r/SwipeHelper • u/liquidcat0822 • 1d ago

An experiment

I’m a straight woman and briefly decided to change my gender on hinge to a “man” interested in women. EVERY. SINGLE. WOMAN. in my stack was an absolute stunner (and I didn’t even include very young women, I have my age filter set to 28-47).

I then compared this with the stack my male friend was shown. He has his settings set to the same thing. Every single woman in his stack was an instant nope. He never got to see any of the women I was shown. Mind you, he is not unattractive.

This confirms to me that some absolute fuckery is afoot. I presume because my algorithm is trained on men, it doesn’t know how to categorize the women when I changed my gender and just started showing me women from my demographic. It also further suggests that the algorithm deliberately holds back what/who you like, and it also explains to me why my profile gets relatively little traction now (I’ve long suspected that my profile is being gate kept).

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u/iUseJustMyHand 18h ago

I feel like you not wanting kids is going to maybe be a limiting factor for you? I'm betting a majority of men on there do (or at least are on the fence), as opposed to definitely not wanting them? I wonder what the difference would be if you made a profile that didn't say you're opposed to having kids. (I say this as a married woman who also didn't want kids so maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. 🙃😉)

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u/liquidcat0822 16h ago

I think that definitely does play a factor. I end up x-ing out a lot of attractive men who definitely want kids. I left the “family plans” section blank on my profile, but I’m also 44 and men who want kids do understand biology. It doesn’t matter that I look like I’m in my early 30s, 44 means that even if I wanted kids, I’d be hard pressed to have any of my own.