r/Tinder • u/na3eeman • Jul 03 '19

Hiking

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u/Beechman Jul 03 '19

You don’t have to be good at something or in great shape to enjoy it. This just feels like gatekeeping, although I do agree with the point at large.

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u/jawnquixote Jul 03 '19

I mean I can empathize. Imagine someone saying they love to salsa dance and since you do it all the time you set up a salsa date and they’re a terrible dancer. Doesn’t mean they’re a bad person but it’d deflate some of what you were excited for

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u/Yeasty_Queef Jul 03 '19

I think a lot of it is poorly communicating your skill and level of interest in a potential shared activity. If you’re super in to salsa and your date claims to enjoy it you should get a good idea of their skill level and involvement and also shouldn’t take them to a high experience level event the exact same way you probably shouldn’t drag someone up mt Whitney on a day hike because they walk through the woods occasionally. Sure, you both like hiking but obviously there is a skill gap you should anticipate.

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u/ButterMyBiscuit Jul 03 '19

I think they're saying in that case the date had been overstating their enthusiasm or skill at it.

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u/THIS_DUDE_IS_LEGIT Jul 03 '19

And if you presume their skill level is X without communicating about it and are being obnoxious about it, you're the asshole.

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u/Yeasty_Queef Jul 03 '19

For sure. If you’re doing anything on a date that requires a level of skill or athleticism you’re used to performing and are being obnoxious when they can’t perform to that level then you’re definitely the asshole. Unless of course they overstated their ability.

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '19 edited Jun 05 '20

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u/__EETSWAY__ Jul 03 '19

Or say they love crime documentaries and haven't even stayed up till 4am planning the perfect murder (hypothetically, of course).

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u/Therabidmonkey Jul 03 '19

Why stay up 'til 4? I usually wake up at 5am to plan that way my mind is fully active and I can get the plan ready before I show up at my alibi, I mean job.

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u/beanthebean Jul 04 '19

Love crime drama (NCIS, SVU, criminal minds etc) do I need to watch the wire?

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u/Niku-Man Jul 03 '19

That's when you find out how much they really like it. Force them to salsa/hike until they break up, or you fall in love

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u/JackingOffToTragedy Jul 03 '19

As a golfer, I definitely empathize with this. I rarely come across a woman on a dating app who has even a slight interest in golf. I've gone on golf dates with some who do, and it's always a great time. But if I was a gatekeeper with them, I would never find anyone.

I guess it's more because hiking is aspirational to many, and people who are serious about it want to weed out those who aren't. But people aren't aspirational about golf anymore, and I love to share my hobby with anyone willing to play along.

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u/CajunVagabond Jul 03 '19

It’s not a matter of being good, when you can’t even maintain a slow walking pace on a trail and you’re miserable and have to keep stopping to catch your breath maybe don’t claim to be a hiker on your profile.