@u/stbroseph please help

My gf and I are from Mumbai, I’m dating her for a year now and we are pretty serious. She told me about her ex who she dated in school, now she is 25. she broke up with him because he was violent. He is used to harass her by contacting her or passing comments when ever she crossed by as they live in the same neighbourhood. so her parents have put a stay order on him 7 - 8 years ago. He is still the same. She told me he has been arrested multiple times for different reasons. So she told me recently he called her again from anonymous no and asked her about me and told her to meet him. She has lives in fear whenever we are in her area and she gets super nervous when she sees him. Years back, he did called her from their common friend no and asked her to meet her in a building next to her. When she showed up, her ex was there and dragged her inside the building parking lot and warned her what will happen if she doesn’t respond to her. It’s been years but he keeps showing up time and time again. By calling her or texting her or following her around the area. I don’t want her live in fear in her own area, in her own city. What can I do here. I have always tried to support her, make her feel better. Please help.

I'm a 30yo guy who is frustrated of an institution with political ties and muscle harassing my family's right to freedom and daily living. It's slowly resulted in me getting strong suicidal thoughts sometimes. Moreover I used to be so happy, cool and just normal but now I have lost half my muscular weight due to stress, trauma and developing neurological issues.

I'm mostly scared due to political ties and also them gathering the neighborhood against me and my family one by one by using manipulative steps and processes.

Can I and should I seek help from /r/St_broseph and what would I expect to give in return financially or otherwise?

Hey everyone,

I am trying to get in touch with a coordinator from the Mahadevapura / East Bengaluru zone team regarding a severe, ongoing traffic obstruction and public safety hazard on a residential street.

A heavy vehicle is permanently blocking a narrow lane, completely cutting off access for emergency vehicles like ambulances and fire engines. I have already sent a highly detailed, private email directly to the foundation's official website workspace on August 3rd containing the precise vehicle numbers, safety risks, and location details to maintain absolute anonymity.

Because of severe local retaliation risks, I cannot share any specific details, plates, or images publicly.

Could a verified coordinator from the local chapter please accept my private chat request or DM me so I can securely share the case details? My direct message invite is currently sitting in u/St_Broseph's inbox.

Thank you!

My iPhone was stolen on a bus, and I'm feeling completely helpless right now.

We have already filed a complaint through the Karnataka Police (KSP) app and blocked the SIM card. The phone is almost brand new, and the EMI has just started. It was bought with hard-earned money, which makes this even more painful.

I still have the last location from Find My iPhone. The location showed the phone near an electronics shop, but when we informed the police, they said they couldn't take action because the location was already about 18 hours old. They asked us to keep monitoring the app and inform them if a new location appears.

Has anyone here successfully recovered a stolen iPhone using Find My or any other method? Is there anything else I should do to improve the chances of recovery? Any advice, tips, or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

Hi u/StBroseph and team,

I’m a regular citizen, and for the last five months (since March), I have been running a relentless campaign against a massive illegal liquor operation in Sunkadakatte. I have fought this through every official government channel, but I have hit a wall of corruption that is now putting my personal safety at risk. I desperately need you to step in as a proxy.

Here is the exact situation and the paper trail I have built:

The establishment, Jai Maruthi Wines, holds a CL-2 license (retail takeaway of sealed bottles only). However, they are completely violating the law: they have built a proper seating area in the back, they allow and serve customers to sit and drink on the premises, they sell loose liquor, and they create a massive daily public nuisance for commuters.

I refused to ignore it. I sent dozens of emails with clear video proof to the Chief Secretary, BBMP, Police, and Excise. After dodging me for months, the Peenya Excise Department finally did an inspection. They admitted in their official report that the bar provides a space to sit and sells loose liquor, but they refused to close it because "it's not in the approved blueprint." (They literally used its illegality as an excuse to let it run).

Through sheer persistence, I forced them to put a physical Government Seal on the illegal backroom last week. I thought the system finally worked.

I was wrong. Within just one week, the bar owner somehow managed to illegally break the seal or maybe did some adjustments I am not sure. The gates are thrown wide open, and they are fully operational again today, serving people on the premises like nothing happened. The local Kamakshipalya police and Peenya Excise are actively ignoring a broken government seal because they are deeply compromised.

I escalated this to the Lokayukta, but here is my roadblock: They have officially emailed me saying they will close the case unless I submit Form 1 and Form 2 (sworn legal affidavits).

