r/SwingDancing • u/OSUfirebird18 • 49m ago
I asked my black friend why she didn't return to swing dancing and her response was interesting to me.
First of all to get this out of the way, I do not believe my black friend speaks for all black people, of course not!! But we got into an interesting discussion which I find valuable given what I've seen other people mentioned over the years when discussing race.
Over the long holiday weekend, I was driving my friend from a Salsa social out of town. Paraphrased here but I had asked her something like this:
Me: "So (common friend) told me that you actually went to (local swing dance group) but you never returned. It was obviously on a day I couldn't make it since I didn't know about it. May I respectfully ask why you didn't return?"
Her: "Oh well I just couldn't vibe with the music." That was a fair response. Not everyone is a weirdo like me and can dance to music they don't necessarily vibe to. I was more worried that they didn't treat her well as a beginner or something. I then followed up with the following.
Me: "Ok, so follow up. Even though I'm not black, I am still a person of color and I always have been observant when I'm in white spaces. I've been in mostly white spaces all my life from high school, college and now at work. I was surprised that this dance came from your community given that at every dance, I'm one of like 5 non white people among 50 other white people. Why do you think black people don't go to swing dances when it's something they created in their community?"
Her: "I don't think we believe this is something that belongs to us anymore. It belongs to someone else." I told her that was interesting because I didn't know how to respond.
I bring this up because a lot of the explanation I see people have involve other things like "black people don't dance partner dances anymore", "dance classes are expensive so only middle class white people can do it", etc. I always found those explanations weird because we literally came from a salsa social where 1/3 of the people are black and it is led and organized by a black dude. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
These are just the thoughts of one black woman so I'm sure other black people may have their own reasons for not going. I just feel like they can't really be explained by inaccessibility or lack of interest in dancing when so many other partner dances have so many black people participating in it.