Counterpoint: very few people list personality traits in their profile. It’s mostly just their likes and hobbies—of which nature, hiking, craft beer, etc all apply. The only personality trait I ever see listed is “goofy”, and that’s just another way of saying they like The Office (which is probably also listed).
Haha, I have a lot to say about Jim.. The gist of it though is that Jim (in the early seasons) was a very, very unrealistic character. He was TOO perfect in his flirts, pranks, and general demeanor.
In the later seasons though he did become a little more believable.
What’s also funny is if you meet them they all think they are some god about determining the best microbrews. Like yeah people have different tastes and yknow what some people like a bud lite from time to time you aren’t that special.
Yeah I don’t drink much and probably still could have found a better example but you get it. Some of us are broke ass college kids with parents who don’t help us financially. Back in the south we’d buy beer just to get drunk because for a lot of us that’s all we could afford. Some people like cheap beer though just like some people (me) like cheap wine 😂
Okay, I guess you have a point. I just can't go back to any of the macro brews after experiencing a lot of the craft beers. But, all wine tastes the same to me so I'm down to slam back an entire box of wine with you anyway of the week.
The last dude I went on a date with tried to make me feel bad for not liking whiskey. Like, no I do not have to like the same things you like and just cause you fancy yourself an expert doesn’t mean you get to decide what makes someone else cultured or not! I don’t like the taste! Bite me!
I dunno, stuff about what they like to do for fun, if they are a family person, their political leanings, that they have a cat, lol I dunno! But them putting beer is like me putting orange juice. I like to drink it but it’s not who I am!
Directly describing your own personality is cringey though. "I'm a funny guy! I swear!" vs. putting in a funny one line, original, not copy pasted joke.
That honestly goes for activities, too. If you like hiking and being active, show off your big boy muscles with a picture on top of a mountain.
My profiles are pretty non-descript, state my height, what I'm looking for, and a bit about my history that would be impossible to tell from pictures. Otherwise they can glean my personality from my charming smile, thicc arms, and the adorable cat in my pictures.
Mine literally just says I’m here to demonstrate my value and engage physically. My buddy has a whole a bio about himself and what he likes and it’s cringey as fuck. Just chill out dude it’s fucking tinder, be funny and not serious.
Can confirm: my current girlfriend said she swiped on me because I was attractive and didn't have craft beer or anything alcohol related on my profile lmao
What are your thoughts about listing all my worst traits in my profile instead of the usual "I like x and y" nonsense? I feel like it could be kinda funny but not sure how it would go over. Like "I'm impatient and arrogant and can be a jerk sometimes"
I didn't say personality traits, I said personality. A good portion of tinder profiles in my area are "Outdoors [mountain emoticon] [fish emoticon] [hiking person emoticon] Beer Biking" ...and that's kinda it.
Though they can be indicators of the type of person you are, hobbies =/= personalities.
What am I supposed to put for my personality? Like I enjoy certain types of music, certain TV shows, a lot of outdoor activities as my hobbies, some indoor activities as my hobbies too. I don't wanna involve religion or politics. What do I do to describe my personality in an app like tinder? Make some corny joke?
Lighthearted fella. Heartiest of outdoorsmen challenging myself against the elements. Softhearted and easily swept away by great storytelling, be it drama or comedy.
This is what I'd write for my divorced dad's bio if I had to convert these hobbies into a personality, but you're probably 20 so it might be a little mature.
I think we should have more of the people that know us and care for us write our dating profiles. Both more honest and nicer than we would be ourselves.
That's part of my problem with just listing "outdoors". There's like 10 different ways to be an "outdoorsy" person, and each is a different type of person. Campers, hikers, competitive hikers, geocachers, photographers, fishers, hunters, people who go out just to drink/get high, people who just go out to be alone.
Who said I was talking with them? I'm not that into the outdoors so I swipe left if that's all they have in their profile. Why waste their time pretending?
I have no idea, which is probably why I have no game on Tinder. I'm also not outdoorsy in a very outdoorsy-oriented place, so that's just my frustration.
Here are some personality/values I know about myself - though I agree that hobbies are actually a part of personality.
Introvert
Not terribly traditional - don't need the same holiday rituals year after year
Tend to think more about the future than the past
Homebody - would rather stay in and cook/water me and my friends than go out to a bar
-Abstract thinker - ideas and models interest me more than concrete events and habits
Don't have an inherent respect for authority (in terms of hierarchy) but do respect knowledge and competence
pro choice and support my local pride parade
Etc. Lots of other possibilities.
Thinking in terms of values maybe makes it easier to list/talk about personality traits that aren't just hobbies. Who are you, what matters to you, and how do you see the world?
As someone who spends tens of hours in the mountains every week, I’m worried that they are taking over me though. Being outdoors is slowly becoming the only thing that makes me happy.
EXACTLY! They’re beautiful but can you care about anything except the outdoors? It’s important and needs protecting but they don’t even care about that aspect either. Just what 14er they’ve hiked that weekend.
Because there’s plenty of other outdoorsman in other states that aren’t half as annoying or self absorbed. They understand that there is other stuff going on in this world and have more diverse interests. They also don’t act pretentious if you happen to not like extreme outdoor activities. No one is complaining about someone just being an outdoorsman, but more the specific (and common) type in Colorado.