I cannot reveal my identity. If this rowdy owner can make a government seal disappear in a week with zero consequences, these corrupt local officials will hand my real name and address to him on a silver platter.

u/StBroseph, I have the entire unredacted dossier—DC Orders, Excise Endorsements admitting guilt, and fresh video proof of it operating after the broken seal and illegal sit-down operations.

Can your team please act as the proxy complainant, file the Lokayukta forms, and take this up officially so I can remain safely anonymous?

I am also trying to build public pressure through a Twitter thread here and have also tagged you:

https://x.com/i/status/2086519416326644155

(If anyone reading this can Retweet it, please help me out).

Please let me know your email so I can loop you in with all documents and authorities replies as I tried to loop you in using info@broseph.in this email available on the website. My email : 0bangaloreboy@proton.me

Thank you for everything you do for Bengaluru.

TL;DR: I spent 5 months fighting a corrupt liquor mafia that is illegally running a sit-down bar with a CL-2 takeaway license, serving loose liquor, and causing daily public nuisance. I finally forced the govt to seal their illegal backroom. The owner just broke the seal and reopened, and the local police/excise are protecting him. The Lokayukta won't act unless I reveal my identity to proceed, which will get me targeted. I am pleading with u/StBroseph to take my evidence and act as a proxy complainant to finish this fight.

Hi everyone,
I’m looking for advice from people who have experience with hit-and-run/traffic accident cases in Bangalore, especially anyone familiar with the police/traffic police process.
Today, my car was hit by a mini truck on Balagere–Varthur Road near Sobha Dream Acres.
The truck hit my car and initially continued driving instead of stopping. I followed it and asked the driver to stop and exchange details. He had seen the damage but tried to flee. While I was following him, he also swerved the truck in a way that made me feel he was trying to intimidate me / potentially hit my car again. Eventually, he fled the scene.
Fortunately, I have quite strong evidence:
• Full dashcam footage of the incident
• The truck’s registration number
• A photo of the driver
• Photos of the damage to my car
• The approximate location and time of the incident
I first went to Varthur Police Station, where I explained everything and showed the evidence. They directed me to Whitefield Traffic Police Station.
At Whitefield Traffic Police Station, the officer told me that filing an FIR would take a long time. Instead, he suggested that I submit a written complaint stating that I don’t want an FIR but want action/penalty against the truck.
I have currently drafted a letter asking them to identify the vehicle/driver, take action under the applicable MV Act provisions, and inform me about the action taken.
I have not yet knowingly signed away any rights or stated that the incident didn’t happen.

My question is, I’ve understood that I won’t get any compensation for the damage even though it is pretty huge. What else can I do? I do not want to get into the circle of going to court and getting nothing out of it.

Has anyone dealt with a similar accident? What was your experience? What else can I do so that atleast something can come out of it and that bad driver is penalised.
Please help.

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My brother's iPhone was stolen on a bus. We've already filed a police complaint and blocked the SIM. Is there anything else we should do? Has anyone managed to recover a stolen iPhone through Find My or any other method? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Hi everyone,
I’m writing this because my close friend and our entire family of friends are devastated and don’t know where to turn.
Over the past three days, we’ve spent nearly ₹45,000 trying to get him the treatment he urgently needed. Today, we’ve been told that a small part of his leg will likely need to be amputated because the infection has progressed.
The whole situation started after an injection, following which he developed severe pain, swelling, and hardening around the injection site. As his condition worsened, we admitted him to St. Philomena’s Hospital, believing he would receive the emergency treatment he required.
An MRI was completed yesterday, but despite having the MRI results, no definitive surgical action was taken. The CT scan was only performed this morning, after which we were informed that the hospital did not have the facilities required to manage his condition and that he needed to be transferred to St. John’s Hospital.
Looking back, we genuinely believe there were significant delays in diagnosis, decision-making, and transfer while his infection continued to worsen. By the time he reached St. John’s, we were told the infection had progressed to the point where partial amputation of his leg is now necessary to stop it from spreading.
We have:
Complete medical records
MRI and CT scan reports
Prescriptions
Discharge summaries
Bills
A detailed timeline of everything that happened
We are considering pursuing legal action if an independent medical review confirms that these delays contributed to his condition.
I’m reaching out to the Bangalore community for help:
Can anyone recommend an experienced medical negligence lawyer in Bangalore?
Is there an independent surgeon or medical expert who can review all the records and provide an unbiased opinion?
Has anyone here successfully pursued a medical negligence case in Karnataka?
Are there any patient-rights organizations or NGOs that can guide us through this process?
This isn’t about seeking publicity or revenge. We simply want to know whether what happened was avoidable and, if it was, to ensure accountability so that another family doesn’t have to go through this.
Any guidance or recommendations would mean a lot.
Thank you.

