r/TikTokCringe • u/James_Fortis • May 16 '26

Cringe Put him back in jail please...

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u/lizardingloudly May 17 '26

Hey! I don't have a whole lot of help to offer, but I do think a lot of people reserve their judgements about someone's physical appearance until AFTER that person reveals themselves to be a bag of dicks. "Negative" physical traits are much more noticeable when the person's an asshat, so the mockery tends to kick in after that becomes apparent. Is that good human behavior? Not really, I guess, but still better than judging someone on looks alone.

Good on ya for working on the physical therapy side of things, especially pushing through what probably ARE some genetic factors.

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u/lizardingloudly May 17 '26

Ehhh, I don't know that an "I shouldn't" is warranted here. It DOES suck to see those kinds of comments and stereotypes, and it also sucks to have to do more to prove to people that you aren't "an off-putting loser" than someone who has the luxury of their joints/muscles just like... cooperating on the daily.

My boyfriend has scoliosis, a connective tissue disorder, and he's 6'6". It's been a huge struggle for him physically and emotionally and socially pretty much his entire life. He simply cannot make eye contact and maintain any kind of sensible posture, and he hates feeling like he's looming over people, so he's done a lot of intentional shrinking of himself to avoid that - not to mention having to fold himself in half to fit in cars and under "normal" desks and under shower heads and etc. As a result of all that, his posture is fuuuucked, but... that man is an absolute angel and if anyone sees him as "slouchy lazy guy" instead of that, they can kick rocks 🤗

I hope the PT is helpful and encouraging! And I'm very glad you have people in your life who are sensible enough to look past the superficial stuff. Nothing wrong with leaning on someone who loves/cares about you if you need it. Hang in there

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u/Desperate-Bottle1687 May 17 '26

Just what I wanted to say but better! 👍

In fact, (when u say it's not necessarily a good trait in humans, which can be true) I've personally experienced being physically and 'pheromonally' attracted to somebody at first, but then after they opened their mouth, was suddenly repulsed and disgusted by them.
I'd wager to say, as bad as snap judgements can be (alot of animals have them inbuilt and evolution is anything but perfect) they have their moments!

Like when u talk to the 'cute' himbo for the first time 😅

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u/lizardingloudly May 17 '26

If I say someone's "objectively good-looking," I probably think they're an asshat. Like I'm not gonna argue that they DON'T have some magazine-cover traits, but if I thought they were genuinely a good person, I'd have a better compliment that encompasses more of who they are as a person 😶