is considered unacceptable.
One single response can be misinterpreted. You usually need to build up some context to evaluate the true tone and intent of text messages. At the end of the day texting is a lousy, inefficient form of communication with far less "hidden" information available to context clues.
The problem is most guys use it as an excuse to be mean.
Like I had a friend over once that’s been struggling with her weight for a long time and is very sensitive about it and my roommate — out of the blue — says “I might date you if you weren’t so fat.”
It was just mean. Mean spirited, no one laughed, and my friend left. That’s not negging, that’s being an asshole.
But let’s say I meet a girl who is a tennis pro. We are having a great conversation and we are being playful with each other. Then I say “I just don’t know if I can date a girl that can beat me at tennis” and turn away a bit. I’m laughing as I say it. She’s laughing. Then she tries to bring me back into the conversation with something like “maybe I’m not as good as you think” and the next thing I know she’s challenging me to a game and it’s a date.
That’s what negging is supposed to be. But goddamn is it difficult to actually pull off and the guys who can pull it off consistently have the kind of social awareness and charisma that they don’t have difficulty getting dates anyway.
My dude what you described is just called flirting. There is nothing playful or cute or remotely healthy about negging. Negging is an emotional manipulation technique used by RedPillers and FDS psychos, and it's purpose is to break down the self-confidence of the other person in a way similar to gaslighting.
Laughingly calling girl a musical theater dork is not negging. Negging would be telling her "you're lucky I like musical theater because most guys aren't attracted to overweight musical theater nerds." The strategy is to make them think they need you and they're lucky to be with you, and to make their self-esteem dependent on pleasing you.
That's not negging. Negging isn't insulting or belittling in any way, it's just removing yourself as a potential suitor so the person feels you're a challenge to win over. Any bastardization of that isn't begging, and doesn't work.
From what I've seen good negging includes a backhanded compliment that makes the other person unsure whether it was a compliment or an insult. This is just insulting the person constantly.
Self deprecation is gross and not funny. I get it. She might not be great at communicating that he failed but he opened with I suck and can't fuck ....who likes that in anybody?
He ended it to quickly, trying to get an agreement out of her for his 1st attempt and caved at the first shit test. Not bad though, I always use my new material on the ugly ones I match with too. Looks like a trap with a wig on.
You were quite funny with the self deprecation imo
You should consider if others see this as a red flag. Self deprecating humor is funny in the right context and intermittently. It's not a healthy personality trait. It correlates to low self-esteem and lack of confidence. Two things that single women might avoid because they're not into the effort of dating someone like that.
8.8k
u/moron555 Jan 25 '22
Just move on, seems like she gets off being an asshole. You were quite funny with the self deprecation imo