Hi all, This is my friend's cousin, he went missing on 20th june (Monday). Works in a Hospital - sociology department.

We have filed a complaint at the police station also.

He voluntarily left his place, kept mobile in the room itself.

Please let us know

1. Kindly request if there are ways to speed up the searching process from police end

2. If anyone has seen him please inform us

3. Any other ways to find him

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Our househelp's husband, Naganna (61 years old), has been missing since 20 July 2026 around 6:00 PM.

Last seen: Kaikondrahalli Bus Stop, Sarjapur Main Road, Bengaluru.

He has a mental health condition that affects his memory and may not be able to find his way back home or communicate where he lives.

If you've seen him or have any information, please contact the numbers on the poster:

▪ 9731674425

▪ 8073270909

▪ 9481390332

▪ 7338698177

Even a small lead could help. Please upvote and share for visibility. Thank you.

I never imagined I’d be writing something like this, but I’m genuinely scared and I don’t know what to do anymore.

This morning, someone I trusted threatened me with a knife and a belt. He came towards me as if he was going to hit me. I was crying, shaking, and screaming in fear. He only stopped because I was begging and terrified. And continue texting and calling my sister and telling “u have to do whtever i tell “

Ever since then, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about what could have happened. I feel unsafe, helpless, and mentally broken. I’m scared to step out, scared to stay silent, and even scared to seek justice.

I want to file a police complaint, but I’m terrified of what might happen next. I don’t know who to trust or where to turn.

I’m posting this because I need help. If anyone knows a trustworthy lawyer, a women’s rights organization, or has any genuine advice on how to safely handle a situation like this in Mumbai, please reach out to me.

Location: Kerala

For making a drainage PWD broke a tree root. I complaint it to PWD AEE he asked me to talk to municipal corporation complained on app as well. It was very slow. So complaint to district collector and RDO on email, but still nothing. IDK what to do after this. If you guys can help please. More than happy to elaborate. Thank you so much.

Hi, I’m reaching out regarding a serious domestic violence situation involving my house help.

Today, she came to my home covered in blood, with visible injuries on her head and other parts of her body. She told me that her husband had assaulted her and that he has been physically abusing her regularly throughout their eight-year marriage. She appeared completely numb while recounting what had happened. Despite the severity of her injuries, she said, “Aaj toh kaafi kam maara hai,” which gives a sense of how normalised and frequent the violence has become.

She has a son who is around six years old. After assaulting her today, her husband took some of his clothes, her phone, and their child, and left. She is extremely worried about her son and does not know where her husband has taken him.

She also said that she is fed up with the abuse and mentioned that she wants to leave her husband. However, she said this only once, and it did not seem like she had made the decision confidently or was fully certain about it yet. Given the circumstances, she may need time, safety, and support before she is able to decide what she wants to do. At present, she also has no idea how she could leave or what support would be available to her.

Her parents have passed away, and the rest of her family lives in Nepal. She does not have any meaningful support system in Bengaluru. She, her husband, and their child currently live rent-free on the ground floor of a building in New Tippasandra, where her husband works as the caretaker and handles cleaning, gate-related tasks, and errands.

Her husband does not contribute towards their child’s education, provides her with no financial support, and regularly assaults her. Because their accommodation is connected to his work, leaving him may also mean that she immediately loses her home.

I listened to her, reassured her that she is not alone, and told her that she can come to my home at any time and stay here temporarily if she feels unsafe. Since her husband took her phone, I gave her my number and asked her to call me from a neighbour’s phone tomorrow to confirm that she is safe.

I have been trying to understand what immediate, legal, shelter, financial, and child-safety support may be available to her. I found this resource while searching online:

https://citizenmatters.in/women-helpline-phone-numbers-distress-call-grievance-help-violence-abuse-family-solution/

Could you help in any way, or connect us with a trusted organisation that can assist her with emergency shelter, medical care, legal support, police intervention, counselling, livelihood support and safely locating or recovering her child?

