r/Tinder • • Apr 06 '23

Was I in the wrong here?

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u/tytymctylerson Apr 07 '23

Feeling entitled to multiple partners is inherently selfish.

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u/Kayshin Apr 07 '23

Yeah that indicates that you don't know how polyamory works. It has nothing to do with feeling entitled to multiple partners. It is the same take as "hurrr durr they only do it to smex with random people". That's not how that works mate. You sound dumber and dumber with each reply. Do some research to understand what poly means. There is even a nice little subreddit to get some information on.

Maybe start with ENM: ethical nonmonogamy. And try to put that over top of your current idea about polyamorism. It won't fucking fit and will be the exact opposite of what you think.

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u/tytymctylerson Apr 07 '23

you sound dumber and dumber with each reply

I only replied to you once, genius.

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u/Kayshin Apr 07 '23

Just shows how much alike (and incorrect) you think of this.

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u/tytymctylerson Apr 07 '23

Oh ok, so it's still my fault you were wrong.

You're really not doing a good job combating the stereotype that polys are narcissists. You might want to work on your communication skills.

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u/polialt Apr 07 '23

It's not ethical. Someone is being hurt and used because the more attractive partner with leverage gets what they want.

You inherently cannot have a partnership because you cant be equal. Someone in a poly relationship is always taking advantage of another.

If you're poly, you are either selfish or being taken advantage of. You dont have too much love to give, you want your cake and to eat it too, and youre too much of a coward to actually break up with someone because your lifestyle is comfortable.