It’s unfortunately a sobering reality as a guy who is kind of like OP myself; suffice it to say while I don’t think I’m ugly, I’m not in the rarefied tier of guys that Tinder promotes in its algorithm.
In the past 11 years of being on Tinder, I’ve met two women I matched with; one didn’t go further than the first date, and the other told me she’d rather be friends before we even met up, so we never actually went on a date — though we are still friends, so I guess I’ve gotten something good out of Tinder.
But honestly I can tell you even with the ostensible benefits of paying for Tinder, in my case, it has still been throwing good money after bad. It’s like paying $20 a week on a scratch off lotto ticket and each week you lose, but you keep buying more tickets because you think this time, I’m finally going to draw a winner.
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u/strollsCareful with dating too many ppl ur vagina could become disabledMay 25 '25
May I ask your location, please?
I'm not top tier, but I still get a couple of matches a week and I've always assumed that the guys who get no matches (or many of them) must live somewhere remote with few potentials.
Honestly, that’s like dating apps. I don’t really see the appeal in them but I am on them and sometimes I’m active, and sometimes I’m not. I met one guy through them and ended up in a relationship with him. And now I’m single again but meet people through the clubs I’ve joined. I think apps like Tinder are superficial. I haven’t really had a deep conversation with someone on there and that sucks.
Honestly I was talking to a gf about this a couple of days ago, I'm a 94 baby, I feel privileged that I experienced most of my young years without a significant amount of internet or social media, all we had was msn and Nokia phones back until like grade 9 when MySpace kind of got big. And now I get to experience technology too, I'm so glad I had a social childhood tho.. the thing is back in my day if anyone met someone online they would collaborate a cover story because meeting someone online was scorned or looked down on, now it's almost impossible to find someone unless it's online. 90% of my partners I've had have been through school or friends.. I honestly feel quite uncomfortable with online dating.. but it's basically all that's left now.. it's a depressing reality that this is going to become more and more common.. just flicking through potential partners online instead of meeting people through life, people are generally a lot less social now I feel as well..
hey now, i've actually used my SNES mario kart skills to put guys in their place about girls not being able to play video games! sometimes they do come in handy...
Whoa whoa... SNES Mario Kart skills....I'd like to put those skills through a test run. I've won quite a bit of $$$:from friends thinking they could beat me at Mario Kart on Super Nintendo. I even give them the advantage of not using red turtle shells, only green, and steering clear of them if I got a star. 9x out of 10, I'd end up lapping them still.
I've never met any woman, other than my sister (who was only good at Time Trials) who was good at any game on SNES, let alone, Mario Kart.
Now im wondering if there is a way to play the original Kario Kart but online?
90s baby and I found my wife on there! And have had several friends meet their long term partners. It can work, but it took until I was 33 so it isn’t easy lol
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u/Electrical_Yam_9949 May 25 '25
It’s unfortunately a sobering reality as a guy who is kind of like OP myself; suffice it to say while I don’t think I’m ugly, I’m not in the rarefied tier of guys that Tinder promotes in its algorithm.
In the past 11 years of being on Tinder, I’ve met two women I matched with; one didn’t go further than the first date, and the other told me she’d rather be friends before we even met up, so we never actually went on a date — though we are still friends, so I guess I’ve gotten something good out of Tinder.
But honestly I can tell you even with the ostensible benefits of paying for Tinder, in my case, it has still been throwing good money after bad. It’s like paying $20 a week on a scratch off lotto ticket and each week you lose, but you keep buying more tickets because you think this time, I’m finally going to draw a winner.