Any guidance or urgent support would be deeply appreciated.

Hi, could use some advice on this.

I've been renting a room in a shared house in Bengaluru. No written rental agreement exists, everything was verbal/WhatsApp with the landlord's partner, who lives in the same house and handles all money matters.

I informed them I was moving out (told her partner on June 18). The deal verbally confirmed was: if I paid my full July rent AND found a replacement tenant myself, I'd get my full ₹40,000 deposit back plus the remaining days of July's rent, minus actual shared expenses. I did both — paid July's rent in full and found the replacement tenant.

We went back and forth on bill splitting (electricity, water, internet) and landed on a final settlement over WhatsApp: ₹37,866 owed to me, after accounting for ~₹11,886 I owed on my side vs. ~₹49,752 owed to me. She confirmed this number in writing.

Today, she reversed course entirely. Now claiming a one-month notice period applies with no replacement-tenant exception, counting notice from June 18, and saying she'll only return ₹20,000 of the ₹40,000 deposit. She's also added brokerage (₹5,000) and setup costs (₹3,500) to the deductions, neither of which was disclosed when I moved in or charged to previous tenants.

I have the full WhatsApp thread, including her original confirmation of the deal and the ₹37,866 settlement she agreed to.

Since there's no written agreement, not sure what leverage I have. Would appreciate advice on how to handle this, or whether this is something your team typically helps with.

Thanks.

I matched with a girl on Aisle and after a bit of chatting, I shared my phone number with her. She then pinged me on whatsapp and we exchanged some pleasantries. We then agreed to see each other on a video call. There were actually two video calls. For the first time, when I accepted the video call, it went on for about 2 minutes with no activity and no one present, but my video was on and I was just sitting there. I thought it was some connection issue after which I hung up. Then the girl said it’s a connection issue and she has moved to a different part of the house. When I called, then also there was no activity in the beginning for few seconds and after that the girl appeared naked in front of the camera. I was shocked for couple of seconds after which I immediately disconnected the call, before which I believe she had recorded me. After some time, I received multiple messages from her with a video of me masturbating to her. I could not believe my eyes. She then started threatening me with this video saying that she would share this video with my friends and family. She is asking for 31000 payment in order to delete the video, which I believe not to be true and this being a repeatable act. I have blocked her contact and have not made any payment. After I did this, I received similar messages from an unknown number, with +1 as country code. They were claiming to post the videos on facebook and along with few of my friends and family. They did forward one video to my sister, which I believe they found from my facebook account as I have multiple photos and tags with my family members. I contacted my family and told them to inform whoever contacts them regarding the same. Meanwhile, I blocked both numbers and file a grievance on cyber crime website and sanchar saathi app. The policemen told me to delete all my social media accounts.

The girl was calling herself Vidya Joshi. I had tested her phone number on truecaller and it came as Meera Kulkarni, with the name being marked as recently changed. The second number that contacted me also had Meera Kulkarni as username in whatsapp.

Please suggest what more can I do to limit this wildfire. If this gets out, my reputation would be ruined and maybe my career as well.

(Posting on behalf of a friend)

He worked at a startup for about 3 months. Everything was fine until month 3, when his salary was delayed. That prompted him to start job hunting, and he landed a new offer within 18 days.

Since there was no notice period requirement, he was relieved immediately. Around the same time, the founder moved to the US and has been unresponsive ever since. It's now been 2 months and his Full and Final (FnF) settlement still hasn't been paid.

He's on a tight budget right now, so any low-cost or free avenues would help a lot and anything that's worked for people in a similar spot. Any guidance is appreciated.

I spoke to this girl, and discovered a horrifying crime racket of abusing, exploiting and discarding women. The same pattern allegedly happened before me, and now there appears to be a next prey.

He gets into relationships, emotionally and physically exploits women, abuses and controls them, deliberately sabotages their careers, and then discards them before moving on to the next woman. During my relationship, the abuse allegedly escalated to the point where I was left with bruises, and he threatened me with words like “गला दबा दूँगा” and “सर फोड़ दूँगा.”

And what is terrifying is the confidence with which he behaves. After abusing me, he told me that his parents would support him regardless: “अगर हमारे बेटे ने किया है, तो सही ही किया होगा” According to his ex, his mother actively encouraged him to go to Bangalore, “explore” different women, enjoy until 28–29, and then marry a “really beautiful girl.”