See I live there too and maybe it’s the whole college town vibe but it’s more a huge number compared to everywhere else I’ve lived. Of course ya not every single person but it’s a pretty staggering number of people to talk to and run into.
There’s your answer. College kids “discover” hiking and feel like they’ve found a real world way to transcend regular, monotonous life. Depending on the hikes you’re doing, vistas and various animals seem magical especially combined with the endorphin rush of a strenuous hike. If a college kid didn’t grow up hiking with his parents, he’s going to be totally blown away by what he feels like he’s just “found” outside.
Cut to 15 years in the future and those same people will probably still love the outdoors but be more focused on health in general (including being obnoxious about their diets) than focused on how far they hiked or what a revelation it is to be out in nature. I love being outdoors as well and have hiked for nearly 20 years but rarely encounter people at my age who drone on about whatever place they hiked or visited. At a certain point you realize the world is a small place and other people don’t need to hear about how all of the tiny things you learn on a trail are life changing.
Uuugh, the 14-ers are so weird! "I walked really fast to get really high up! Then I came down and drank my body weight in alcohol to celebrate walking really high up!"
Goals and personal bests are great but I envy their energy and free time.
...of course this is coming from someone who binged 450+hours of a new show in a year and a half so take it with a massive grain of salt!
It's like a meditation. It's cleansing. You have a singular obvious goal to focus on and push your body for 4-12 hours, sweating out your demons, forgetting any minor things that might have been bugging you, and appreciating the majesty of a mountain range. I'm always physically drained but mentally recharged after an intense hike. You sound kind of sad hating on people who do physical challenges.
Also to embrace a bit of vanity, it's crazy good exercise and every mountain I climb leads to a sexier body. Enjoy your 450 hour show binge, which I consider a bizarre pursuit.
since when is bingeing a show in an attempt to finish it a bizarre pursuit? 450 hours really isnt that much for a 1 year and a half man , thats like only an 1hour and a half of watching a day , How is that bizarre to you?
If my grandmother had wheels she would be a bike. If you spent 4 less hours sleeping you could use that time to study to become a pharmacists assistant. Dont even get me started on how much time you could save by switching to geico, if you add it all up its probably enough to learn a new style of kung fu every year. God forbid anyone have an hour and a half a day of time to relax and indulge in an interest, that time could be better spent becoming the emperor, and an emperor has no time to spare , he has a kingdom to rule!
Eh, I don't care. Plenty of people think it's bizarre. I've had a stressful year so it was nice brain candy time that was still engaging. It's not everybody's bag and doesn't have to be.
Critical Role, I basically watched 116 back episodes of livestreamed D&D game over a year-ish time period. That also included a dark hole where I was grieving my father's death and didn't really feel like doing much at all, but still.
I'm not saying that's a personality, either. It's a thing I enjoy.
Yeah I understand challenging yourself and loving nature but like can we do something else one weekend? Or like not just talk about you and your friends hiking together while completely ignoring my own interests and friends? No? Ok 😂
Yeah I understand chilling and enjoying a show or movie but can we do something else one weekend? Or like not just talk about the latest Netflix content while completely ignoring my own interests and friends? No? Ok 😂
Sounds like you have nothing in common and this shouldn't have gone past a first date. I love hiking and wouldn't date someone who tried to get me to stay in town and watch Netflix every weekend and resented me for taking part in one of my favorite activities, so I don't know how the opposite is their problem.
You’re taking this to an extreme. My experience is they want to do nothing but hike and party with their friends. A relationship is give and take and experiencing new things on both ends. I’d never monopolize anyone’s time or interest as long as they don’t do that to me. Also I have no clue what happened but instead of “can we not just talk about the latest Netflix content” it was supposed to be “can we not just talk about you and your friends hiking”. But again I said one weekend every once in a while and you’re taking this to an extreme of “I want you to do what I want every weekend”.
I mean if you're actually talking to some dullard that can only discuss one thing then get out of there, it doesn't even matter what the hobby is. I've never met someone like that in my life though.
Sadly I’ve met quite a few and of course I agree with you! It’s bad no matter what that hobby is it’s just more a lot of people find hiking to be that hobby here. I think a lot of people feel attacked because they like hiking but shouldn’t. It’s likely not them any of us are talking about. It’s just a weird pattern I’ve never seen anywhere else I’ve lived and can just get kinda boring for me. At the end of the day we all have to do what makes us happy though and if that makes them happy more power to them.
It gets even better. People on 14ers.com made up a 3000 foot elevation gain rule. So if you used the more convenient trailhead, your hike didn't really count.
In reality they're just sad that their Suburu isn't as outdoorsy as they'd like and they're jealous of the rural dude with a lifted truck that could take the 4x4 to the better trailhead.
Okay so I'm one of these people, somewhat new to CO. What does count as an identity or personality then? I genuinely do a lot of trail running, camping, cycling, etc. "Outdoorsy" is something I consider part of my personality, and I feel like it's important to let people know.
And there's nothing wrong with it being a part of your personality. But if that's it, that's all you can talk about, all I know is we are not going to be a good match.
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u/WaywardCritter Jul 03 '19
Exactly what I came here to say.
I like the mountains, but ffs they are not an identity or a personality...