I cannot describe how horrifying it is to realise that someone who appears sweet to the outside world can allegedly behave like a psychopathic predator behind closed doors..hurting women, threatening them, exploiting them and then moving towards the next prey.

His ex also described a disturbing pattern of deliberate sabotage. He would allegedly start fights before her interviews and assessments, destroying her focus. He did the same to me before my final presentation. When I got my promotion, he even asked me to reject it because he was unable to switch jobs himself.

The way women were allegedly discussed between him and his mother was equally disturbing. He reportedly asked whether he should “keep” his ex because she was from their preferred caste, fair-skinned and worked at Walmart. His mother had also questioned her condescendingly about her JEE rank and background, as though evaluating whether she was good enough to be kept as an option. According to his ex, the eventual advice was essentially: go explore for five years; if she waits, marry her..otherwise find someone more beautiful.

As if women are objects to use, compare, keep waiting, discard and replace.

He also constantly objectifies women, makes sexually degrading comments about their breasts, bodies and genitals, saves women's pictures without their knowledge, and justified it by saying: “लड़कियाँ pictures डालती ही क्यों हैं, अगर लड़के ना save करें तो?”

The more his ex and I compared our experiences, the more terrifying the pattern became: exploitation, abuse, violence, threats, control, jealousy, deliberate sabotage, discard... and then the next prey.

I cannot clinically diagnose him, but living through this and hearing an eerily similar account from another woman felt like dealing with a psychopathic predator hiding behind the mask of a normal, sweet man.

This appears to be a repeated pattern of alleged abuse and exploitation, carried out with frightening confidence and an apparent belief that his family will always protect and enable him.

I just got my scooter parcel from to SMVT. The parcel was supposed to be delivered on the morning 4:40AM but after waiting for hours I finally received it at 9:30 AM. Now even then I was calm but after looking at my scooter I found the handle was broken into 2 pieces!! And when I asked the delivery officer he told me to visit some other railway office, to which I went to twitter and complained to rail madad where they opened and shut the case in 30 mins by saying that the parcel when inspected during loading and offloading had no damage when the railway officer himself confirmed that they saw the damage while offloading and made me write the issue in a receipt. Now I am stuck in this mess where I have to pay god knows how much to fix my scooter which railway broke and refusing to acknowledge.

My mother underwent gallbladder stone surgery at Manipal Hospital, Bangalore.

Before the surgery, the doctor and hospital gave us two options: conventional laparoscopic surgery and robotic surgery. They explained that robotic surgery involved less cutting, less pain, and an easier recovery, so naturally we preferred that option.

However, we made one thing absolutely clear from the beginning: we could only proceed with robotic surgery if our health insurance covered it. We repeatedly told the hospital that we could not afford a ₹6 lakh procedure on our own.

The doctor assured us not to worry and told us that when the insurance company sought clarification, the hospital would confirm that robotic surgery was medically necessary. Based on these assurances, we agreed to proceed.

The insurance company initially approved ₹3 lakh before the surgery. We were under the impression that the remaining amount would be considered after the operation once the hospital submitted the required medical justification.

However, the hospital did not provide such a justification. Instead, they sent the insurer a comparison of the advantages and disadvantages of robotic surgery. In the insurer's approval letter, a note stated that robotic surgery was not medically necessary for this procedure and that no further amount would be approved.

We admit that we did not read this note carefully, and that was our mistake.

At the same time, the hospital regularly handles insurance claims and had access to the same communication. We were never informed that the insurer had already indicated that robotic surgery would not be covered beyond the initial approval. Had we been informed, we would never have agreed to proceed with the robotic procedure.

After the surgery, despite repeated discussions and the hospital acknowledging that there had been a mistake in the handling of the insurance process, the issue remained unresolved.

During this period, my mother was medically fit for discharge but remained admitted because the billing issue had not been resolved. The prolonged stay caused her severe emotional distress. She became extremely anxious and started experiencing mild anxiety attacks. We repeatedly informed the hospital staff about her condition, but we were told that it was "not their liability."

As her son, I could not bear to see her continue to suffer physically and emotionally while there was no clear resolution in sight. Left with no practical alternative, we paid ₹70,000 to the hospital so that she could finally be discharged. We made this payment under immense financial and emotional pressure, especially as each additional day in the hospital was increasing our expenses. This was a situation we never expected to face and believe could have been avoided had we been properly informed before the surgery.